Many believe they are sacrificing themselves for others. I often hear that people give a lot yet get little. This demonstrates they don't understand true gifts. A genuine donation is done without expectation and for pleasure.
A present shouldn't depend on the recipient's enjoyment. Someone may not like what you give them. Instead of being disappointed, realise that he should have considered what would have made him happy.
Remember that giving does not imply generosity. However, true generosity requires true gifts. Dissatisfied givers often think they're more generous. Do you consider yourself generous? The basis of your recognition?
Giving gifts or money makes most people think a person is generous. Others give time, guidance, presence, or do good actions. Is this generosity? Is it love, recognition, being a nice person, or receiving something? Remember: true generosity requires no love, recognition, time, or anything else.
When those who help, counsel, or support others need money or help, their loved ones' rejection is hurtful. Their expectations are not met, which disappoints them.
Expectations make you do things out of fear or guilt, not generosity. Let the other person know what you anticipate in return. Take time to negotiate and remember these are transactions, not donations.
Learning to form agreements is smart. Agreements are smart, practical agreements like service exchanges.
When you realise you have an expectation after a donation, discuss it. This will help you avoid emotions when the other person doesn't act as you want.
We give as much as we receive. When you like giving, you feel others' joy.
Some people offer a lot yet have trouble receiving. They are often uncomfortable because they don't think they deserve what's presented. These people are also fake donors. For what? Because giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin.
Do you have trouble receiving? If so, have you realised that you deprive others of bringing joy?
Rejection and unfairness cause giving and receiving issues. The ego hinders giving and receiving for pleasure without expectations.
Two instances can assist you identify giving for receiving:
Imagine sending someone birthday gifts for years and they never remember your birthday. Will you keep offering them to him happily? Will you eventually stop giving him it?
Imagine helping a friend through tough times with a lot of time. You searched far and wide for time despite not having any. You ask a buddy who is feeling better for a favour, but she says she doesn't have time.
Universe is ruled by divine justice. Remembering this helps us that we don't need expectations. Our joy of giving can be maintained without worrying about how, when, or from whom we will receive. UNIVERSE CARES FOR US.