This question is difficult to address because these folks are unaware of their function. I say “play a role” because they've forgotten they can create and change their fate.
Let's define victim together. The dictionary defines a victim as “a person who suffers the injustices of someone or who suffers from a state of affairs.”
This person feels powerless and thinks someone else controls her.
Some examples:
Madame complains that Monsieur never travels. She's housebound.
A mother who moans about having kids has no time for herself.
His wife is chilly and rarely wants to make love, says the man.
A worker who claims his supervisor exploits him and demands more as he works. Even his supervisor isn't grateful.
A victim doesn't change their condition since they don't know how to obtain the same attention as their difficulties. The more someone uses difficulties to obtain attention, the more they think life is unfair and are exploited. They are raped, robbed, and attacked.
I have discovered that most of us have a victim aspect that presents itself to differing degrees and in different areas, but it is hard to realise since we think ourselves to be experts and allow ourselves to become rescuers.
When a rescuer acts, they appear powerful. Her weakness and fear of being had are hidden.
People that act like these are undoubtedly familiar:
Complainers are the first to offer tips on how to avoid money problems.
The always-sick person tells others which specialist to see. All doctors, treatments, and cures are known to her.
Which part are you unhappy with? Money, understanding, fairness, energy, health, sex, recognition, time? Ask those who know you well if curious. This is how I realised I was a victim of time.
Complainants often upset me. Shake them, let them lead. I had no patience. I looked in the mirror to see where I could complain.
I approached my coworkers for help when I couldn't find it, and they said I regularly complained about time. Few individuals can become conscious of it alone, therefore I required aid to realise how often I complained.
To escape, I asked my coworkers to say, "Poor Lise!"
This strategy is effective but ego-taxing. I didn't laugh at first because they told me regularly and it amused them. My inner attitude changed once I laughed about it with them after a few days. Now I often exclaim, "How proud I am of myself today; I managed to achieve more than I planned." My temporal perception has changed.
My story is unusual because I always thought I had no time problems and was a master at helping people manage their time. I loathed advice on this topic since I thought I was fine.
I encourage you to face your victimhood or your lack will worsen. For what? For two reasons. First, you must create increasingly dramatic situations to garner attention. Second, most people get tired of victims' complaints and move away.