Have you ever noticed how some people are able to make their intentions known in so many ways? It seems almost effortless. And I'm not talking about having a great intellect or being extremely focused. All I'm saying is that if you're like most of us, you might have a hard time figuring out just what your intentions are.
If we are all focused on our intentions, then how do we know what to do or say next? I can tell you this. When I make any big decision, I scan my surroundings and ask myself, "Is my attention on my intention? ".
"Am I paying attention to what I'm doing?" "Do I really want this outcome or this behavior?" "Does this create a stronger feeling of fulfillment for me?" When I ask myself these questions, I can usually find the answer very quickly. And trust me, once I have found the answer, it becomes very easy!
Is your intention to create a stronger feeling of fulfillment by loving and creating more? Then, you must focus on feeling loved and appreciated more. Is your intention to heal someone? Focus on feeling healed. Is your intention to become the best lover, then the focus needs to be on feeling amazing and lovable more.
We need to realize that the way we speak to ourselves and how we talk to others are very important indicators of what our intentions are. If we're just wandering around from one conversation to another with no clear direction as to our future intentions, we're off on a wild goose chase. Our intention is simple, but we can often get caught up in the muck and mire of our lives without a clear sense of direction.
Sometimes we say things without thinking and that's a problem. It's like driving into traffic - you might think you're going the speed limit and that's fine, but then suddenly you come to a screeching halt at a stop light and the car in front of you has been going 80 over the limit! You might try to correct your cruise control, but suddenly you have to make an about face and pull over because you're behind the car in front of you. Is your intention to roll the window up and pretend nothing is wrong? The intention that comes to mind is probably not the right one and that's okay because you're focused on other things and your intentions don't matter.
How do you determine what your intentions are and then take action to take you where you want to go? First, understand your intentions, make a list of them, and then find a way to connect the dots when it comes to your actions. For example, when I say I want to become a better lover, I imagine what it would feel like to make my partner happy and excited for me. Once I connect those dots, I can take appropriate actions in order to meet my intention.
This can also be done when someone approaches you and asks you something, and your first reaction is to be defensive. Instead of becoming defensive, take a step back, look them in the eyes, smile, and respond with confidence that you are willing to learn more about that topic. Then reword the question to state that you were interested in learning more about that topic and that you hope to see them again some time soon. You don't win anything if you are defensive and you don't set your intention to improve yourself by gaining more knowledge and insight from other people. You win by connecting with them on a deeper level and allowing them to open up to you.
