Time Escapes All of Us • Sharing Some Thoughts, Coping w/ Death of a Loved One & a bonus photo of @grow-pro as a kidsteemCreated with Sketch.

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)

In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.

Benjamin Franklin source

Tomorrow Is Just Another Day

Just another day. It will be one year, tomorrow, since my great Aunt Pat passed away. I don't make a big deal out of the day she died. It's not an 'anniversary' to me. I try to remember the days that she lived. The day she died isn't a day to resurface sadness; I remember her every day in little ways.


There's lil' me at age 3! I was a wild one (some say that never changed). 1988 was not the most fashionable year..😆

She was one of the great pillars of my life and I really miss her. I miss her deeply. But I always have a flood of memories wash over me whenever I think of her. It seems to override the sadness. I don't remember her by the day she died, I remember her as she lived.

She was an incredible woman and someone that I admired, respected, and loved to no end. Whenever I feel sad about her passing I remind myself of so many memories that it occupies my brain (to loosely​ quote Ozzy in the song 'Crazy Train'). That's how it can feel sometimes when we lose someone we love. It's something that no one on this planet can avoid; death.

When my wife and I bought our home I was attracted to it immediately. I did not even need to get out of the car to know I wanted it. It reminded me of my great aunt's house and had a very similar vibe. It felt like home. Now it is. And it reminds me of her in so many ways. When I cut my grass, the smell of certain weeds in the grass even reminds of my childhood.

I am sad that she is gone, but happy that she lived.

During some hard times, my family actually lived at my aunt's house briefly. So it was no surprise why I was attracted to something that reminded me of that - those were some of the greatest moments of my life. I loved when we would get to spend the day there as a kid. She​ and my Uncle Ron (also deceased) had a great property that was so much fun for a kid. They had a kennel where they bred and raised hounds and my uncle trained them as well. He raised quails, chickens, pheasants and all sorts of animals. It was awesome to be able to experience all of that as a child. I had many great times with them. I rode dirtbikes since age 4, could operate a drill press and bandsaw at 8, had my own firearm and could shoot by 10 years old.. Truly these were experiences that made me the person I am today. I always admired them and the older I get - become more like them.

The braids of time unravel, but do not rewind

Find comfort in pain and love with everything inside of you. Enjoy your life and celebrate the lives of those you love, even after they are gone. No matter if you're religious or have no religion - celebrate life. We are all capable of that.

Why I decided to share


I am sharing this because we have all experienced loss. If it can help others to find comfort in coping with death, it was worth my time to share. I also want to share a little bit of 'me' with my steemit friends so you can judge me..haha but seriously...​

I hope it helps others to reminisce and reflect on their own great memories spent with loved ones lost. I know it is difficult. It's painful. I believe we all struggle with coping with death, but please know that it is possible to celebrate life, even after one's physical presence expires.


Wishing You All ∞ Love & Happiness



Footnote: If you've gotten this far and are wondering "Why did he mentioned death, but not taxes like the quote he referenced?" Well, because talking about taxes is depressing!😆

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Great post ! I have lost many in my life , in fact everyone has since passed except my brother my two sons and myself , and your so right ! I remember the good times ! Life should be celebrated we are here for a very short time . Live , laugh , love and remember the good times fondly . They make us what we are today . Thanks for sharing and im glad you liked my Minni Cheeseburger Meatloaves !✌💕👍

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

Priceless comment, @karenmckersie. Summed up beautifully. Another quote I love (can't recall who said it) "we aren't here for a long time, we're here for a good time". Our dearest memories are sometimes enough to keep us moving forward.

Another wonderful quote from the unknown:

"Yesterday's History, Tomorrow's a mystery, and Today is a Gift. That's why we call it the present."

So, while I'm here and I have your recipe fresh in mind - I'm going to have to make some! Looks way too good to pass up! Hope you have a great weekend and I'm following to the end of time if you keep sharing those recipes 😋👍

Thank you again for your meaningful comment and as far as I'm concerned, you're part of my Steemit family now!

Awe that's such a kind reply @gro-pro ! And I love those saying as well ! Awesome that your going to try out my recipe !! Im current logged in as @karenmckersie and replying to everything at the same time ! Haha !! Im forgetting who I am LOL with 2 accounts now ! Its new to me so im sure in no time I will get better at it ! Its just easier this way then logging in and out all the time ! I actually try and keep my @momskitchen logged in on my tablet and this one on my Chromebook ! Thanks again , Steeming on whoever I am ! LOL 🚀🚀🚀😂😂😂😂

thank you for sharing some words of wisdom today. You are right. We need to celebrate life and those who have passed are with us every day in lessons we learned from them, the love we shared and all the wonderful memories...

I really appreciate the thoughtful comment, @cecicastor. I hope that more choose to celebrate life. It only does the world good if we try. Love can overcome (almost) all adversity. Love more and we all benefit. It truly is a choice we all must make.

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

Ben was mistaken. Well, according to my beliefs he is at least. He wasn't just wrong about death either. Taxes should not be a thing we simply accept.

More importantly, death is a transformation, not an end. I take comfort in the belief that we are electrical beings, and as electrical beings we cannot die.

As time passes our connections grow stronger and more numerous, but our physical bodies grow weaker and people experience death--physical disconnections.

This is both a blessing and a curse. As we grow older, the more physical connections to those we care about are severed. That happening however makes us spend our time physically together more wisely.

She will always be connected to you, and she lives on in spirit. Thanks for sharing the details about her. You can tell an awful lot about a person by knowing who their heroes are.

She definitely sounds like one, and I wish I had met her in person.

Absolutely agree, my friend! We​ are electrical beings that resonate and harmonize on the vibrating chords of time. I truly believe she is always near in spirit and I keep her in my thoughts every day. I feel her presence in little ways and truly feel that she is never gone - only in her physical​ presence.

Just before she passed, I was able to see her. I told her as much as I could - how I love her, how she changed my life, and I thanked her for so many memories. One of the hardest conversations I've ever had. However, I am so glad I was granted that opportunity, as she passed the next day. I have lost people dear to me without having that opportunity to say what I felt needed to be said. Having had the time to express to her my thoughts and speak with her has helped me immensely to cope with her death.

The time I spent with her is a blessing that I will carry for the remainder of my time on this spinning mudball.

She was a hero, no doubt, Finnian. I wish you could have met her too.