I believe that kindness is an act of true character. And, it is one that leads to success in every area of our lives. Kindness and generosity are the roots of happiness. They are also the basis of a strong sense of self-worth and worthiness.
These qualities create a lasting impression on the people we encounter and will benefit us in life.
We've all experienced being kind to someone only to find that it backfired. Perhaps someone got upset and ended up rejecting you, or maybe you didn't get as much as you wanted.
I understand that the fear of rejection may be too powerful for some. I'm not here to tell you that you should throw caution to the wind. I am, however, going to show you how to turn this fear of rejection into a positive.
We don't have control over what happens outside of ourselves. But, we can control what we feel inside ourselves.
The truth is that rejection is part of life. You cannot live your life without being rejected. And, there is nothing wrong with that. It just means you have to learn how to deal with the experience and move on.
If you feel the need to avoid rejection by being nice, consider these points:
Being overly nice can come off as insincere. You don't want to appear fake when dealing with others.
You might end up hurting feelings or being taken advantage of.
Sometimes being nice isn't necessary. If you have a valid reason to approach someone, do it. Otherwise, let it go.
Don't be too quick to apologize. Some people feel awkward after a conversation is rejected. Apologizing could come across as a sign of weakness.
Acknowledge that you did not succeed in getting the person's attention. This is the moment when you can apologize or leave the situation.
A few other tips to remember:
When you start getting overly needy, you will likely lose your chances of success. Let people be polite and professional. If they don't care about you, then it is best to stay away from them.
If you are rejected, don't feel bad about it. It doesn't mean you are unlovable.
Remember that you are the one in control of your reaction. Control your response by choosing the words you use and the actions you take.
Now, if you truly feel the need to avoid rejection, remember these points:
There is no need to rush. Take your time and let the situation unfold naturally.
Don't try to win friends. If you are not ready to risk rejection, you don't have to force yourself to talk to people.
Be honest. Tell others your true intentions and avoid giving false promises.
Don't get hung up on things that aren't meant to happen.
If you want to know how to cultivate kindness and generosity towards others, consider these points:
- Make the most of the time you spend with the people