Watch Out! Your Personality is Showing!

in life •  7 years ago 

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I got this email the other day that included the line...

If you have an opinion you MUST share it or you're gonna end up AVERAGE

I thought that I liked that idea, I don't want to be mediocre.

So I shared it in the Berserkers Discord group, thinking 'yes, good advice'.

But we talked about and it is certainly not relevant in every situation...

Here on Steemit, for example, if you share your opinions on race, gender, religion or politics you will find yourself up the creek without a paddle, and often without an upvote and even flags and downvotes by those who don't share your opinion.

It probably wouldn't be wise to share your opinion when you deal with a power hungry policeman, as you may end up in a prison cell, or when tired to death of waiting in a waiting room at a doctor's surgery and are ready to f-eddy-f at everything, but you don't as that would probably result in having to get a new doctor, so you keep it all in.
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So when or how can we show our opinions?

We find groups of people who we can be ourselves with.

Even better we find groups of people we can be ourselves with and constantly look to improve ourselves, so we can strive to be the best versions of ourselves. That is a goal, we have every day until our dying day, as you will always have something to improve.

In a group setting...

  • Sometimes someone else provides the inspiration that fires the soul, or opens your eyes to new ways of seeing the world.

  • Sometimes it is the accountability and pressure from others that kicks (or keeps) our butts in gear.

  • Sometimes it takes talking to someone else looking in to realize what needs to be done.

But it is down to you to sustain that self improvement and keep up with it.

But a good place to start this journey, if you are not afraid of strong opinions and learning the truth about yourself, is the Berserkers Discord Channel

It has been the making of me (and its only the start of the journey)

Hail to the Berserkers

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But sometimes it is fun to take a risk, so please enjoy this Jesus joke...

Judas: Still on for Friday?

Jesus: Friday?

Judas: Yeah, the last supper

Jesus: The what?

Judas: Supper. Normal supper with the fellas.

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Speak wisely. Always think before you speak so that it won't bring you trouble. Once they are said, they can only be forgiven not forgotten

true words, they can't be taken back as they will always be remembered

Here on Steemit, for example, if you share your opinions on race, gender, religion or politics you will find yourself up the creek without a paddle, and often without an upvote and even flags and downvotes by those who don't share your opinion.

Unfortunately, we are confronted with this behavior everywhere. Of course it's great when you find people with the same interests and views. But on the other hand, for the birth of the truth we need a dialogue with the opposite side, otherwise we will never move forward. I hope someday we will all be wise enough to talk about everything.

Yes, it is not only confined to Steemit, you are absolutely right, it is society today.

Not only will we end up average but we will not become our true selves, know who we really our and be accepting in our own skin. Loved this post!

know who we really our and be accepting in our own skin.

I agree

I live in a Russian city with harsh laws. But when I observe the situation that occurs in the West, when your countries are filled with migrants who create lawlessness - it's sad. We are being imposed here - that the west is a free society of people who value each other and respect other races. But judging by what I see with my own eyes it is not so.
It's sad that you have to create closed groups that would tell each other about those problems that you can not say open, because this can cause a resonance of most others - the dissenters. Therefore, to my regret, such conversations most likely will not go well beyond the limits of a separate group

I suppose it is all about finding your tribe as if it were and not worrying about if everyone likes you or not, because that will never happen. Being happy with who you are and the rest will follow.

Two things define your personality, the way you manage things when you have nothing, and the way you behave when you have everything. Great post dear :) @hopehuggs following you for more :)

I like that

It really is risky to write about any of the polarizing topics. I just don't, myself. I haven't worried so much about being downvoted or flagged, although now that you mention it, I realize that's probably the best reason not to go there. I just think we all need to realize that no one has all the answers, and that no matter what you believe there are going to be plenty of people who vehemently disagree to the point of being annoyed or angry at your expressed views. It's not worth it.

I wrote a new "introduce myself" post the other day and included my personal credo on how to behave on Steemit. I'm hoping it may be useful to others.

I love the picture of the parakeet with the lion's head. It's so clever!

Sometimes it's worth taking a little risk. I like to be a little cheeky sometimes - vanilla not always best flavour, but I won't go too extreme either!

I agree, sharing your opinion should be done in the right place and the right time. Finding a group where you can share your opinion is a great choice, but the hardest part is to find the right group :D

I agree. There is a time and a place.

Lol... I kind of find your post funny, but interesting tho.... Not everyone shares the same view with you most times especially when it is shared in public! ...

I used to say things in public that my husband said, then he would contradict me - at least that doesn't happen now.

When i share my opinion about something, usually people criticize me or simply ignore, so i'm not sharing my opinion often, usually i just stay silent and that's it. Its really hard to find people who are open minded, so far i found only few.

I have taken this position in past, whether I agree with something or disagree.

That advice definitely doesn't apply to all people and all situations. There are plenty of situations where it backfires when you share your opinion. One time you mention was you tried to defend someone, it didn't go well for you even though you were probably doing a good thing. That's not a beneficial thing in an environment where the people of you "offend" can ruin your reputation.

That was a risk, but at that point I would have risked it for what seemed to me a huge injustice. Sometimes Steemians can close ranks and it ends up a witch hunt. This person I defended is powering down, as a result of it and it's a real shame.

I guess a idea is to be inquisitive at first in a conversation, invite the other person to expose his convictions. When you have that information you can assess if it worth giving your input, and now that you know where he's coming from you'll seem less confrontational.

That sounds a good diplomatic approach.

Speaking your mind about things is not always the wisest thing to do for the reasons you stated. But also I think it depends on the dynamic of your community or group.

For example I can talk about spirituality, hardships in life, helping people, etc and I find that I'm still able to connect with many people. But thisis also just a mirror image of real life for me.

I have always kept people around me that are different faiths, ideas, lifestyles etc. It's just who I am. This just spills over onto Steemit. but I know not everyone can walk that tightrope the same way.

I think you have a point in that it is in the way that you put things across to people. Each to their own I always say with regards to faith, ideas and lifestyle choices, I say, as I think who am I to judge.

in a modern society which is usually called "free" - now you need to be tolerant. Unfortunately, tolerance is imposed on us everywhere. And if you do not meet this "false" tolerance you are considered an outcast of society and can put a brand of "racist" and call "others." I think this is wrong.
Therefore it is good if in the Western world you have a community where you can exchange your true opinion and are not afraid to be "different"

In a way, we are all racist I think, as we (most of us if not all) judge people on what they say or do, which is a form of racism. Yes, society these days has a lot to answer for.

I really enjoyed this. Sometimes find myself f-eddy-effing about this.

Yes, this is the sad truth. The powerful have the might to censor the less-so, whether overtly or covertly.

That's what I love about groups. Every member is able to bring something fresh, whether that's opinions, encouragement, ideas, challenges, new inspiration for a blog or lifestyle choice.

Haha that Jesus joke is hilarious.

v.nice post