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What to do when we begin to lose motivation for what we do, for what are working hard or await?
"What can you do today, do not leave for tomorrow," the quote is that you have probably all heard, but there are few who adhere to the message.
How to distinguish a brief crisis of real depression? If the sadness arises without any reason, will not stop, he returned for no reason, if a person can not relax, absorbed the black thoughts, no power and will mingle with the people, there is no power to stand up out of bed, it is probably depression.
It is easy to make lists and daydream about the changes, but when you need to start working on self-motivation is what is never enough
Low intensity and discontinuity of work on it the basic problem that many people may feel that their hard work does not provide sufficient results. Although this is a seemingly simple problem and it seems to be the solution need only 'a bit of discipline', are often present and subtle, unconscious levels of problems that may be one or more of the following:
- Fear of dealing with unpleasant or unknown parts of ourselves
- Unconscious fear of children's sections us of compromising relationships with important people, considering that the original purpose of many limiting beliefs she held these relations
- Fear of change and the unknown
- Rebellious feelings for which any form of discipline we can feel somewhat hostile and imposed, which is usually related to previous experiences of discipline
- A lifestyle in which the rational forcing a certain schedule, instead of following your natural rhythms and messages of your feelings, which naturally intensifies repression and resistance
- Unconscious attachment to suffering
To restore motivation, follow these four steps of self-motivation:
1. DESIRE
- To be motivated, it is necessary to have an intense desire for achievement of the desired or avoiding unwanted. If you do not know what you want, others will know and it will be up to them, and you'll be unhappy. On the other hand, if you do not know what you have and what you lose, you will not be happy, because you are not grateful.Determine what you want, you deserve to do. Decide to live in accordance with these values, either on this or any other workplace.
2. DISCIPLINE
- The success requires persistence. In other words, you need to be committed to their goal despite the obstacles, because when you fight for something, you always have to give up something.Everything has a price, usually in cash, but too often forget the price of effort, time, emotions and relationships. It is extremely important to raise awareness and be prepared to pay the price target if the goal is valuable enough.
3. DECISION
- Is there a difference between interest and loyalty to something?Desire without action is like an empty prayer. You need to take responsibility not only for their own behavior, but also for the thoughts and feelings.
Focus on what is under your control and make a conscious and firm decision on what you fight and you will no longer accept from now until the fulfillment of the target.
4. FOCUS AND DIRECTION
- Focus on the positive, the solutions, possibilities and potentials, to what you want and look at mistakes as lessons. All the time you need to be focused on the goal, to find the right strategy, measure the results and be flexible and change strategy. Nothing is hard to do if you know why you're giving up candy and tomorrow you'll get a box of chocolates.
Some other tips to be better motivated and achieve your goals:
Set time limits
The exact date and time when something you need to do reduce procrastination.
Make a list of completed tasks
Add to the list every task you perform during the day, no matter how small did. This will give you extra motivation to expand the list of "already done".
Be precise in planning
Never as an obligation on the list of put "house cleaning". It is much better to specify what you plan to do in the house and in what time frame.
Determine the exact time for a task that can not wait
In his daily schedule accurately determine an hour to deal with some particularly important task. This way you will prevent blockage of thought because of the accumulated liability that you regularly slows down and reduces the concentration.
Depression is something else
This is a serious disease that significantly impairs daily life. She, as has been said, is not a transient mood or sadness in response to life's difficulties. If the sadness arises without any reason, will not stop, he returned for no reason, if a person can not relax, absorbed the black thoughts, no power and will hang out with people and so on. It's depression.
Depression is a disease that must be cured.
The first group of symptoms is related to the decline in mood. Depressed man is dejected and tormented by "black thoughts", which means it has a dark and negative view of the world.
The second group was a blockade. Blockage occurs in all areas of life. Interpersonal relationships, emotions, business environment ... is characterized by the closure, withdrawal, isolation and complete withdrawal from all social activities, responsibilities and entertainment.
The third group are the moral suffering. The point is that depressed man suffers because of his condition, which is well aware of. He falls into a position where it is considered not worth living, in which the expressed feelings of guilt and often is confident that the team will not get away.
At any time, we have two options: take a step forward in suspense and develop or step back in safety