Be yourself!

A lot of people these days are complaining about not having enough self-confidence, and a lot of people are afraid that people around them won’t actually like them.

To be more specific, a lot of people are afraid that “if they were themselves”, then people won’t like them for who they truly are.

Actually it’s true that all of us care about what people think of us, to some extent.

We all want to feel special and loved, and we don’t want to feel that nobody likes us.

We want to be liked by others, we can’t deny that, and only when that becomes an obsession and stops us from enjoying life, then it’s said to be a problem.

In this article we’re going to talk about “being yourself”, not as a vague advise when someone doesn’t feel confident,but as a mindset that we can adopt to have a better relationship with ourselves.

Why it’s a very bad idea to be two-faced?

First of all, we all have a dark side that we don’t want people to see, we all have our little secrets, things that we don’t feel comfortable sharing with people.

We all have bad things, past mistakes, bad behaviors, and even bad beliefs.

After all, we’re just human beings and we’re not perfect, and most of the time we don’t share these things with people/most people (only one or two).

I just want to clarify that I’m not talking about these things.

What I’m talking about here is the fact that some people change their entire personality in front of certain people, only to get liked and accepted.

And don’t get me wrong, those people are not bad people or weak people, you and I have done this at least once in our lives.

I guarantee that.

For example posting something on Facebook about being courageous and brave, while deep within, that person knows that he’s a coward and he can’t really do what he claims.

Another example is acting tough around women to be perceived as a strong and dominated man, while deep within, that person knows that he’s just putting an act.

In brief, you try to be something that you know you’re not, only to get approval or to hide your true self from people.

Those things may sound like little things that won’t hurt anyone, but in fact, the devil lies in these little details.

If we kept doing these behaviors, we would end up hating ourselves.

If we keep on “putting an act” so that people don’t see the real person inside of us, we’re already rejecting ourselves.

And as we said above, it will make you hate yourself!!

Why?!

Because you know that this “act” is not you, and you’re the only one who knows the truth about yourself (which you think that nobody will like it).

What to do instead?

Give yourself the permission to be yourself.