Instant gratification habits and how to stop or not waste your life with them

Many people have made instant gratification or masturbating mentally a way of life. They are in the habit of experiencing the best of life, having so much money or some supernatural power, get and have sex with the most beautiful girl, becoming a super hero all in their head. The entertainment industry, media and internet have done a lot to fulfill these fantasies in these people. But after the songs, movies and series, music video, games stop - reality sets in. They have accomplished nothing but wasting their lives away in fantasy and entertainment. Living this way leads to a life of not taking actions, a life mediocre at best. It is okay to daydream but to get the best of life you constantly day dream or fantasized about, you must constantly take actions leading to that dream - that is the only sure way i know dream can turn to reality. ACTION.

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People escape the harsh reality of their lives with artificial stuffs like technology and drugs. If you found yourself so engrossed and devoted to movies, series, computer games, Facebook and others, YouTube videos, porn. All these are like seeking the easy way out. Trying to enjoy the feelings that come with getting off your butts and doing something to get the good life you really desire. These habits help you fill the hollow for a while and then you are back to reality. With taking actions comes reward - reward of a good life, great relationship, sex, great feelings and so on. A time and life waster will not get out of the house and do what is required to get that girl but result to porn and masturbation as a easy way out which is just an instant gratification that will not stop him from feeling hollow after some moments. Others fill their needs of social circle with social media, happiness and excitement with drugs, games to fill the need of achievements, alcohol to fill the need of confidence and so on.

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Common habits of life wasters

The first common habit of instant gratification that leads to wasting of your life is movies, series and TV shows.A lot of people have actually built a career of movies and series, they have watched and can analysed all the old and new movies and series.

The only way i know movies can be productive for you is if you are part of the crew that made it but if not, i don't know how wasting your time on fictional characters help you achieve you own dream or make something good out of your life. You need to start making your own movie, and by that i don't mean become an actor. Start living life, taking actions, meeting new people, talk to that girl, talk to that sponsor, start that business, hit the road, do the exercise. Turn your life to a movie, do what you have to do to live the life you like seeing on the screen. And you cannot do that by constantly wasting time on some fictional characters.

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The Second one here is porn and masturbation. As stated in this post, one of things we dread most as human is rejection. For people that are so addicted porn and masturbation, it is a way of escape from going to meet the opposite sex and getting rejected.

They don't require any social skill, getting out of your room and summoning courage to talk to a lady or a guy. All you need is a gadget and the internet - easy way out, right? Walk out of your house for an hour, you will probably meet tens or hundreds of desirable guy or lady that you can talk to. It is better to get rejected than live a life of fake organisms everyday. You see any girl you like at the bus stop or the mall or wherever, walk up and talk to her. Any rejection at all won't make you less of a man or a woman. You need to form the habit of keep knocking or asking after rejections and never let rejection get to you.

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Spending a lot time playing video games. Been addicted to video games is a easy way of getting that sense of achievements you are not getting in reality.

But instead of wasting time and life away on things that probably add no value to your life, you can learn a new skill or new sport, start a new business, real life adventure. Video games gives your brain easy and false sense of achievement making it 'think' you are doing and achieving something good and productive making it release dopamine as a reward. Dopamine is a kind of feel good chemical your brain releases the reward you for a job well done. Meanwhile in the case of breaking all barriers and attain a high level in video games, you have actually accomplished nothing. Let your brain reward you with limited dopamine for real achievements.

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Consuming and engrossing yourself in irrelevant information. The internet especially is loaded with information for all - beyond anybody's imagination. As beneficial as the internet is, it can can also be 'dangerous' in the sense of consuming useless information often and often again.

Most websites now have clickbaits to take you away on a journey of no return from one website to another. It is important therefore to control your information intakes especially on the internet. I will always preferred reading books to get information when i can because the internet is full of distraction and it is easy to get distracted with it

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Conclusion
The key message of this post is for you to take real actions to achieve your dreams. Some of the things mentioned (again, not all) are actually a good way to unwind after doing what you have to do everyday to make your life better. They become problems when you turn them into habits. Again, we achieve nothing without actions.
You can read and study many theories but they will not serve their purposes unless you act on them. A lot read theories after theories, books after books without acting on the last ones they read because they are actually scared of taking actions.
It is time to replace all these instant gratification habits and other vices that give you easy escape from the harsh reality of your life with their equivalent activities in reality.

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Thank you for reading.

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