Don't Let Your Downfalls DEFINE You!

in life •  7 years ago 

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Looking at my life now, I can't help but see a sharp contrast. I know I mentioned this little life story in my other post, But I wanted to go into it more in detail. So Here it is again:

After getting my appendix removed at age 18 with no health insurance. I was in serious debt; I was a college student. Struggling to make ends meet. I became so depressed that my life was "over." That I would never get out of debt, and I Could never change my life.
The tiny little paychecks I was getting from my full, and the part-time job. Working over 12 hours a day, Wasn't even making a dent in the 15,000 I owed in hospital bills. I also had student loans on top of that.
At that point, I had given up all hope, And I started to dig myself deeper. Wasting more of my precious youth on folding laundry, And being a housekeeper. Instead of doing what makes me the happiest in life, Art.

Do You Know What Scares The Shit Out Of Me?!

I think about this always. What if Miss 18-Year-old Kaylin, Threw in the towel? What If I let that horrible experience define my life? What If I allowed that to be an excuse for everything I failed to do?

I would probably be still working there today, miserable as ever.

This was long before I came to Steemit.

Of course, we've all been through crap.
We've all had horrible experiences.

It doesn't matter if It's your fault.

I was 18; I couldn't afford health insurance as a full-time college student.
I could complain all day, About how the U.S. "screwed me." Or it's the government's fault Or my parents. Or the hospital's fault, Because the bill they gave me the surgery was "too high."

I could sit and blame my self for not paying the 200 a month out of the 400 I was making, For health insurance.

I could spend all day feeling sorry for myself if I wanted to.

But at the end of the day

I got to live!

I don't know how many people die from appendicitis these days; I Assume the number is pretty low.
But it doesn't matter if you have a tiny paper cut, Or whatever it is.
You are still alive right now; You GET to live.
You HAVE to move on!
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Moving On, Doesn't Justify What Happened

Sometimes we think that when we move on, We are saying "It's okay" to what happened. But that isn't the case at all.
It's okay to disagree with the outcome, But moving forward allows you to leave that garbage behind and so you can grow as a person. Moving on allows you not to let the bad experience define you.

Sometimes we do this with relationships too. We refuse to move on Because we are hurt.
I felt this for months after my recent breakup. I'd get angry, over the stuff he did. The stuff I didn't see Because I was blinded by the relationship.
Then it dawned on me, My inability to move on, Only hurts me. Not him.
Moving on allows YOU to stop hurting. It's a GIFT for YOU! Not the other person.

Life Can Change So Fast

Sometimes I'm baffled over what I've been through. Because I was able to move past all of it.
My life is set up so nicely now; I may never have to "work" a job I hate ever again. And it's so empowering.
Thanks to Steemit I can get paid to do the things that I LOVE, Like Hikes, Bike rides, and drawing.
Seriously! Who can say that?
I get paid to go hiking.
I get paid to go camping
I get paid to do art!

This just proves you really can have what you want out of life, If you are willing to put in the work. That thing that you never thought were possible can be possible. If you told me this would be my life in "5 Years. " My 18-year-old self wouldn't have believed you.

So next time you are going through something terrible, Remember it will pass. Be proactive and try to figure out how to get through it.
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Another incredible post @kaylinart! This really resinated with me...

"My inability to move on, Only hurts me. Not him.
Moving on allows YOU to stop hurting. It's a GIFT for YOU! Not the other person."

You hit the nail on the head with that! So often we we play the blame game but at the end of the day we are in control of our own thoughts and actions, no one else.

Well I was 19 I lost my dad and my job, and two months later lost my mom to stroke, it was horrible for me, but I knew I can't just cower in my defeat, you've brought back memories with these.
I guess now it's different

Wow :( I'm really sorry, I can't even imagine how rough that is. I really hope you are doing better.

I had some really crappy job but they couldn't pay my college fees so I dropped out, I had to fend for myself, so however steemit had since made it better, I'd be going back to college this year.

well @kaylinart what can I say? Let's cheers to a crappy teenage life, that's gotten better

Wow.
I'm glad you are back up on your feet. Moving on is what we do for ourselves and not for others.

You will be fine dear

You're right and thank you for taking time to see this

Keep up the good attitude. I remind myself to let each experience make me better not bitter. They say if you ain't got no test, you ain't got no testimony. Think of each trial overcome as a blessing. Great post. Blessings.

Thank you! Being bitter can really hurt you overtime :)

Congratulations kaylinart, great message. We should not anchor ourselves in the past and much less in the stumbles. The obstacles in life always existed, what we should have is the ability to analyze briefly and objectively what happened, get a teaching of life so as not to make the same mistakes again. What you just said in your publication is the right attitude towards life. Very well, you have solved your difficulties ... Greetings.

Downfalls can get you down easily, especially at the younger ages as you're seeing things just go wrong for you. But with age comes wisdom, and with wisdom comes the sight of moving forward as downfalls just means you get back up.

That was a great read. I'm turning 50 and just had to shut down my business. It's not a good feeling and I feel lost. Steemit has been fun so far and I certainly need to read posts like yours. Thank you @kaylinart

@kaylinart Thank You I needed to be reminded again to get GRATEFUL and Stay Positive and this is what this posting just did for me.

At 21 I left my country from Europe to the US and alone. I cleaned stores and at the same time worked as a carpenter. After few months here I had an accident with my first car which I bought for a loan actualy, it was destroyed and I didn’t have any insurance. At the moment I thought my American Dream has ended. Well, it didn’t. I worked even harder, and today I’m a house owner. I can totaly relate to your story.

Your story should be a source of inspiration for those who feel like throwing in the towel. In life not matter the difficulty, one must ensure to move forward and the good thing about you is you are able to motivate others because you came out victorous. What if you were defeated by the challenges, so many wont be hearing your words now.

Exactly! I really hope this can serve as motivation to those who are really struggling.

I am glad you find the way out of the hole!

In circumstances like that the most important is to maintain a positive mindset. Eventually with enough efffort any problem can be solved, that’s why having patience and perseverance is so important in life.

In my case, in Venezuela we are having extremely difficult times with the worst economic crises in our country’s history, but we can overcome that with hard and smart work, and having patience. If we do our best problems get solved one way or another, and the light can start to shine again.

Exactly! I love that you suggest the positive mindset that makes a world of difference, especially because negative mindsets can set us up for a downward spiral.

Aww I hope things get better in Venezuela. Things seem crazy here in the U.S. too. Sadly much of how our country is going is out of our control for the most part.

The last subtitle got me. : life can change so fast! In a split second!!!!

We just have to persevere and keep pushing on. There are a lot of challenges but when we believe that we can succeed and over come, we truly can!

Thank you for this insightful post..

Yes so many challenges :)

Thank you for this, the last several years have been pretty brutal and I'm just in the early stages of picking myself up. It's been a whole lot of learning, and a whole lot more to come. It always helps to know that I'm not alone.

Aww I'm glad you are spending time learning, That can help too. I feel like we often feel alone when we really aren't :(

I love what you just wrote. You have gone through so much. I did go through some similar staff too. You are perfect example of “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”

Thank you :) Its so true!

This is great advice and I think getting over relationships was something I struggled with longer than most people did, and you're completely right. It does absolutely no good.

I'm hoping that Steemit can be the game changer for me that it is for your. I'd love to do what makes me happy instead of doing what pays the bills. Each day my smile grows a little more as I get closer and closer to my dream!

Exaclty :) We are getting so close to our dreams with this platforms! And break ups really suck. I wish there was a way to get over them immediately. But sadly it often takes a while of being in pain until we can heal.

I think about this always. What if Miss 18-Year-old Kaylin, Threw in the towel? What If I let that horrible experience define my life? What If I allowed that to be an excuse for everything I failed to do?

These are the questions of victory, questions we sit and ask ourselves when we must have succeeded and when we much have defeated the battles of life.

This is so INSPIRATIONAL and I must confess that I have learnt a few things from you today

  1. We just have to move on

  2. Don't sit back and blame everyone what what happened to you or what goes wrong in our lives

  3. Get up and make a move.

  4. We have to learn to do what makes us happy

  5. And finally. Life can change so fast

Thanks a lot for sharing dear...I am inspired .

"Success will come and this is just preparing me for it" is what I tell myself when I'm going through difficulties in life, business or even academics.images (1).jpeg

hi @kaylinart, thanks for sharing this lesson, especially that "18 and life" stuff is pretty rough the moment you experience it.

then we - hopefully most of people - learn to stay strong, adjust the sails when we cannot change the wind.

totally you can have the world, given proper and directed effort.
well then, success, and keep those cool curls of yours - totally charming :-)

we all get stuck and confused sometime @kaylinart things are not always easy and can prove difficult for some, we have to overcome the struggles we face, will determine how we succeed and find our place, pointless of thinking if and what, and deal with the consequence.

Life is teacher ,we need to listen it and should meet things positively,worries only overpower your energy .yes we should cultivate new outlook in every unhealthy situations and move our thoughts to positivity. Thanks for sharing such a inspirational post, it's really be a turning point for some others .

It really sucks that you become a debt slave for an appendix surgery over there, however my life too is full of shit thrown at me, you either give up or get stronger than your obstacle, that's the only way and that's what really matter in life

I dont let that...
Thank you for your motivation...
Success is always for you @kaylinart..
I like it...

Thank you

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I agree. We have different kinds of downfall but its up to us if how we will react to it. Whats important is we stand and have courage to face it. Thanks for sharing your wonderful experience..

One word GENUINE... Have a great adventure in life... Up or down. Just keep moving... keep stepping... Be proactive and try to figure out how to get through it(words from kaylinart. Im stealing it...hehehe).

When I was 18, I was stuck in a crappy dead end low paying job, too. The thing that was horrible about it is in the small town I lived in, there wasn’t much opportunity for younger people like myself. To make a long story short , I eventually moved to a bigger city a ways away where I knew there was plenty of opportunity.

I never looked back.

Your story really break my heart, life not matter the difficulty, one must ensure to move forward thank God you get stronger than your obstacle, I really learn a lot from you to motivate myself thank you very much for sharing this wonderful story

Thank you for the motivation I love your writing keep it up

No problem :)

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you are so great @kaylinart with great patience you can pass the exam may your day always a successful friend

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Very inspirational post and a good reminder to keep on pushing forward.

I keep telling people this, forgiving and moving on is not what we do for others, it is what we do for ourselves.

Moving on allows YOU to stop hurting. It's a GIFT for YOU! Not the other person.

Thank you for furthermore increasing this thought in my heart.

And I will add this

when we quit all the wait ifs and what if nots and move in the direction that will be beneficial to our lives, we will always have ourselves to thank for this. Our downfalls should never define us.

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Yeah we all have our own sad part of our life ! But you are a strong women ! THank you for inspiring us !

here the patients of appendicitis are increasing day by day , due to lack of awareness people do not remove it,
and your story gives us courage to fight in life with difficulties

wow I want to congratulate you not only for this incredible and inspiring post, also because despite the problems you went ahead and now you serve as inspiration for many people, keep it up, I follow you are great! Blessings. I invite you to follow me

Great! I inspired!

I scrolled through your blog and it is awesome! You are an incredibly strong person and your stories are truly motivational. I’m sure your blog will help many people realize their inner powers to develop their skills and head to better life!

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Wow.Danke.
No seriously reading this helped me just with the depression and now all those pointless negative thoughts are gone and i think clear again...
Thank you for writing this :)