Why You Should Stop Giving a Damn For 2019

 The More You Visualize Success The More it Seems You Don't Have Any

This may sound a little bit counter-intuitive but we are always taught to think about success as this distant far away goal that we will get to one day when the millions start rolling in, but what about thinking of yourself as successful already as you are now? Thinking about the type of person you want to be instead of just being that person only reinforces the idea that you are not that thing. The more you think about success as something you have already, the more possible it feels, the more confident you are, and it's great for your ego. Let's think like a winner this year.

The Key to Having a Good Life is Giving a Damn About Less

This may sound odd, but have you ever thought about focusing more on what is true, immediate, and important? We tend to give a damn all too often about little things that don't really impact our lives in any way and only take away from concentrating on what really matters. Try freeing your mind by turning off the notifications on your daily news app talking about celebrity drama every once in a while, and stop worrying about things outside of your control that have nothing to do with your life.

We Have so Much Stuff That we Don't Know What to Give a Damn About Anymore

In this day and age where people's value seems to be based on what phone you have, it can be pretty exhausting trying to keep up with having all the latest items. We do not have a material crisis since our daily lives are filled with shopping, advertisements, and getting the latest trending items, we in fact have a spiritual crisis. We have so many material things that we truly don't need, and don't know what to do with anymore. The confusion lies with having so much stuff and opportunities that we don't even know what to give a damn about anymore. We are no longer paying attention to what's inside of us because we are so focused on keeping up with what is outside. Social media has driven more people than ever to plastic surgery, people are going broke trying to look rich to keep up with the Jones's, and everything has become about how you look not how you feel. Can someone say crisis again? Let's give a damn about how happy we feel and engage in more life experiences and stop obsessing over material things and looks. Based on numerous studies, material things did not make people more happy.

Infinite Knowledge Can Lead to Infinite Comparisons

Now that we have more access to the world and can see everything that everyone is doing, it has a huge effect on our psyches. Now we have a infinite amount of ways to see how we don't measure up to others, how we are not good enough, and how things are not as great as they could be. Focus on the good things that you have in your life right now, rather than on lack. It will only attract more good things. The more you compare to others, the more you will always feel like you have nothing. Whatever happened to gratitude? Your alive aren't you?

Not Giving a Damn is Not Being Indifferent, it Means Your Comfortable With Being Different

It's okay to be different and to want different things out of life than other people, that is why we are all made as unique individuals. You don't have to not give a damn about everything in life, just be selective about the unimportant things and you will start to see that the many things we focus on daily are really not that important at all. If you prefer watching documentaries on Netflix over watching reality television, watch documentaries. Just because your friend wants you to keep up with the Kardashians does not mean you have to, it's a trap! Being a people pleaser will be a slow and awful death to your soul, so be yourself and say no when you feel like saying no. If you don't want to go to the club with your drunk friends, and would rather sleep, say no. Don't worry you will still have friends, and a little more respect for yourself.

It is Okay For Life to Suck Some of The Time

Newsflash, life is never going to be perfect and you shouldn't expect it to be that way. You will only be setting yourself up for a life filled with hurt, depression, and disappointment. It is not healthy to expect perfection out of yourself, your life, or from anyone. We can't hope for a life without problems, we can merely hope for a life with "good" problems. How you may ask? well a good problem would be having a job that is boring, but your bills are paid and you are able to pay down on your debt. That does not mean you can't pursue your passions, but don't quit your job with no savings to pursue modeling and expect life to just work out. If you hate your job, create a exit strategy and be smart. If something bad happens outside of our control, the least we can do is focus on how we can get through the problem, rather than focusing on the problem itself. Some suffering will always be inevitable, and that's okay. Even when someone becomes rich they will still have problems, the problems just shift. Problems will never stop they just get merely exchanged or upgraded. True happiness is found in solving problems not by avoiding them. Turning to drugs or alcohol for temporary fixes will never make your problems go away, it will just be there waiting for you when your sober again, adding some health problems to your already growing list of problems. Find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving, this may sound strange but happiness can be found this way. A doctor's passionate problem may be to find a cure to a disease, what is your cure to a passionate problem in life?

You Are Going to Die Someday

This is not meant to sound dark, it is just the reality that we as humans seem to lose touch of. We are all going to die one day and everyone we know is going to die one day. In this short life that we have here on earth, we only have a certain amount of time to give a damn, so will you join me in choosing for 2019 how much you want to give a damn? Our days are numbered so let's care a little more about giving less of a damn about what doesn't matter, and focus on what is most important, it will change your life.