The simple art of being nice

It's amazing how people underestimate this skills which is so essential in our modern world

Yes, I am talking about just being a nice, kind and genuin person and that this will uplift others as well.

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The reason I started to think of think of this, was a conversation with my boss the other day. He was telling me about the man he took over the position from. The former guy was a very strict boss, who seemed to try to get his recognition by creating an anxiety culture around him. That would give him so much respect from the others, because they never knew what kind of hat he would be wearing.

Meaning, he could explode for no particular reason at all.

My boss told he he hated this way of thinking, and he had told himself that he never wanted to be this kind of person. If he would ever get in this position he would take a totally different tactic.

And so he did. From this short time that I met him, he has been an open, approachable and helpful person and this actually makes me try to work harder. Because I don't want to disappoint somebody who is also willing to put so much effort in me as well.

And that last sentence is key I believe

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And it starts with simple common sense I have learned. Because in Sint Martin (and I believe everywhere throughout the Caribbean) just simply greeting wherever you come in is seen as general policy. At my former work it would be normal to personally greet everybody in the morning, when the day would start. Not just walking in and shout a general 'Goodmorning' but actually take some time for this.

In the beginning I was not really used to this and some people would title me as arrogant, but the reality is...I just didnt know this was general courtesy at this place. At not only at work, but also walking into shops, in government buildings, and everywhere else as well. If you forget to properly greet someone, this will work against you.

And actually...I like it

There is nothing wrong with actively acknowledging that somebody walks in or to let somebody know that he/she is being seen. But not every society is used to this.

I remember being on vacation in Holland once and actively greeting they girl restocking the racks in a grocery shop. She looked guilty at me like 'damn, should I know her? She is so actively greeting me and I have no idea who she is'

That made realize that I had changed and I was living to different standards in terms of considering of what I found normal. Something I do not regret for a second.

Because now it is being appreciated

In my new job now one of the best compliments I have repeatedly received is that I am so approachable. Because I always greet everybody so extensively and that they find me an open personality. I really find this a big compliment but it also makes you wonder what other people consider as normal then?

What are their standards in being nice then?

But remember...This is not judging somebody on how the actually preform in their working field, this is just if people find you a pleasant person or not. Saying hello, listen proper to what people are telling you, ask meaningfull questions, give compliments. No rocket science, just general courtesy.

And you also see this on our online platform here as well

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Because not everything is bought with money or being a whale. It is if people find you a person they WANT to return to. You can be a big, phat whale but if people think you are a jackass you still will not make it in the online world. Actually reading what people write, coming back to their page, leaving meaning comments, giving away stuff because you appreciate what people do...

This is what it all boils down to.

Let us all be the best persons that we can be

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