The 7 profitable steps of the Dalai Lama's negotiating philosophy!

 He won in the negotiations with the "one - win - everything" model.

 Jetsun Djamfel Ngaqing Lobsang Jess Tenzin Giazco is the 14th Dalai Lama.

In 1989 he received the Nobel Peace Prize. There are a number of publications and books, and every public event is always a subject of world interest. The Dalai Lama goes beyond the notion of spiritual leader, uniting spiritual, secular and business into a philosophy that deserves to be considered.

Today I will tell you about Dalai Lama's " one-win-everything " negotiating technique .

So far, there have been only two types of win-win and win-win negotiation strategies.
The first technique is aimed only at satisfying the interests of one side, while the latter is slightly more open to the needs of the other participants in the negotiations. With the Dalai Lama's method, everyone wins you, the rest of the people at the negotiating table, society and the whole world.

The Dalai Lama is known as a peaceful person, and so you may think that if you negotiate like him, you will be doomed to retreat.

Actually not!

This strategy does not mean you will be the loser and always the reluctant.

Negotiating like the Dalai Lama means that you will get what you want, and everyone else in the negotiations will get what it needs.

The philosophy is to do what you agree to be good for everyone else!

Let me show you how!

• Step 1 - Smile and have a sense of humor.

Remember - after the negotiations, the people around the table will not disappear. When the deal is over, you will be doing business with these people so be kind, entertain, create friendships as much as possible.

Remember that the best connection is one where your love for each other exceeds the need to be together.

• Step 2 - Always sit on the same side at the negotiating table, which is the other negotiators.

When you sit opposite others, they often perceive you as an opponent right from the start. It is important to create the idea that you are from the same team and your friends are sitting next to each other, right?

It is best to forget about the big, massive table.

Negotiates on a table of glass or on separate chairs next to each other because transparency and proximity are the key to friendship.

This will create the feeling that all negotiators are pursuing common interests.

I'm defeating my enemies by making them my friends.

• Step 3 - Understand what problems the other party wants to solve and help solve them.

The one-win-all technique has one main goal in the talks - Help. Discover the problems of others and help them solve them.

"The open heart is an open mind" - the Dalai Lama

• Step 4 - Do not be angry, whatever happens!

Someone will press you, another will try to get you out of balance. Remember - nothing personal, just business. So do not be angry, take a deep breath and exhale.  Think of "one - win - everything".

"There is only one way to change the mind of the other - by affection and affection, not by aggression"

• Step 5  - Ask yourself the question "How will the outcome of the negotiations affect the rest of the world?"

If everyone wins - continue the negotiations. If you did not - imagine how you could achieve the satisfaction of all parties through the negotiations and move on. If you do not see the one-win-all option - just give up.

When you lose, do not lose the lesson. - Dalai Lama

• Step 6 - If one of the negotiators is rude, start over (go back to Step 1: Smile).

Do not let others influence you negatively. Instead, do everything possible to influence them positively. Or just leave!

The actions of others should not determine your answers.

• Step 7 -  Do not say no, but say "yes, you could if ...".

This is a cunning move in the Dalai Lama style negotiations. Never say no. Always say "yes, if ...", then add the desired actions.

Here's how it works:

Imagine that you negotiate with a large oil company that wants to drill a well in a place where birds nest. They say to you:

              "Our study shows that it is impossible not to spill oil.

              Perhaps many endangered birds will die, but we want to get oil anyway and we will pay for it.

 "You want to say, "There is no way," right?

Using the technique of the Dalai Lama you will not have to.

Instead, say:

         "Yes, if you find a way to do it without the possible damage, so that no bird is injured. Besides, you'll pay me $ 10,000,000 for every injured bird - do you agree? "

You will not have to say no, because in this case the other side will say it - because of your inability to meet your requirements. The Dalai Lama says "yes, if ..." and allows the other side to say no. Sweet, is not it?

Use your new negotiating technique just for good!

There is no 100% winner or 100% loser - not so. Everything is 50 to 50. That's the way, the only way.