Assume Responsibility, Assume Control

in life •  7 years ago 

It's not your fault? Well how are you gonna fix it then?

As always you can watch the video first, and then read the blog or do both :)

It's Not About Blame, It's About Control

Hey listen, you can whine as much as you want about leafs laying around in your street that came from your neighbours tree, and you may be right, it's her tree and she has to clean them up. Guess what? They might or they may not. If you assume responsibility of keeping your street clean you grab a broom and throw them out and Guess What? Your street is clean.

Ow it's not our responsibility, it's not our fault, someone else should take care of it, yeah yeah, bla bla bla. If you really want something to change, you have to assume responsibility and do it yourself.

Take Action

  • You want to make sure you can pay your mortgage? Don't rely on your boss not to fire you, create multiple income streams?

  • You want your marriage to succeed. Don't rely on your husband not to cheat on you, make sure he doesn't want to.

  • You want to not get caught drunk driving. Don't rely on the cops to be at the Dunkin Donut, simply do not get behind the wheel.

  • You want revenue to go up for your sales team? Don't rely on your agents to figure out how, show them the way.

Don't Overdo It

I'm not saying you should become Mother Theresa over here and assume blame or responsibility for everything you notice around you. Just do so when you want to be in control. There is no point in trying to take care of everything. Yet if something is important to you, why wouldn't you want to be in control? So go out and find some stuff that you thought wasn't in your jurisdiction and expand it, to include all the things that matter to you!

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Beautiful, really amazing words and tips thank you
Great post from you
Thanks for sharing this with us

Thanks @slimanepro :)

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Hey @mghan I will talk about this in the coming week, so make sure to stay tuned!

To conclude, treat everything or everyone justly and rightfully with clean conscience.

@elizafhaye Ughh yes! :) of course, but that was not really my message here. My message was, make sure you take responsibility for your actions, and even things that are not caused by your own actions, so you can start to take control and actually change the situation :)

I love this post.

The world will come to an end if we all dont care of our surroundings.

It is our responsibility to look after. Do it wirh the love of natures.

Imagine there is a chaotic in Boracay- it is close becuase of seawages that over populated because NO ONE BLOODY CARE BUT ONLY THINK OF GETTING MONEY FROM TOURIST. So sad...😭😭

haha! Im whining....
@elvielins

Hey @elvielins thanks! Yes we need to take responsibility of our planet as well :)

You speak the truth sir...
Nice post you have there

Thanks @edibobo

wow
thanks very helpful

Glad to here you like it @eli11eli :)

very true, you have to have responsibility, be aware, do not trust anyone and especially if you want something to go well do it yourself. REGARDS!

Thanks @lucianorome I just don't get the do not trust anyone bit haha. I don't mind trusting people, as long as it is the right people, trusted with the right things :)

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Right...or left...hehhehe I'm joking :) your words are wise...
and also about not to get too obsessed with control..
Greetings from Bulgaria! ;)

Thanks @trayan :) I have a few friend from Bulgaria, I would love to visit your country soon and will probably do so in the summer :)

Great! You're very welcome to our near mountain town Sliven too!
You can msg me www.trayan.info
..or here ;)

Ah cool! thank you :)

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Genial!! siempre he dicho que nuestras acciones moldean nuestro caracter y son las que dan testimonio en nuestra vida... debemos siempre tomar el control de las cosas que nos afectan o llegasen a afectar en algun momento!

Que buen post! Gracias!!

Thanks @emmagll I used google translate to read your post as I don't speak enough Spanish myself. Thanks! :)

jejeje good!!

Thanks @emmagll :) happy to see you out here!

You have me in love with those eyes 🤣😍

I mean, your picture is really small but you seem to have lovely eyes as well :) But thank you @adrianav :) make sure to check out my instagram for more content :) @markdeheide

Excellent! Of course yes

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Truth 💯
@markdeheide
We must take responsibility for the outcome of our lives !

Yes @nigerian-yogagal we certainly must! Now I'm curious if you practice yoga in Nigeria or somewhere else.

I practice in Nigeria..... 😁

Ah nice! :) So great to hear there is yoga all over the world :) did you see my post about community? I talk about my Acroyoga community there :)

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Great post!
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It is true if you do not take control of your life, you will not see change or progress in life

@luisrincon yes. Or, you do see change and progress but it may not turn out to be what you are aiming for, due to the fact that the change is caused by your surroundings.

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And if you clean a garbage just in front of the person who did it, then that person will definitely feel ashamed and He will not do it next time.

@kumarbishnoi but that's not really the point of my post to make people feel ashamed :)

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@kumarbishnoi no need to apologise :)

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It's so easier to blame other people for your actions, or not taking any action. It's easier to deal with other peoples lives than your own. Being responsible means being volnurable and admiting you are in a wrong and saying I'm sorry I made a mistake. Some people would rather die, thank to say I'm sorry. Sadly ...Great post :)

Thanks @sasharay yes some people are having a lot of trouble actually admitting they were wrong. I don't really get that, I mean I know I will be wrong anyway sometimes in my life, it's nice to know when it happens so that I can improve.

I totally agree with your @markdeheide. There is even a Croatian song I'm Sorry, where the artist is lyrics goes ... Lakše umrijet, nego ljudima reč Oprosti (It's easier to die than say I'm sorry). I admit my mistakes and always say I'm sorry, even when I'm in the bad mood and moody, I say sorry if I snappy at you​ today, just avoid me and we will be fine :)

:) ah that sounds like a good song!

Very educational :)

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I dig the post and the message, sir. I see it too often - people complaining about their current situation while at the same time taking no responsibility to fix it themselves. Perhaps many people don't believe in themselves enough to just put in the work - I am not sure. Hopefully, you will inspire people to cut that stuff out.

@counselorx yes, it is the idea that they do not have the power to change the situation which is of course due to the way we have been raised, what we have been taught at school etc. Because our economic system would take a blow if people wouldn't be dependent on others anymore :)

Should I then spy on my partner to ensure he is not unfaithful?

@vanejournalist that is reactive, because in that case you are still waiting for somebody else to do something or not, yet you just want to catch them in the act.

Assuming responsibility for your relationship means that you treat your partner in a way that makes him or her not want to be unfaithful, and if it does happen to have a close look at what you yourself did or didn't to prevent that from happening.

Simply spying on someone isn't going to change their feelings and thoughts, putting in effort in your relationship might.

Then again, some people are just dicks and no matter how good they have it at home they will always look for something on the side.

Very well, now if I understand your point, thank you very much for clarifying.

Nice post bro

Thanks @lect1

I definitely agree that more people need to start taking responsibility for their actions rather than complaining about the way things are. However, I would also like to add that there are some things we can't control and have to accept, and once we accept these things, our lives will become much easier. Basically, I think we should do everything we can to get everything we want, but if uncontrollable factors don't allow it, then we shouldn't stress too much about it.

@jessica23 in the case of things we cannot control and have to accept on elf the things we have to start controlling is our response to unchangeable things. It's not what happens, it is what you do with it. And that is indeed another addition that can be made to my blog here :) Thanks Jessica! :)

Interesting, i hope this is also related to the topic
Interviewer VS Applicant

Ah yes indeed @haseez it does relate :)

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Yay! :) Glad to hear you like it @vegetta2900 :)

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