This year has been so overwhelming! I've always been the type of person who focuses on being proactive If you want something in life. Make it happen.
Make it work out!
But this year has made me realize that we have such little control over our lives.
I'm not saying you shouldn't try, Or you shouldn't do your best to get what you want. But it's made me realize that sometimes you are powerless to your situation.
Of course, You can choose to learn and grow from things, Or let them drag you down.
The World Is So Unfair!
We all know that.
But sometimes I feel it's easy to overlook and forget that. We become so "Entitled." Getting upset when things aren't dealt in a way we see as fair.
The reality is, The universe doesn't care about us. Or care about who is getting a better or worse situation. Things just happen. Out of our control. And we have to learn to deal with these things.
You Can't Control Everything
You can't control other people; You can't control every circumstance. And you can't control the random events that seem to happen.
But you can control how you react, How you feel and what you do about things.
This year I felt this a lot. I did everything I could to save my relationship of six years, But He couldn't forgive me for all the past mistakes I made. Even though I had completely changed on those things. Ultimately it was out of my control, and our relationship fell apart.
I couldn't force him to try if he didn't want to.
I also had a family member become extremely sick. Again out of my control. Luckily she's better now. But I couldn't prevent it Or make it go away.
And of course, With @lauralemons We couldn't force her to stay here if she didn't want to. It was out of our control.
It's heartbreaking because sometimes no matter how proactive we are, We are still "screwed." And we won't get what we want no matter how much we fight it Or try to make it work. But also sometimes it's not even about us. It's about what others want,
Life Forces us to move forward
We can't just abandon every responsibility of our lives when something goes wrong. While I'd rather just lay in bed all day. Because I haven't wanted to do much else.
I have to get work done; I have to do my taxes otherwise I won't be able to maintain my self-employment. While I'm not ready to just put things aside for a minute, I know I have to.
This year has been so rough. And while there are a million things I "Wish" I could do. I know that the only thing I really can do, Is to keep trying and hope that next year is better. And work hard to make the things I can control better!
Things are just rough right now.
Note: If you want to donate SBD Or Steem, You can send me the funds on here, Let me know they are for Laura, And give me the name you want me to put on it, And I will donate USD on the page. I'm trying to help in any way I can, and I hope this will make things easier for her friends. I will also post a receipt of your donation :)
life I what we project it to be :)
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Right ! agreed !
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Life certainly isn't fair. Even though I wasn't close to her I still felt this loss pretty deeply as she was one of the few people that would interact with me on my earlier days on steemit. People like her and girlbeforemirror that helped me find my way out of that darkness and this is a good reminder that I should let people know that I appreciate them while I have the chance. I just hope she found her peace. I hope everyone finds peace at some point.
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Exactly :( It really makes you want to make sure you are there for others because you don't know how much longer they'll be around.
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I was taking myself very seriously when I was going through life changes. And I realized that I needed to laugh at myself, particularly at my mistakes.
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Laughing at your mistakes is a good one.
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Love life and enjoy each moment of it.
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Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.
Jim Rohn
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Wow love that quote.
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thank you :D
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True haha.
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Lion king <3 my love <3
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Life is so unpredictable. No one really knows if tomorrow is promised or not , we plan days , months and years ahead but forget to live for today . We should live in the moment , love one another , care for one another . Because we don't know if our loved ones will be here with us tomorrow . We should always tell the ones we love that we love them everyday because in the end, no one wants to live with regrets.
Laura is in a safe place now , she is no longer suffering and she is watching down on us and we have to smile for her . Heaven has gained an Angel
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Buen post, muy interesante
Saludos desde Ecuador :)
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Aww I agree! We need to live in the moment more!
I'm glad she's not suffering anymore. I just hope if something is after this, That it's much better than here!
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I like
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Thanks
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Life is totally unfair, I keep saying I must have been an evil bitch on a past life as I'm getting paid back for it now
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Awww I'm Sorry LOL But that is such a funny and awesome way of looking at it! Who knows I might of been one too lol.
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Lol its what I have always said, Then my next life will be awesome as I have suffered on this one :)
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Control.
That's the key element... to think we actually have control over anything is the great deception... we don't.
Which is not to say-- as you did-- that being proactive, and a go-getter and ambitious is a waste of time. Those are good things. But what we really can put out there is our desires and intent... and then we must let go of any attachment to it "being so." Because life can always throw us a curve ball.
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So true! It's easy to forget we don't have control. Until we see the curveball.
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It seems that the last two years have been very tough for many and I feel you pain in the ending of your relationship. Also the death of Laura I did not know here but experience her presence on here and myself have experienced a lot of death in the last couple of years that was unjust. But as you say we can control it, I love you outlook. Sending you Reiki energy an hugs :)
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Thank you very much! I don't know what the deal is. It seems as though many of us are in a slump.
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Yer the energies are low, my Reiki is not happening at the moment I need a lift. But I can feel a rise again there has been a recent change I have felt, people are waking @kaylinart slowly. It will gather pace but there is a big things a head and challenges for humanity
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We overestimate our influence. This is why the control freaks can become a mess when faced with the reality you have come to terms with. There is little we can actually do about a great deal of stuff, Life just happens and its beyond us.
Mindset determines if this realization affects you adversely or not.
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It's true, we have no control yet we are programmed from birth to think we have. This has been a dreadful year for me also, all we can do is keep on keeping on. Love K Up-voted
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Thank you! I hope things get better for you too.
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This is absolutely correct. Some people claim that they perform miracle but there exist sick people all over the world. Going by what they claim, they suppose to use the power to heal everyone that is sick, to show that everything is under their control.
In another aspect, aircraft are built and maintained by experts. But to show that things are not always under the control of man, the plane will crash for one reason or the other.
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Wow I Love this comment! It's true, People have the idea that they have so much control when they really don't.
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if we feel the world is cruel and unjust. Remember God is testing our patience. never ask "oh why god?"
if we are patient and can pass the test of life, then God will multiply what you need not what you want.
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Great post!
Well said! Allow me to add ...deal with these things "positively", since being negative about a situation seems to attract more negativity. It's not from some book on attraction, but what I have experienced myself.
No, you can't control everything. But most people(including me) are guilty of not controlling things that can easily be in good control, for a simple and generic example, our own time!
But then you're an optimist and a doer, two things that are more than enough for continued success.
Thanks for putting the Go Fund Me link - I have added it to my Tribute To Laura post.
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@kaylinart..
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very nice post, but God the one in control not us.
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I don't believe in god. So I see it a bit differently than you do .
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After the deception of releasing control, I usually realize I didn't need to control.
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Wise words! I used to call it the cosmic two by four. I guess that is what it took to make me realize that there is a plan and I can control only a small part of it. So sorry for your losses this year. Be happy. 🐓🐓
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Yeah i agree life isnt fair....always in purpose to change your life, make it better but as one famous russian politician said ( Chernomyrdin Viktor): "We wanted the best but it turned out as always" or another that is proper for me :D " Whatever organization we create, we always end up with the Communist Party"
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Life forces us to move forward and forward we WILL move. Time heals all wounds and space heals all pain.
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The Universe seems random and vast. It is infinite and we are all a part of that infinite vastness... we are all connected. When we remember that it makes it a little easier to accept things the way they are and live with kindness and love for everyone ... Carl Sagan has helped me make sense of this Universe. I will share his words from the Pale Blue Dot.
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Amazing post @kaylinart. I agree with you in a way we have no control over our lives, and that we are in control over our own actions. I think that a lot of people are happy only in their good times or when they get what they want, but if you really want to be happy in life you have to be happy deep within, even when the hard times. Our happiness should not depend on our circumstances or what is going on in the world because we will never be happy. In the hard times we should not be complaining, but start reminding ourselves of all the blessings in our lives. And I think that is the key to happiness. We can't look at what we don't have or can do, but see our blessings and enjoy the life by moving forward with what we have. It takes the same energy to think and say negative things into your life as it does the positive things. I want to live my life believing and dreaming that God will bring great things into my life, even if it doesn't happen because that is still better than not believing and live unhappy for the rest of my life. I personally don't think that universe cares about us, but I know God does and he is the one directing our steps and we think sometimes that we are in control over our lives and we can do anything if we just keep pushing and yes that is good and how we should live, but if this is not Gods plan for us, then that is the only way we have no control, because He controls it all. We all have a purpose here on this earth and we have a choice to either enjoy the ride or not.
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You should be able to accept the fact, the departure of @lauralemons has indeed become the choice of her own, keep the spirit and move to become a more successful!
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hello @kaylinart my best wishes always with you and I hope you will get success very soon
follow me @aliraza55 thank you.👍😊
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If there is anything in life you can change then do but try to live with that one you cannot change
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Life is advanture... thank for sharing...
change will always come in life, because life needs sacrifice to change...
Success is always for you @kaylinart...
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Thanks for sharing... Love it.
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Thanks
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Nice picture @kaylinart sister, let alone spiked with a bright color so and the location scenery was not hugely beautiful
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Falling and learning from your past mistakes is your greatest teacher, but remember, getting back up is what matters the most.d(⌒ー⌒)
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wow .. very beautiful with beautiful natural scenery and cool. like an angel who descended from the sky @kaylinart
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Life is all about ups and downs. If life had only ups and no downs, challenges then life would have been boring... As we know even a straight line on ECG means u r no more..... Voted..
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Thanks
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Life is something you can live only once as the time flies like at the speed of a bullet.
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no one control everything on earth!!!
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Exactly :)
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Thank you :)
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Absolutely no one cares " The universe doesn't care about us " there is no one here its only you who can and who can't ! life depends on us we can make it heaven or hell and yeah sometimes the situation became out from our control we need to pray to god and that time ! :) May God bless everyone and helps out from those bad situations :)
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All life come to a conclusion at the end, the all msitakes, all blunders, All donations and all the charities we gave in our life will be remembered after we leave. That is not the case how wealthy or prosperous we have been throughout our life, if we did not affect the lives of othere by our deeds, that life is like of a living corpse who just eat and sleep to to alive.
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Wow . . Wow . . Wow
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Thank you <3
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wow picture are looking so beautiful,i love this photography
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