Take it easy on the little things in life

Some people, whether they treat their colleagues or their families, are always fussy, never willing to suffer a little loss.

This kind of people tend to think bigger things than millstones. If they think that others have encroached on his interests, they will resolutely refuse to allow them. They often make the units and families fly like chickens and dogs and have no peace.

Haggling over every ounce is a standard for us to evaluate a person's mentality and values. People who refuse to make any concessions when they meet things will be repugnant when they interact with others.

There are more or less buckets, the scales are higher or lower, and the scales are slightly different. Everything has a probability, and there is no absolute balance or average. The reason why everything in the universe moves endlessly lies in the fact that everything is always undergoing cyclic changes from imbalance to balance and from balance to imbalance. Therefore, there is no absolute balance and fairness in the universe. Since there is no absolute fairness, life should not be haggled over every ounce for trivial matters, demanding absolute fairness.

Compromise often complicates, contradicts and even struggles things. Most unpleasant things come from haggling over every ounce. It should be the basic principle of people's life to grasp everything in a big way. Life should be generous and avoid haggling over every ounce.

There are two aspects to haggle over every ounce, one is the interests and the other is the feelings. In the process of getting along with people, we often see such phenomena: those who are incapable are in high positions, and those who are capable are not talented. People who do little or no work get higher wages than those who do things. The same thing, if you do it well, the boss will not only criticize you but also find fault with your eggs, while another person will screw things up and get praise and encouragement from the boss ... Such things, we will be angry when we read them, and we will confidently say: "This is simply unfair!"

Fair, this is a very hurtful word, because each of us will feel that we are being treated unfairly. In fact, there is no 100% fairness in this world. The more you want to seek 100% fairness, the more you will feel that others are unfair to you.

In fact, in the face of some petty profits, we should not haggle over every ounce, the most important thing is to correct our mentality, and we don't have to demand 100% fairness in everything, otherwise we will have a hard time with ourselves. Look on the little things in life, don't worry about the things that have passed, and put your energy and time into creating new values. In this way, it may not be fair in terms of individual matters, but it is fair on the whole.

In addition, we can try to achieve fairness through our own efforts, for example, we can change the standard of measuring fairness. Fairness is relative, and the standard for measuring fairness is not static. When you look at the problem from another angle, you will find that you get more than you lose.

Unfair is a subjective feeling after comparison, so as long as we change the standard of comparison, we can eliminate the unfair feeling psychologically. And unfair psychology is also caused by refusing to give up some of your own interests. If you think about it carefully, how much role can those interests play in your life? If it doesn't make much difference, you might as well give it up. First, you can win people's hearts. Second, you don't have to worry about trivial things.

Some people are used to haggling over every ounce. He doesn't feel so tired. Actually otherwise, although the human head has infinite potential, when your head is tired of some insignificant things, your life will be transformed slowly, and the problems in your mind will gradually be limited to these little things. This is not only a waste of time and energy, but also a waste of your brain power on these useless things.

If you can be open-minded, give up those petty profits, and your brain only thinks about those important things that play a "qualitative" role in your life, then there will be unlimited room for potential development. Wouldn't it be more meaningful if you had time to take care of everything and relax your brain and do some exercise beneficial to your brain?