Lack of communication is a major relationship issue. Communication issues are crucial, especially in emotional relationships. They may argue even if they love each other. However, if you feel deep down that you and your partner have insurmountable differences, something may be wrong.
If it is difficult for you to talk about difficult, painful, emotional things; if you choose not to bring up a problem because you do not want to be a "troublemaker"; if you stay silent because you do not know how your partner will react; or if you do not try to talk because you think you know what your partner will say, you may not be communicating healthily.
Our post should help you improve your relationships and overcome communication issues.
In your upbringing, you may not have expressed your emotions and views. You were not seen crying or your tears were not acknowledged.
In such an atmosphere, people learn expressible and inexpressible emotions. Thus, he follows these lessons in his interactions.
The contrary is conceivable. You grew up in your own environment, but your partner may have been emotionally distant. When you weep, get upset, or get furious, he or she may not know what to do and cannot act.
Both cases make you feel detached from your lover.
However, you or your spouse may be communicating your sentiments ineffectively. Growing up, we learn to articulate our emotions. You may not have enough expressions in this scenario.
If someone thinks anger can only be communicated by shouting, they may shout immediately when irritated. If a person has learnt to sulk – ‘trip’ – when angry with their partner, they will do so even if it is dysfunctional.
You may not know what your spouse can and cannot alter, which might hinder healthy communication. Getting anything from your partner that they don't have is unlikely to meet your expectations.
However, if you don't address your spouse's unsuitable behaviour and control, thinking "He/she will not change!" you won't get anywhere.
Make sure you and your partner are ready to discuss and listen when scheduling your conversation. If your partner doesn't listen when you explain, they won't understand. Schedule the correct moment.
Don't assume 'He won't change'. This will make you feel powerless. Open out about everything. He can't read minds!
Blaming someone won't solve your problem. When you blame your spouse, it makes it harder for him/her to accept the situation, grasp what you're saying, and behave as you wish. Avoid blaming and judgement in interactions.
Review your past communication approaches. Which ones do you keep utilising despite their ineffectiveness? Non-reaching, pointless measures cannot save your relationship. Simply told, anger is not communication.
You only need to say what you want to say. You can't control your partner. You can only say it; they must change their behaviour. Sometimes talking doesn't work either. Find ways to sustain yourself if you can't reach your partner.
Know that love is immune to many things. Remember that fighting doesn't hurt your relationship. Keep miscommunication from poisoning your love.