Implications of Instant Reactions

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)

Every event in our life that is happening is a situation. It entirely depends on us how we want to face these situations.

Every Situation has 2 choices that we can make and it all depends on us what we want to choose.

1 choice can be that I take it calmly and put complete thought before I take any action, and 1 choice is to be impulsive and immediately go ahead with what comes to my mind first.

The choice is entirely mine, whether I want to react and take things to next level or be calm think and act on what I need to say or what action I need to take.


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People say they are very sensitive and hence they do not have control over their emotions which make them react, but what is the definition of sensitivity. Reacting is not Sensitivity.
Ideally you are sensitive when you understand the other person and when you are in a position to empathize with them. When you stop being judgmental about other people, you become sensitive towards them because then you are trying to understand the person as is and your reaction also then will be appropriate.

There are times when we so hastily speak out or take actions without putting any thoughts to it and then repent. You get a nasty mail from your boss, and your instant reaction is I want to give it back with a little extra dose and then you hit that send button and its gone and the damage is done.

No situation in life is permanent. Everything comes as an experience, In such situations mindfully take a moment to reflect and check with your own self what is the end result you desire from it. That will solve all your problems and give you clarity on how you need to react and respond.

Hasty decisions, hasty actions, hasty words can cause a great damage to your life, it’s better to pause before going ahead.

At times we keep fighting struggling for something and after sometime we feel exhausted and then wish that it just gets over. So the point is was all the fight worth for, when at the end of it you want it to get over. We could have just finished it at the very first step.

We react most of the time cause we want to prove, but what is it that we want to prove that “I am right”, does that really matter. What matters most is “Have I done the right thing”

At the end of the journey you will be remembered for the person you were and not for your awards and medals.

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Wonderful work .. well done
The real disease here is anger
Which one must learn to control until it gets rid of its effects
Thank you for sharing your words with us.

De acuerdo contigo @slimanepro "la Ira" esta emoción que tantas veces nos ciega y nos lleva a cometer errores y a tomar malas decisiones en la vida.

Thank you @slimanepro, anger and hastiness both should be avoided :-)

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@vm2904 - Well said Nainaz. Hasty words and actions are like arrows that have left the bow. They can not be retrieved.
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Very true Vishwas, once you have said something you can never take it back and then the damage is forever. Its very important to be mindful while using your words

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

great wisdom in this one @nainaztengra and I fully agree... Also challenge accepted! ;)

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I hope you are going to follow it mindfully @reko :-)

In my personal opinion, there are actually two things we can do that we in the judgment of others. The first is remembering - what else, we do not see things from the other person's point of view. Already completed. There is no need to go any further. In a way we do not really care. Not good indeed, but it's much better to judge others in our personal opinion. Because judgment is more often connoted as negative, no one is happy with the bad opinions of others. And besides, we do not live our lives in such a way that we never know what we are alleging is true. Secondly, if we can be wiser, we should be fair in thought. We are not in a hurry as it is. With justice in mind-we will see things better in a good way. We look deeper into what causes things to happen, and are not easy to judge.

Very well said @jamalgayoni, Its very important to reflect and then use your words rather than just being hasty :-)

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What an amazing tip to live a peaceful life, this is the best description of sensitivity i have encountered

Ideally you are sensitive when you understand the other person and when you are in a position to empathize with them. When you stop being judgmental about other people, you become sensitive towards them because then you are trying to understand the person as is and your reaction also then will be appropriate.

Thanks for the motivation Nainaz ;)

Thank you @salmanbukharia54 for sharing your thoughts :-)

we have a proverb in Russia - a man should measure 7 times before cutting.

It's about thinking before doing and making desicions. when we have cut already, we can't change anything, so it's better to meaure it carefully.

Good advice there. The old fashioned advice of counting to 10 before reacting is worth taking note of, because sometimes when we take those few moments to calm down we can look at things in a different light.

Wise words, and very true. At the end of our journey the greatest reward has to be being remembered for the good we did, the support and love we shared with others - not how many material things we collected over time.
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Its hard to not be impulsive yet is usually not the right choice. Nice reminder to make positive decisions 👍🏻

Isn't this so true? I am competitive in some ways, but, I will not fight to be right. It has never made any sense to me to make enemies just to prove I can be right. In the big scheme of things, under a normal day, it really doesn't matter.

Impulsive - wow. If it is a purchase, I wait a day or two to see if I feel the same way. If it is words, I hold my tongue until I can walk in those shoes for a moment of three.

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We always tend to react, while we very well it's better not to :)

I agree with most of the things you mentioned above except for the 2 choices thingy. Actually we've more than that for example, we can be irresponsible and run away from the fact that we're actually facing the situation, we can ignore and just go through it, we can seek for helps from others. There's actually multiple route to go but not every route is visible to everyone. For you to see, you must seek.

Your article I like because it raises a sensitive issue such as interpersonal relationships and the response to adverse situations. I would like to add that the quality of the response or the appropriate response is also influenced by the emotional state of the sender and receiver of the message. How well you explain the disrespectful answers and that do not lead to solicit the situation create a break in the comuniciacion. In this case, I humbly suggest that we should receive and respond from our non-emotional rational perspective and become mediators before the conflict and be above the offenses that do not solve the situation.

Good piece of thought @nainaztengra. Nice article. A moment of thought before every reaction will almost solve all sorts of problems and complications in life.

So true.....only calm and calculated thoughts are essential in good decision making.We all need to understand the truth in this post.

That could not be so true. I lost a good friendship because neither he nor I were careful enough to watch our mouth. Thanks for sharing the knowlegde

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A good article to reflect on.
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Totally agree with this. I personally believe that everyday is a test of patience and kindness. When a person hurts us, it doesn't mean we should immediately hurt that person back. Maybe that person is passing through something and he/she needs love and care. Take time to reflect :) thank you for sharing your post :)

very interesting the article

Wow nice info, very useful for me. I dont no before. Thanks

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agree. i am at times hasty in my decisions and with my words and i regret every single instance when i react rather than respond. we need to be quick to hear and slow to speak. good thoughts!

Well organized essay. Keep it tight @nainaztengra

incredible post you nainaz, I have long not seen your post, this post is amazing

i always react immediately when i see my loved ones otherwise i can control the situation. i always try to have control on myself when someone who is near to me, is closed.. i start crying over there.

so cool and happy

I personaly believe that we should avaoid instant reactions.

good inspiration, best wishes @nainaztengra

Evidentemente la impulsividad a la hora de tomar una decisión nos puede traer consecuencias que muchas veces son negativas. Alguien dijo que en momentos de angustia rabia o dolor no se pueden tomar decisiones y comparto la opinión de @nainaztengra "Las decisiones apresuradas, las acciones apresuradas, las palabras apresuradas pueden causar un gran daño a su vida, es mejor detenerse antes de seguir adelante". Excelente aporte...

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