Between life or self

What do we do to keep ourselves from negative things?
Method 1: Knowing What is the Real Purpose of Life
This is the way my wife used it, and was actually planted by my father-in-law from the time my wife was young. My wife has a principle, that the true purpose of life is actually to serve God. So, make sure our life in this world becomes a preparation for provision to come to Him later.
So no wonder before the age of 20 years, my wife has produced several works. Like for example building Alkindi Daycare in Depok, then make AlkindiKids, an online store of Islamic child toys. Even today my wife is chairman of CerdasMulia Foundation, an educational foundation that houses PAUD and kindergarten in Depok. In fact, his current age is not even 23 years!
I came to understand why his passion and dedication did not stop, because what he was thinking was to find and collect the provision of goodness as much as possible. If life is to find provisions, why should waste time for things that are not good?
This is also what prompted me to continue actively writing on this blog (currently writing to 751). This blog is one of them I make indeed to 'find and collect supplies'. So that later may be a practice of my goodness when facing His presence.
How to 2: Be Friends with Achievers
This is the lesson I learned when Junior High. At that time, I went to a private school. But I just realized that in school the people - achievers and learning intentions can be counted on the fingers. Until finally I dissolved with various activities of my friends. It starts with playing games, hanging out, and spending a lot of time with useless activities.
Until finally, I had a terrible accident. After that I decided to make the most of my life (read the full story here). I then graduated and determined to go to the best high school in my city (at that time SMAN 1 Bogor). At this school, I went in and met great friends and achievers. My achievement was finally lifted up. It is true that people say, if we are friends and practice with great people, then gradually we also become great.
The challenge of friendship is increasingly being during college, where we are usually away with parents. Fortunately I went to the University of Indonesia, graduated S1 and S2 there. Making friends with the best people, who until now still provide many valuable lessons to me.
What are the tips for finding the right friend? For me, make sure that after we are friends with someone, our achievements and usability increase. This is a true benchmark of how to choose a good friend of my version.
I've written a few tips on choosing a friend, may be seen in beberap following article:
4 Tips for Choosing the Right Friend
Who Are Our Best Friends?
Who knows, the above tips can help you find a better friend.
Method 3 - Feeling That Yourself Is Still Less Charitable
My teacher once said,
"If at any time you want to do a negative thing, remember that it is definitely included in the count of sin. Meanwhile, if you do charity / repent, do not be happy because your deed / repentance is not necessarily accepted. Therefore, always multiply the good deeds and avoid sin. "
This advice is very impressed on me. This is also my share to my wife. The point is this:
Negative things are definitely included in the count of sin
Good or repentance is not necessarily rewarded and accepted (no sign of proof)
My teacher's advice makes me always think that my charity balance is always deficit. So when I'm moved to do negative things, it's this advice that reminds me. Who knows, this simple advice is also helpful