"New Delhi" the capital of India and also known as the rape capital of the world (Its nothing like that but just exaggeration), I can never accept this as I love my Delhi and I am proud of it, Why, Ummmm because my patriotic sentiments does not allow me to say anything against my country. I love my India and dare anyone say anything about it in front of me.
Busy streets of Delhi and here I am sitting on the balcony of my Hotel Star view," located at the main intersection of Paharganj, New Delhi", sipping my chilled beer. It's so loud out there that it would not even suppress the sound of an Atomic explosion. People who have visited this area of Delhi might be able to understand what I am talking about. Cars, Autowlala's, cycle rickshaw's, dogs, cows, pigs and the mule carts. Ohh sorry, I forgot to mention about humans. I mean a perfect blend of jungle and civilisation. A perfect place for the display of normal life in Delhi. Right in front of me is a sweet shop. I do not know why but whenever I see food, it ignites my hunger and then all dieting plans vapourise and my urge to eat always win but wait for a second, what's happening there? Ohh a poor pup got hit by a Rickshaw puller right in front of this sweet shop and its screaming in pain.I could see it's leg got hurt badly. Life goes on and I can see that its screams are getting merged in traffic and it has given a new rhythm to the music of moving traffic. It feels like another musical instrument has been introduced and soon people are getting used to it. While listening to the screams and in an attempt to get used to it, I am looking at the other events happening and my eyes wandered to the right towards other shops when from the corner of my eye I noticed something happening in front of that sweet shop.
A white girl is trying to give water to this pup while rubbing its back. Her back is towards me and I started looking at her. You know what but while looking at her I could not stop sneaking a look at the naked part of her back which got exposed as her white t-shirt got lifted a little in her attempt to look closely at that Pup. Well, this is not at all a usual scene to me but no here I was wrong. Continuity of my experiences happened when I saw the workers of that sweet shop standing out and looking at this girl. Looking at this girl and waiting to offer some help? no, There eyes are on her cleavage and their hands are right there at their proud organ while looking at this girl who is bent towards the front and making that pup drink water and trying to make it calm but our guys are enjoying the show of her youth. Whispering while trying to look more deeply into her t-shirt. I heard some whispers and when I looked right beneath my Balcony, I found few boys standing in a group and looking at the back of that girl and analysing the shape of the buts. Her shirt got lifted a little exposing her back a little and these guys got the real platform to land their eyes on a smooth skin. I got so frustrated with their devilish act but wait, I was doing the same thing a few minutes ago. What the hell is wrong with me and for a second I was ashamed at my act and was thinking that what my mother would say if she learns about what I was thinking.
I could sense these guys were talking about approaching her and offer some help while giggling at the comments they were making while discussing this agenda. On the other hand, this white girl is just trying to help this poor pup, unaware of the surrounding and unaware of the fact that she is displaying her assets to the public and most of them are enjoying the show to the fullest. Wait for a second all this was happening while she is wearing a decent white t-shirt and a black denim jean. What is it that attracted every one attention. Maybe it is the straps of her black bra which are visible from the shoulders but hey man everyone has seen their mother and sisters wearing these and they get exposed many times a day while they do house chores. No, this cannot be the reason. Then maybe her white and smooth skin was the reason but then again our sisters and mothers have the same skin. All this was going through my mind while She stood up, still unaware of the fun she was providing and asked for a clean cloth to the guys standing in front of that sweet shop. She should tie her bra around the pup's leg, someone giggled in Hindi. Now everyone is on the move as she asked for help. All of sudden there is a flow of humanity amongst all and everyone is trying to show how concerned they are. One of them brought a bandage and antiseptic cream and sat down with her to help her apply it to the wound of the Pup. I could see that in an attempt at helping her he now was taking full advantage to look deep into her cleavage and also got successful in touching her smooth white hands. All his friends are jealous now and they were giving expressions that this guy had finally hit the jackpot and is going to bed this girl tonight.
I will stop narrating the scene now. Guys, this is the reality of us. This is what we people do on the streets. Ths is our character. I could not see any more exploitation and moved into my room while sipping on my still chilled beer. Isn't this what we do every day and still get angry when someone calls Delhi: the rape capital of India. Lot of Nirbhayas will happen and one day one Nirbhaya will be our daughter, sister or wife. What will we do then? I know what we will do.
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This reality is bitter and the topic of story is very sensitive. brave one can write these type of stories. Good work.
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I am speechless with awe !! You captured the essence of what happens in India. Not just Delhi. This the bitter reality of Indian streets.
The crime is first committed in the head ! Rape is in the mind. It is first committed in the dark alleys of a distorted psyche. Discrimination, oppression is first committed in the darkness of the mind..
Given half a chance, masculinity never fails to prove that it is savage, oppressive, brutish, and disrespectful , self-centred and untrustworthy !!!!
You wrote very sensitively, @honeychum :) . Superb writing
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Thanks @nehab I don't know why but I am too sensitive towards eve teasing and rape. I feel myself related to that moment of helplessness of the victim. Just tried to tell others how disgusting it is.
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:) :)
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"The reason women never propose is becoz
The moment she will be on her knees
He will start unzipping.."
Men will be men regardless of the society he belongs or the education he possess.
I am from Delhi and what you have seen and narrated is my day to day life experience when outside home though i am ordinary looking with not so white skin but who cares i am a girl and that is enough for men in Delhi.
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I agree with you but exceptions are always there. I won't say that all men look at women in this way perhaps the equation could be 60:40. Beauty, complexion or clothes have nothing to do with eve teasing or rape, in fact, it is the sick mentality of the offender. Now is the time when women should start educating their kids to respect women. This is the same society where women had upper hand in society and all women were worshipped as the goddess. This kind of mentality had been imported over time. We need to fix this and we start at home. @shagungupta
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It saddens me when I realise this is the state of our country. I'd say the situation is the same in almost every other city in the country. The same men who stare at other woman are the ones who make a ruckus when somebody stares at their girlfriend, wife, sister or mother.
I had a similar experience to yours when I was in Bangalore. I was along with my friends and were roaming around the streets of Kammanahalli area when we found a dog which was extremely ill. Some car had probably hit it a few days ago and the wound was not treated. As a result, it had a very bad infection with worms on it & the dog was not able to move properly. We wanted to help it but we didn't know how to treat it or whom to contact. We bought a small packet of biscuit for it but it was not even making an effort to eat them. It was not late until 2 foreign women came to treat it with some essentials, they probably saw the poor dog before us & went to the nearby medical shop to get cloth bandages, dettol & gloves among other things. Till then there were hardly any crowd but when they came to help the dog, a countable number of men appeared all of a sudden. These men were staring at the women when they were treating the wound. Their back area was exposed & the people were shamelessly looking at it and giggling at the scene with their friends. The dog kept moving around in pain when the wound was being treated. One of them even took out his mobile pretending to take a picture of the dog but he clearly wasn't. I wanted to speak, I badly wanted to make him realise his shameless act but my friends refrained me from doing so since they were locals and if we speak up something, we'll probably get beaten up.
What disturbed me more was when both the women knew what the men were doing but still they carried on their tasks. They even said in an annoyed tone to the others to stand & enjoy expecting them to go away but nobody batted an eye except for an old man who joined them in the end.
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India is not the rape capital of the world. Rape happens everyday and half the victims never report it. On the flipside, there are men and women who try to abuse the system to fulfill a personal vendetta.
How do we as a Nation address rape?
Get to the next generation early. Educate them about what is right and wrong. It is easier to help form mindsets than it is to change mind sets.
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I never said that India is the rape capital of the world. I used it for New Delhi. I have references from newspapers and different media channels to support this but again I would say it is a strong term to use. This is happening through out India and our news papers are reporting scug incidents daily. My point is that we should be self-critic when such thoughts come to our mind. I am.... @kedar-ub
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From the knowledge and news that I read is men have a wrong idea about the meaning of masculinity while women tend to behave like penurut.Hal also can happen in the household so that cases of rape prone occur. The man there lives in a conservative society. In schools, sex education can not afford the curriculum as it could be "destructive" to youth and traditional values. Therefore, many men do not do it and keep searching for justification for what they are doing.
Even less that May be attacked They do not teach about sex education while in school. Parents do not use words like penis, vagina, rape, or sex in everyday life so men do not even know if they are raping) is a mistake. Even so, there is also a claim to be wrong and regret the act of an actor who confessed to raping a five-year-old boy. He admitted his actions were wrong by saying, 'yes I feel bad. I risked his life and he is not a virgin yet. Big time no one will marry her. But I will accept it, I will marry him from prison.
Previously I apologize if there is something wrong in my comment ..
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beautiful image/art, and the writing is so raw and true - it makes me sad this is the world we live in. where lust overpowers kindness and charity, and always darkness is just peering over the soft shoulders of the vulnerable.
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Thanks for the appreciation @itinerantartist I just tried to express what was thinking at that moment. I feel angry at such behaviour.
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well, good for you for taking a stance! we need more people to follow in those footsteps and do what is right
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It just frustrates me that people do not think at all to what is right or wrong. How hard it is to understand to respect women around. They give us life and in return, we look at them as a sex object.
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This post narate the nature of rape. Sometimes,the lady is to be blame for her dressing, appearance and comportment. While other time the guys are to be blame for their nature of thought and how they percieve their opposite sex. Regardless of sex and geographical location, we live in an evil society but the mindset of the people is the major determinant on the rate of crime in a community.
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I feel sad that this is happening, taking sexual advantage of a situation is the problem yet we can't address it properly. I don't know maybe it is human nature but I hope we all can learn to control it
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It is the just spoiled generation. We cannot call it human nature as my countrymen used to think very highly of a woman. Women were treated like the goddess in India. @emdesan
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That's unfortunate how this generation behaves @honeychum. Wish we could go back to where women were treated like a goddess.
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Don't worry buddy. Those times are still present. Many parts of India have culture where still female are considered Goddess and raising hands on women are considered sin. My society still follow this culture. :)
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well nice really enjoyed the post
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While there are many things that are nice about New Delhi, society needs to find ways to get rid of this heinous crime. Use a combination of education, stronger legislation & swifter punishments. Women need to be a key part of this process.
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Sir, I only gave the reference of New Delhi otherwise wherever you go in India, you will find people doing same things. @acdevan
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This is really unfortunate. Thank you.
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i have been here in delhi for 3 yrs now and i cant see ppl helping each other... they dont have it in them... I dont think it can be stopped until and unless u hang him till death.. There should be only one punishment for this.. Death.. only the fear of death can stop it...
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I agree with your opinion but along with this we need to find a solution as well to stop occurence of anything like eve teasing and rape @shahaan
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if there is a law that we can cut someones hand for stealing? same should happen when u rape someone. i think public shaming the suspect is only a duct tape solution. Social media can never be a court room
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I second that...
Anything less would never be enough
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I am in New Delhi right now. I can feel your post much more than anyone.
💯% upvote and follow. I hope you will like my blog...
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Awesome post! I invite you to visit our blog and vote us back! And of course to enjoy our content :)
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No doubht delhi is amazing and full of beautiful people.thanks for sharing about your home town with us☺
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You are welcome :) @barbie.doll
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Yeahh I'm also love my country from the core of my heart. Dehli its beautiful place i've seen in indian dramas 😊
Very interestin story of this girl 💖
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Thanks @hazelalex No doubt Delhi is a must visit city. :)
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Wow well I don't really know what's wrong in India, why take advantage of her body,i heard the population of India is quite second to China, I believe these guys can get girlfriend and have sex anyhow they want and not prey on all the girls.
The world needs decency India included
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I agree @josediccus
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I was in Connaught place for more than 5 hours on the date of 11th of this month. I went there to attend the Steemit meetup that was organised by firepower. I had reached before of time so I was waiting outside the restaurant. There was a girl wearing a skirt and her skirt started flying when the wind was blowing. There were some boys standing there who looked at her. Maybe that was a shameful moment to her. The skirt was flowing of her but i was becoming shameful and I went away from there for some minutes.
Many times some such incident happen that we don't want to see.
well written story.
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We need to rise above patriotism n focus on humanity n humane character.
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you are right @genelia
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This is so touching, I can't explain how I feel at the moment
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I like this technique very much. How much I have not tried anything like this does not work for me.
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thanks @narchuk
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Wow intresting
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thanks @urchice
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HellOo @honeychum where are you in previous days ?
very amazing place Delhi beautiful your home town :)
Nice Story...!!
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Thanks @Sanach I was always here :)
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Ahan! I see you after many days, that's why I ask
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:)
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Hello @honeychum intersting story I learn something new I didnt know that delhi is the rape capital of the world. I like your drawing. Good work I will follow your blog.
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Thanks @mihail.tsvetkov
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Would love to visit Delhi... Its one of the cities i must visit this coming holiday. Good article
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Thanks man and you are welcome in my country @maxwell95
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Very artistic @honeychum
I like it
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Thanks mate @jhonysins
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i am inspire about him from your post.
thank you for your post.
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Thanks mate @jhonysins
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Often ignorance can be bliss, often ignorance is required for survival, but for how long I ask myself? I've been living in Delhi for the last 9 years, and seeing the population of the city explode, has, to be honest, very worrying. An old concept called 'the behavioral sink' may be helpful in understanding what we/ this city, is going through. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behavioral_sink)
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It is a crude reality indeed.
It has so happened that when a handsome man shows a bit of skin it does not trigger the same kind of reaction from the people around. Not that I wish it would or wouldn't. I think my point is that this story illustrates how much the image of a woman's body has been so generally sexualised that most people don't question how we look at it anymore.
I don't think we should be ashamed of instinctively checking out something sexy - it is human, and I myself appreciate the beauty and sexiness when I observe even a woman.
Maybe the solution to overcome this kind of behaviour is not to judge it for the behaviour itself but to educate which way this girl could have been looked at more respectfully.
As a woman, when I check out a man's body, I have been brought up in doing so with subtlety: it is more socially acceptable. And the fact that I am looking at a man's body appreciating his sexiness does not immediately translate to: "how do I get to touch this or put this in my bed?"
Opening the dialogue on this things and having friends from the opposite sex helps putting all this in perspective. I don't want to be so harsh on these boys who were checking her over because for me their behaviour is full of ignorance. And although I can see how culturally it relates to your point on New Dehli, the capital of rape, as far as this story goes they are not rapist: just ill-manered and opportunist.
I believe repression might not be the best way to change this culture, but respect and better understanding of each other could be.
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I completely agree with you. I shall focus on the last part of your comment. We have seen then in most of the cases of rape in Delhi, it all started from teasing and when the offender feels that it cannot be noticed they become violent and try to take the advantage which results in something like Nirbhaya. I do not want to be Harsh to anyone. If I talk about myself, Do I check girls? My answer is yes but more than checking it is admiring and then comes respect. I just wanted to convey the message that children should be educated to respect women.
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As you say: more than checking out it is admiring.
I am not surprised by what you are saying on which way most of the rapes happen in Dehli, and my point wasn't to deny the existing problems of sexual misconducts. They are here, in New Delhi but also everywhere.
Which brings me back to your anwer: how do you know how to respect the opposite sex if you haven't been taught to do so? How do you canalise this energy that seems to be so instictive and animal and see the other side of it in its pure beauty if all what you have witnessed around you have always been animals trying to fulfill their crave?
It is not impossible for people to have a humanist touch in the middle of savagery and to realise that considering a beautiful body as a piece of meat is wrong for whoever is living through this body, but when the norm is to follow quite primitive pulsions then it is harder to take a step back and see the humanity in the object we are checking out.
So yes, you are totally right: education is one of the keys in mutual respect. Not the only factor, but one of the most important ones.
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very creative painting ,, I really like the painting..😉
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Thanks @cut-mi
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Interesting... Hmmm eye opening too
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My disgusting memory;
and its perfect storms;
and its waves;
and their spring tides of green rocks and slippery;
of dark background;
From debris and chipped walls;
of doors closed;
of windows open on the tenth floor.
indignant; just because he's started forgetting what he loved most.
Lewd, obscene, of bad-faced, of "I'm Immortal", of "I know to fly."
My disgusting memory and his tendency to talk more of what you need,
Anchored to a song that sounds the same.
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This is sad. I actually met really amazing people in India when I was there.
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