Not being able to have children is not a sign of weakness. Weakness is more than a battle of the mind, it is a war zone that devastates the mind and the vessel that carries it around, your body.
Weakness has seen many fall off the wagon that takes you on that joyride that is the journey of life. Last week, I was at the hospital to visit a dear friend and after talking with her for over an hour, i got to know that the problems she faces are not the sickness the doctors diagnosed, but that of Weakness, one that she cannot fight off.
She has been married for 9 years and without a child. She has had to endure years of battery from her husband and his family and just last week which was what got her on the hospital bed, she was informed of the family's intention to get the husband a new more younger, attractive and sterile wife.
As a lady, how can you bear to stand and watch your home crumble because you are unable to make babies for your husband? Can you really equate that pain to something that will easily go away?
Can you be strong to fight this battle when everyone on the other side is against you?
What can you do when all your strength seems to be zapped from you and all you see is weakness?
I have to wonder about myself and figure out what went wrong in the process of trying to be a person whose shortcomings are not used against them. Weakness is the biggest single destroyer of man and no matter how much you try to show you are strong, you will never be able to get off that crumbling deck of card.
This is for every woman out there who find it hard to overcome their weakness.
Wait it out and be yourself, the weakness you feel is not what you will stay used to for long. There is better days ahead and you must look to that moment.
This is how many have come to know life, having children for many is a do or die affair and when they do not get it, they turn on the woman and throw her out.
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I do not believe that a sterile woman is any lesser of a person than anyone else (it really Isn't her fault); however, every partner has the right to determine what is important to them. For some people children are very important. For some people children are not important. What is a deal breaker for one man isn't for the other. The man who wants children isn't a bad person because of it (just as the man who does not want children is not bad)...they just want what they want. Hopefully the couple will explore other options to have children like adoption. Thanks for sharing.
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My thought exactly, having children is important in marriage and what is also important is life that will help them navigate this hard time.
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Funny at times the woman may not even be the one to say is the problem. That is if one is desperate enough to look for who to blame.
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Nice post. In my opinion children are the secret of the life and love
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They are and getting them is also not in the hands of the couple, but of God.
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Anyone that advocates for that in this 21st century deserves to be sent back to the 13th Century as punishment for this type of archaic reasoning. Whatever happens to adoption? Nice article 👍
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