Warning Signs of Dangerously Obsessive People

Whether you are in a relationship or just chatting with people online, it is possible that you may encounter people with dangerously obsessive tendencies.
I’m presenting a list of some warning signs to look out for in order to successfully spot these types of people before it's too late.
While one or two of these examples alone may not indicate obsessive behavior, a combination of them usually does.

Warning Signs / Red Flags

• Floods your inbox with messages after only knowing you for a short time and might exhibit anger or frustration if you don’t respond quickly enough.

• Lacks personal boundaries. Offers an inappropriate amount of personal information after only knowing you for a short amount of time. Makes inappropriately premature intimate comments to you or about you on social media. For example, telling you that you are soul mates or telling others that you are in a relationship when you aren’t.

• Exhibits inappropriate jealousy and controlling behavior. For example, getting angry if you talk to others or trying to prevent others from talking to you.

• Behaves like a stalker. Follows you around in public or online. Contacts you on various social media sites. Posts pics of you online without your knowledge.

• Implies or tells others that you are in a relationship when you actually aren’t.

• Extremely critical and plays on your weaknesses in an attempt to make you feel insecure.

• Exhibits emotionally abusive behavior like Gaslighting. Tries to manipulate you into thinking that you are the one who is the problem and that their unacceptable behavior is your fault. Doesn’t take responsibility for their own feelings and blames you for causing them to act in emotionally abusive ways. Systematically manipulates you until you start to question reality.

• Engages in Doxxing you. Searches for your private information online and may even share it with others.

• Ignores requests of “No” or “blocking”. Continues to find avenues to contact you through others or sock accounts.

• Contacts other people who know you and says horrible and untrue things about you if they feel rejected.

• Becomes emotionally unstable, angry, or violent upon rejection. They may direct this anger toward you or threaten to hurt themselves.

Qualities of Dangerously Obsessive Types

• Acts superior
• Craves power
• Sexist
• Belittles
• Overly jealous
• Controlling
• Manipulative
• Lies about their lives
• Tries to gain sympathy for being a victim of a hard life
• Uses past troubles as an excuse for not moving forward
• Blames others for their own lack of success
• Starts off being nice then later becomes aggressive and controlling
• Goes out of their way to help you so that you "owe" them
• Lives in isolation and tries to get you to live the same way so they have you all to themselves