Sounds like your friend wants to be the best version of himself but doesn't know how!?

Awesome! I can relate to this as I've had people come and go through my life which have tried to sway my choices in life.

At points in time i've wanted to cross a bridge and family would put another one in front of me. They think it's helping but voluntarily not by choice. As kids it seems we know what we want to do but as we get older we get more F***** up.

I hope your friend can scale back and take the advice of crossing one bridge at a time.