Why you must stop buying girls drinks!!

“Men buy the drinks, girls call the shots”
Steve Holy

You must stop buying girls a drink!? “What is this guy talking about?” Let he without sin cast the first stone right? Who hasn’t bought a girl a drink? … but you see this is precisely my point. Everybody does it ...

Let’s have a look at this cultural practise.

First of all let me make one thing clear, this is not a “ Men Vs. Woman”, or any of that non sense, article. However it is written by a man and even thou the female reader might find it enjoyable and useful, it is directed mainly at men. Also I do not mean NEVER buying a girl a drink. The situation we are illustrating is the approaching a girl in a bar with the “ Can I buy you a drink” line.

So let’s start with the first and more obvious issue with this situation. It’s BORING, it’s predictable, unoriginal and it shows your lack of individuality. Imagine you are an attractive girl and you have guys coming to talk to you on a daily basis. Since you where 16 you have had guys every nigh offering to buy you drinks as a mens to “talk” to you… and then here you come and what do you say? “ Can I buy you a drink?” just like every other predictable guy she has encountered… so… that alone should be enough to get you to stop buying girls drinks. It will get you further away from her bed.

Secondly… it does show a lack of confidence and originality. If you are this amazing guy with cool stories and things to say, nice jokes and skills to show, if people usually like your company and if woman are generally attracted to you, do you think “Can I buy you a drink?” would be the first thing out of your moth? I doubt it.

What this tells her at a subconscious ( or conscious ) level is, “this guy has nothing to offer, is company is plain and forgettable, so his offering me a drink because that’s how he thinks I would talk to him.” Do you want that? …. ( No more rhetorical questions I promise)

Let your presence in the social interaction be the currency in demand rather than your actual government currency converted into alcohol.

Note, you are offering alcohol (even thou we are not promoting an alcohol free life in this article) this might lead to the notion that you just want to get her drunk in order for her to get more implosive and with a clouded judgement. This might not fly with some girls, and again, where is your confidence and character?… “ I need to get her drunk so she will sleep with me”… not the best way to go in my humble opinion. And do not forget that girls need to fell safe in order to have sex with someone. And your chances might get hurt if she fells you are trying to get her drunk.

If she is with a group of friends and you only buy her a drink, it shows that you are expecting something from her in a non classy and insecure way.

So it is safe to say that in general the buying a drink “technique” will make it less probable that you will get intimate with the girl, but there are other implications…

“He has paid me a drink, should I go with hm to pay it back?” … You do not want this. You do not want the girl to fell obliged to “pay you back” in any way, shape or form. You want her to fell safe, happy to be with you and that she has total control over her choice.

Also, you can stumble into a girl that has no interest in you at all but would not mind using you for free drinks. In that case you’re better of saving your money and spending it the next day on a massage or nice dinner for yourself. But yes, she will stay around you and maybe even flirt a bit, but when the lights go out she will turn her back on you and leave you alone. She only wanted your drinks and you gave it to her, transaction completed. You have just wasted time and money and now you fell kinda crappy.

Thus far we have seen a few reasons not to buy a drink ( and allow me point out that they are not financial). Mainly it will hurt your chances of getting intimate with her, other than being the boring move she has seen a million times, it shows lack of confidence and character, it can make her a bit uncomfortable and imply other stuff.

So in conclusion… You must stop buying girls a drink.

There are nice girls out there and if you can afford it there are plenty of circumstances where you can and should buy her something. If you meet her at a coffee shop buy her the coffee if you want. If you go on a dinner date and she is low on cash don’t be afraid to pay for it. And even if you meet her that night but you already had an awesome time together get her a drink at the end. But approaching a girl in a club with “can I buy you a drink?”... ai ai ai...

And if you are buying girls a drink, well… then stop complaining how women only use you for your money. Because not only are you allowing it, you are also incentivising it, by using your money as the reason she should be around you… So don’t complain and give her other reasons to talk to you.

Drink a green juice instead. hehehehe