How to Let Go of Toxic People

There are many types of people in this world. Some are good, some are bad, some fall in the grey area. Naturally, as humans, we are attracted to people who are nice, generous, loving and kind. But, the problem arises when we are attracted to people even more, who treat us bad or have disappointed us in some way. Maybe they didn’t wish you on your birthday, maybe they heard a false rumor and started feeling resentment toward you. It is extremely hard to avoid such people in life. They may manipulate you, lie to you, call you names, but somehow, we still want their attention. According to research, humans tend to not let go of people who treat them badly, because, in the back of their minds, they still feel like there is hope that these people will like them if they keep hanging on for just a little while. But that is not the case, in reality.

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Avoiding such people in life is hard because they sometimes change their personalities if they want something from you, making you feel like they need you. But, you need to ask yourself this question, when have they helped you when you needed them?

Toxic relationships can result in friendships as well as relationships. There is not a single person who has lived and is living who hasn’t had a toxic person in their life.

Majority of people feel like they are an empty shell of themselves when they interact with toxic people in their friends’ circle or when they are in a relationship.

Toxic people aren’t necessarily supposed to be entirely bad people, they can be people who unmotivated you, who have no inspiration in life and are afraid to face their fears.

5 Ways to Let Go of Toxic People

People need to realize when someone is hindering you from happiness and success, you need to let these toxic people go.
To effectively remove toxic people from your life, practice the following steps:

• Do Not Expect The Toxic People to Change

The first thing to do to let go of toxic people in your life is to stop expecting them to change. Moving past toxic friendships as well as relationships requires you to accept the fact that these kinds of people cannot change no matter how much compassion and love you show them. When you are about to leave them, they may say things like “I can change” or “give me another chance”, and you may believe them for a moment but do not be fooled. Majority of the time, it never works, and if you are someone who just wants to let go of toxicity in their life, now is the time to not listen to your heart, instead listen to your rationality.

• Create Respectable Boundaries

The worst habit of toxic people is that they force you to be something that you do not want to be to them. They manipulate you into thinking that you should work hard in order to please them and make them happy, while in reality, they aren’t happy, they are just using you. One thing is for sure, the person who is being manipulated is not happy at all. This can be exhausting and lapses all respectable boundaries.

Fix this problem by creating boundaries. Make a line that shouldn’t be crossed by your friends, partners, and family members. Creating mental boundaries also means you respect yourself.

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• Do Not Get Pulled Back in By Toxic People

Toxic people have a talent for making you feel like they need you, they love it when they show that they are always in a crisis—the important thing to realize is that the crisis they make is always imaginary.

Toxic people have a tendency to create unwanted drama in order to manipulate. You might feel bad for them for not listening to their needs or something else, but you need to keep this point in mind when you are trying to leave a toxic relationship.

• Concentrate on A Solution

One other thing toxic people tend to do a lot is to make you angry and sad intentionally. Focusing on them and the things that come out of their mouths is almost never a good idea when your goal is to let go of them.

The thing that you should concentrate on is a solution to let go of such toxic people. You should focus on cleaning your mind and taking out all the negativity they have stored inside of your mind.

• Spend Time with Genuinely Good People

You cannot drive out the toxic people by spending more time with toxic people, you can only drive our toxic people by spending more time with genuinely good people.

Spending time with your loved ones, your good friends who care about you, and a partner who inspires and motivate you to be a better person every single day, will make you realize why you wanted to let go of toxic people in your life.

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