I can’t save everyone.....

in life •  7 years ago 

Ever since I can remember, I’ve wanted to save everyone and everything. I feel other’s emotions, suffering, joy and just want to make things better. I’ve come to realise though, not everyone can be saved.

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There is a person in my life right now that, despite my better judgement, I reached out to after seeing them upset. I’ve supported them, given them advice and all it’s achieved is me feeling drained.

At the end of the day, anything that costs you your own peace isn’t worth it and sadly, this person isn’t worth it. They don’t want to or aren’t ready to save themselves.

Doesn’t change who I am and that I want to help people, I think I’ll always have that in me but as for this person, it’s time to walk away. That in itself is a massive change for me and shows I’ve started to value myself above all else, something I haven’t always done for fear of being selfish. It’s a different kind of selfish though and definitely necessary.

So to this person, I wish nothing them but the best and will more than likely still be there when they decide they’re ready, but for now I’m stepping back and focusing on me.

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upvoted and following You now,
been there done that!

I do SO recognize Your story and to be honest the problem is implicit in our selves,
this is who we are.
Maybe You already know but you are an empath.
It means You are a very sensitive person with a radar for other peoples emotions,
it goes automatic (without the bleep sound) that you pick up how strangers feel.
There are many groups on facebook for people who are emphatic to clairvoyant.
The tricks to deal with emotional vampires who drain your energy feeding off you
is to

  1. time refrain them, only deal with them for a set time.
  2. define your space, choose when to be in the room with them.
  3. know You can lead a starving horse to water, but you can not force them to drink.
  4. before hurting yourself getting cramps, dark feelings or migraine learn to use your
    love for yourself by finding a way of meditation that fits You.
  5. maybe turn your ability into a (partime) profession asking an hourly rate at least
    the emotional vampire is not draining your wallet then.

sending You love and light,
Nic.

Thanks for your comments and suggestions :) I definitely identify as an empath. I need to set boundaries so that I’m not emotionally drained everytime I’m around certain people.