My experience & thoughts with having a narcissistic vindictive individual in my life on a daily basis ...

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)


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My experience in dealing with a narcissistic vindictive individual on pretty much a daily basis.

I don't know if any of you have had to deal with anyone like this, but let me tell you, I'd rather eat shards of glass than interact with such individuals. Such a person exists in my life currently and it's a constant battle everyday for me to hold my tongue when in the presence of this individual.

I am the type of person that will allow you to get one free hall pass at giving me attitude or being just plain rude, but that's all I'm going to give you. Hey, maybe you had a bad day or something is bothering you, we're all human. But when your behaviour displays a constant pattern of rude behaviour, disrespectful comments, and just plain being a jerk to everyone, that's where I draw the line.


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Such a person exists in my life unfortunately, for the better part of almost 2 years. An adult when seeing with the naked eye, but look deeper and you'll see a little boy throwing tantrums and just looking for a reason to be mad at someone for no reason whatsoever.

There are days when I want to take a baseball bat to this person's face. There are days when I just want to lower myself to this person's level and let my mouth run wild, but I don't. Why you might ask? Because I know the truth. Because I look past the person and think, "Maybe they're like this due to genetics or family background".

Does this make me weak? NO. Does this make it acceptable for this individual to treat me & others the way they do? HECK NO! But I am stronger than you. I know you're not lashing out at me specifically. This is coming from brokeness on your part, and this is how you deal with it. I don't pity you, but I do sympathise with you. How terrible it must be living a life like this, day in & day out. Mad at the world, mad at the people you say you love ( for no reason ).

Do you not see the damage you are causing not only yourself but to those around you? They have done nothing to deserve this, but you fabricate fantasia ideas that make it feel ok for you to behave like this. These people, including myself, have been nothing but civil & decent towards you, yet you WILL find a reason to lash out in anger, or have this repressed anger that you're just waiting to unleash on the first person who walks past.


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An individual whom I care for very much, someone whom I love with everything I have, is directly affected by this person daily. The emotional pain & suffering that occurs in this person is sometimes too much to bear for me. I wish I could take away the pain, I wish I could fix this person who is hurting everyone around them, but I can't. It is not my job to fix them.

All in all it is a horrible experience having people like this in your life when you have no other option than to have them in your life. But alas, fear not. Soon, real soon, the people whom I love dearly will be taken away from this individual, and then hopefully they'll see life as something that can be enjoyed. No worry about, "Why is this individual finding fault with everything I do?" or "Soon the time will come when I have to face this person head on again".

If I cannot remove YOU from the people I love, I can do my best in removing THEM from YOU! Selfish? I don't care. This has gone on for long enough & if there's something I can do about it, you can be damned sure I'm going to do it.

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I hope your situation improves quickly and you don't have to deal with that individual again. Good luck out there!

Thank you my friend.

Very good read and i understand all too well.

Love you my dear sister

The presence of such people in life makes you strong.That person bad habbits leaves good impact on you like you learn "self control" patience" "ignoring such people".

Very true indeed. It teaches you to deal with such individuals but more importantly it shows you that the problem isn't YOU!

I had a some problem like you.And that teaches me alot.Now they are gone from my life but they taught me alot and i saw positive changes in my life :)

The important part is that YOU have changed for the better. Good on you!

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I know all to well what it is like to be with people who drain you until you are empty. Well done for being protective of the one you love.

Thank you! Yea, you can hurt me or attack me, but stay away from the people I love.

I hope you read this buddha story : https://www.spiritual-short-stories.com/angry-man-spits-on-the-buddha-buddhist-zen-story-by-osho/
Torch lights up until it falls to the river.People's words are effective until they touch wisdom.

@iamnotageek
This youtube-channel has a bunch of really helpful videos on how to deal with Narcs, sorry that you are in this situation bro.

Why Leaving a Narcissist is so Dicey

Thank you. I'll have to check it out.