Hello Discordant.
I will share what I gathered from your post.
Your culture to me to understand is very difficult. I can only expect to observe it from your post,which is a good opportunity and educational.
I must observe you are very unabashed and write well in the post which is littered with good facts and unsentimental for most part.
You were reckless in youth.
You made a woman a mother.
Your Maa pushed you to show responsibility towards the mother.
You persuaded the mother of your child to keep the child.
A daughter was born to you and the mother.
You both chose to give up child for adoption.
The child is living and healthy.
A few questions crop up and they are intrusive but since you welcome them .
Was it possible for your families jointly to raise the child till you both were 'of major age' able to take responsibility?
Would you have considered marrying the mother of your child?
A few notes:
It wasn't unsentimental to me, it just isn't something you can express in words.
I was responsible not because my mother pushed me to be, but because it is who I am.
We made the decision to not have an abortion and to accept adoption together.
As to the questions:
No, even with our families help this would not have provided the same quality of life for our daughter that she could get with another family.
We were both too young to be married. Even were it not a legal complication, we had already made one bad choice. There would be no sense in making another than permanently attaching ourselves to the other at an age where we weren't even the people we would eventually grow up to be.
One doesn't follow up a bad choice with another bad idea.
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