Failure frequently carries a negative connotation and has the potential to reactivate limiting ideas about oneself, such as "I am not capable," "I was told that I would never achieve things," and "I am not made-e to succeed."
In turn, these beliefs cause painful and unpleasant internal feelings, such as stress, which in turn have an effect on one's self-confidence and, ultimately, restrict one from accessing potential resources.
They crystallise action and the execution of new ideas that have the potential to be successful if failure is perceived through a different pair of glasses with a different perspective.
Due to the fact that the vicious circle has just arrived at your house and is currently consuming the space in your house, there is a legitimate cause for this.
The question therefore is, how can we escape this situation and enter the circle of virtue? The one that gives you the ability to connect your own resources and turn on levers that are focused on finding solutions?
To begin, perhaps by reframing the meaning that is provided to the word "failure." What if it was just feedback on a lived event that was brought to our attention in order to convey very particular messages? Providing us with the opportunity to watch and analyse what did not work in order to get these inconclusive results?
This could be accomplished by analysing all of the conscious and unconscious techniques that have been applied in order to maintain those that are successful and to adapt, change, and transform those that were ineffective in order to make them more effective.
Insanity can be defined as the practice of repeatedly engaging in the same behaviour while anticipating a different outcome. Mr. Einstein
Is it possible that you could be more forgiving with yourself, that you could give yourself the right to make mistakes, to test, to experiment, and that you could take the time to pick, to decide what is beneficial to you, what is accurate, and what is helpful?
Or, perhaps, by working on our belief system in order to determine the origins of those that hinder us from doing, from thinking differently, and those that determine whether we are successful or unsuccessful.
You are the captain of your own vessel, and regardless of the conditions of the ocean, if you are unsuccessful, you should seize the opportunity to learn about the location where you are, investigate the wealth that is concealed within your own home, and provide yourself the right to take pleasure in it, even if this requires you to take alternative paths while still heading in the same direction.
You are at liberty to make stops, take in the scenery, experience failure anywhere you like and gain knowledge from it, and gather information that will enable you to map out the routes that will lead you to your objective.