Can Men and Women be strictly -platonic- friends?

The bike scene has really made this a common question for myself. I interact with more dudes now than ever. I never believed that the men and women could just be friends. There was always a dude trying to date me and couldn’t be just friends. Those “friendships” didn’t last either and also my exes always said they had girls as just friends. However, it ended up being more than a friendship. So I really have not had great experience with men and women remaining just friends until I met Lars @kommienezuspadt and Jamie the guy who helped me build my stunt bike. Jamie never even asked me to pay him - he just literally helps everyone with their bikes.

Pic Below is Jamie aka R1

I remember moving to the cities and not knowing a lot of people. I tried making friends with women but we never "clicked" and the relationships didn't last. I always see these "girl squads" and never have found one of my own. I also keep to myself and don't speak much around new people. Which may make me seem stuck up but really I am just shy. Also, a lot of girls here I noticed around my age love to go out and drink. It's hard to find people in general that enjoy doing activities together versus just going to get drunk. Which I don't drink so I never cared for that environment.

Golden Girls are squad goals haha

I always gravitated toward guys since I get along with them better. The trouble is they usually ended up wanting more out of our friendship or they would cross the lines trying to make it more than a friendship. I never really thought I would have a great group of dudes to call my friends.

I did notice that randomly I was becoming attracted to my friend Red. We spent a lot of time together and he definitely is not my type but he was so nice and helpful. I never had someone help me so much and I found that really attractive. I guess my previous boyfriends have been pretty selfish if I needed something they were not there. Anyway the lot drama happened and I lost interest because if he can't have my back as a friend then what good would he be as a boyfriend? I know that may seem petty but the funnier part is he wanted me last year and I cut him off because I wasn't into him then. I felt like he was too interested and we couldn't just be friends. I also didn't know how to tell him that and wasn't totally sure if I needed to. I guess I don't know where we stand and I do miss being close with him so blah yeah. Pic taken by meee!

Currently my dude friends include: Kbone, Red, House, Matt, Lars, Geo, Christian, and Jamie(R1). These are the main dudes I chat with and hang out with. Red and I kinda became distant since the drama at the lot as I mentioned. Kbone and I actually have gotten closer though. I hung out with him one random day and it was just nice to chat with someone who comes from his walk of life. He also was showing me how to paint my plastics – so be on the lookout for a bike painting blog!! I also hit him up about the Xgames and he wanted to go sooo we are going to go. Should be a great time! I will document and share that too =D. Kbone doing a burnout below

House is someone kinda liked in 2012 and we met again at this bike event last year. He had a girlfriend and recently told me he is single. I think he is still interested and even though he is tall and built. I don't find myself wanting him or again really any dude. I am in a great space and I think any sort of relationship like that will ruin my fun. Also, I enjoy hanging out with these guys way more as friends than if I was interested in them. Now I can't explain that other than probably having expectations and then they usually fall flat. He told me recently that I am attractive and he wants to watch me do wheelies sometime this week. I don't know what to think about him since we haven't been friends that lot.

What’s interesting is I told my roommate “I don’t feel attracted to anyone” she laughed and said “you’re asexual??” haha I thought that was funny. I guess I am sort of number and distant from the whole relationship crap that my ability to befriend dudes is wayyyyy better now than it was. I never knew how to handle dudes coming at me about dating and stuff. Now I think over time I have been able to convey right away that that’s not what I am about. Which is GREAT! I love having men as just friends since we get along really well. I do have girlfriends but they’re not interested in a lot of the hobbies I like. The difference is that I can sleep over at my girlfriends in her bed but I couldn't do this with a male friend. I find so many things interesting and I observe them then contemplate on it. This is one I always come back to since I deal with it so often.

Pic: This is Christian and I going for a late night ride in I think February or March? Super cold ride home

Share your thoughts on platonic relationships between men and women! I find it interesting to hear others stories on this as well. The challenges and success of having those bonds that are strictly friendships are something special. I think it reflects respect and genuine care for another by being able to be just friends. I do find it difficult to maintain male friendships once they start dating a girl ( or vice versa)because suddenly I become a “threat” even though nothing was ever going on or would. It is definitely a struggle and the older I get the more I realize what is really important in my relationships. Although writing this just made me realize I only really take selfies with girls or @kommienezuspadt and not my friends I listed. That's a funny observation hahaha :)

Also, tell me anything you want to learn about or have me share more of! I will be posting a video and blog about riding my horse bareback, sanding/prepping to paint my stunt bike and art!! My schedule is changing so I will push through to keep posting <3

xx moony

This is my longest friend since we were 16years old! She is really great <3 and obviously not a dude hah :P

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Golden Girls via Getty Images