Speaking Yourself Into or Out of Action.
Positive, neutral, and negative self-talk are the 3 different types. Neutral self-talk is the language we employ when we rush to the grocery store and tell ourselves what we need to get. Negative self-talk, for example, "I'm completely lazy. This report should have been completed several weeks ago "is frequently followed by an emotional response Too much negative self-talk can influence your mood, undermine your self-confidence, and often prevent you from taking action. Positive self-talk, on the other hand, such as "you can do this," is frequently motivating and drives us to action.
Confront Negative Self-Talk.
Once you've identified the bad thoughts that keep popping up in your head, confront them. In the case of Thacker's client, who constantly told himself, "That's not going to work," Thacker urged him to question the concept, asking, "How do I know that?" and "What if it did work?" to transform negative self-talk into positive, action-oriented beliefs.
Concentrate on doing an action.
Concentrate on what you should do rather than what you should avoid doing. Instead of saying, "Don't be so upset," you tell yourself. Please relax." Using action-oriented self-talk tells you what you need to do and keeps you from feeling down in the dumps, which can stifle productivity.
Get rid of Negative Nelly.
Surrounding yourself with a supportive and encouraging team might have an impact on the words you use about yourself.
It is important how you address yourself.
When speaking to yourself, using the pronoun "you" rather than "I" is more successful. In research published in The European Journal of Social Psychology, students who typed out self-advice using the word "you" not only completed more problems but also claimed they would be pleased to work on more in the future than students who used the word "I." The researchers hypothesized that this was due to recollections of receiving support and encouragement from parents and teachers as children. Using the second person also allows us to gain a more objective perspective on the event and be less emotional.