I wrote about this because I often hear individuals ask why they lack willpower, why they have trouble making decisions and taking action, whether professionally or personally.
Let's define willpower. It's knowing what we want and acting on it. Asking "What do I really want for myself?" is brave. without fear or guilt.
Saying “I want” generates more manifestation energy than “I would like” or “I would.” Any conditional expression shows dread. Can you feel the difference between these sentences?
I hope to have a country house someday.
I wish to find a compatible mate since it would be great.
The conditional statements imply “I want, but I am afraid of…” while the other two plainly convey “I decide”.
How can you know if your desires are good for you? Asking yourself how you feel about getting it works best. You know something you want meets a need if you're passionate without thinking. If you ask "Fulfilling my desire will help me BE what?" you'll be more sure to meet a need.
Getting a new companion because you're terrified of dying alone is a bad reason. You are responding to a need if you say you want a new relationship to make you warmer, calmer, more confident, more satisfied, more responsible, more generous, etc. Your answer is irrelevant—what matters is that you feel good. Because you alone are responsible for your actions, you can be anything you wish.
Know that you learn and grow from your experiences. Thus, we simply experiment and never make mistakes. However, beating yourself up over a disappointing experience can impede you from growing and learning. Every experience, good or bad, has a lesson.
Each of us struggles with willpower in certain areas. modest activities, however modest, develop it. When you know what you want, act now. One action leads to another.
Consider unconscious fears. Fear-based “I wants”—fear of what will happen to you or someone else if you don't receive what you want—indicate weak motivation. A lady who wants a child to avoid losing her husband or disappointing her grandparents is not meeting a need. She's trying to satisfy someone else.
Remember that wants may not always satisfy needs. Desires are material (physical, emotional, and mental) while needs are spiritual. A need lets you BE what turns you on and makes you happy.
When you lose willpower—which occurs to everyone—don't quit up. Accept that you lacked the willpower to act as you wished today but that tomorrow may be different. Accept your ups and downs, strengths and limitations. Accepting what you don't like about yourself will help you change faster and get what you desire.