When you go through problems in life like financial, marital or probably family problems you most times find a way out even if its not easy, you encourage yourself, fight and then you overcome.
That situation where you are the architect of your problems , that situation where you brought it upon yourself, most types we dont see the way out we are trapped and locked in it with no hope of escape, its always difficult to solve such problems.
Lets look at this way, when people look down on you, give up on you, see as a failure and turn their backs on you, you stand up look at yourself in the mirror and choose not to believe them and you say to yourself i am who i choose to be not what they say i am at that point you are motivated to move higher. But that case where you are the one looking down on yourself, when have given up on yourself, what would you do, how will you escape it, so many questions but no one to anwer cause all hear is your pains, your groaning and then fustration sets in.
You are locked up in your own cell, no matter how friends try to motivate and help, you will still remain the same cause its your cage you are locked up in. It takes extra determination and struggle for you to escape.
Dont ever inflict problems on yourself its one of the worst things that can happen to you. No matter how the journey looks always remember that no matter how long the diamond stays inside the rock it always belives that people will bring it out and it will sparkle under the sun someday.