Each physical ailment is linked to a style of thinking for Lise Bourbeau. Thus, difficulties digesting food corresponds to problems digesting well, or accepting another person or situation.
Having trouble accepting a circumstance or someone's attitude and behaviour causes a lot of emotions. What distinguishes emotions from feelings?
Feelings are accusatory and non-accepting. After criticising ourselves or others, we stop feeling since our ego has taken over our emotions because it disagrees with what is happening.
Mental activity dominates, causing fury. Anger can lead to violence, impatience, intolerance, frustration, resentment, and hatred. Behind these sentiments is often considerable anguish or despair. For what? Because stopping to feel hurts our soul.
The ability to feel simply seeing without mental activity or accusation is a sensation. Example: admiration at a gorgeous sight, joy at a child's laughter, etc. Negative situations can also cause it, such as fear when we almost fall or abandonment when someone forgets us.
To call something a sensation, we must sense what is happening inwardly and be able to look at it without judgement. The ability to feel and allow ourselves to be human, including worries from unhealed soul scars.
A person who can feel this way without judgement can see others' struggles without criticising them. She will avoid emotions and digestion issues this way.
Most people confuse the stomach and heart since they are so close. A person who does not love unreservedly attempts to fill his stomach. His inner self may see everything and everyone without judging them good or terrible, right or wrong. She accepts individuality.
The person who is not judgements and criticises when things or people don't go their way. For instance, a woman cannot accept her husband's tendency of putting off tasks till tomorrow.
She calls this behaviour a “bad habit” based on childhood beliefs. Every time he does this, she gets angry, whether she says so or not. If she doesn't express it, her body will suffer more.
This anger hinders her from being in her heart and feeling the anxieties awakened within her, as well as from knowing what her spouse is experiencing, which would help her identify the fears that prohibit her from acting.
Why is accepting others without criticising them so hard yet wanting to change them so easy? Mostly from betrayal or injustice hurts.
When someone behaves unexpectedly, betrayal wounds open. We think a lover should always gratify us. We don't distinguish “pleasing” from “liking”. Someone can love us while not meeting our expectations.
For instance, refusing to do what a woman wants today does not mean he doesn't love her. Simply expressing his preference. If following his desire puts him in danger, that simply worries him because he will have to pay the price.
Madame's strong feelings stem from her mistaken belief that she will bear the repercussions. Responsibility states that no one comes to earth to take on others' mistakes. Those with many emotions, who feel bad, or who strive to make others feel guilty violate this law of responsibility.