People often suggest, “stop partying and grow up a little!” as if adulthood and responsibilities were dull. No, we can be adults and have issues other than our parents', including starting a family and owning real estate, which many young people no longer want. Why follow these adulthood visions?
How can we design a new ageing method if we don't want that? Breaking convention requires noise. We can already hear the complaints of intolerant people. The conservatives! These folks argue that you need children, a house, and a job to prosper.
Their life mission is avoiding adolescent attitude. You decide what to think, but grownups should be in control of their emotions and combine conviction, rigour, excitement, and tolerance.
Why do we want to grow up if it means replacing pleasure with reality, utopia with logic, celebration with duty, and freedom with boredom? Some people think becoming an adult has something to do with that, but it doesn't. Adulthood means growing and evolving, not freezing.
This is why you see 8-year-old adults, 35-year-old teens, and 26-year-old males A fulfilled adult is a successful, happy child who now cares about others. As we age, we become accountable for others and realise that giving, sympathising, and loving are true joys.
Even if we tell you everything about adulthood, you must first be free to choose. We can choose a profession, friends, hobbies, and more. Being an adult means knowing what you're giving up by making this choice.
Your decisions determine you in life. As adults, we can choose or give up. Recognising your error and pursuing another course is possible, but turning back is not! Therefore, it's a decision.
Being a grownup means personal fulfilment. You should develop freely without a model. What made you pick this life? Are these your choices or instilled? Have you considered your unconscious life choices?
Our life choices are influenced by our family model. But don't compare. It would be a silly and nasty error that you'll regret later for doing things for others rather than yourself.
Feeling free to do things differently from your family means finding your own way of thinking, organising your time, choosing your values, friends, and projecting yourself into the future and thinking about the life you want.
Do we need marriage to assume responsibility? Marriage is an adult affair because it involves obligations. Marriage is primarily a technique to formalise a connection and express that we are delighted with our partner.
For some, adulthood involves going through the childhood box. I must have children to stop being this child I see in myself. Even after gaining experience, some people can't consider themselves as grownups since some aspects would place them back in a child's position, such their relationship with their parents.
Fatherhood or motherhood is their most grownup role. Why this feeling? As a parent, you feel more mature than ever since you pass on to your children. Adulthood involves a life and family plan for them.