There are always 2 sides to everything including our own selves, within everyone there is good there is bad, there is beautiful and ugly, there is high & low. What you want to take entirely depends on you. It’s better to take the good and the beautiful in you and at the same time let it confront to the shadow side of you.
When you are able to confront the shadow side and the light side of you, is when your power is put in service of good.
These tips will help one to balance the polarities within and bringing a wholeheartedness to life.
The Daredevil attitude when it comes to heart matters – Its ok to accept challenges and go ahead without knowing where exactly you are going to land. Life is all about exploring and being on an adventure roller coaster. It’s ok to take risk for something that you are passionate about. When you grow old have some stories for your children, grandchildren. I am sure you do not want to die saying, I was a very self-centered, self-loving, self-protective person.
Confront the Shadow side of you with opposing truths – Let yourself integrate with all the experiences of life. Let Knowledge and success come face to face with ignorance and failure. Allow the integration of the bright and beautiful in you happen with the shadow side of yourself. Let your benevolence also meet your ego and generosity meet greed. When you come to a position of saying I am all of the above you will be able to embrace the brokenness of your life and integral part of your life. Wholeness does not only mean perfection, when you are able to accept every bit of you, the circle of life gets completed.
Extend your benevolence to others and accept their shadow side with the same kindness as you would do your’s – It’s the most difficult thing to do isn’t it. You can accept the shadow side of you but you cannot accept the same with others. The beauty is to extend that same alien side of yours to others. Empathy is one key factor here, What you can tolerate with your own self the same generosity can be extended beyond you.
Think beyond you –What kind I do that brings a change in the society for good. This would ask you to come out of the zone of self-centeredness. Broaden your horizons, get out of obsessions with being effective as measured with short term results. Practice the selfless giving, something that each one of us has the capacity to do. Bring the radical shift from ME to WE
Avoid hurting anyone -Joy and suffering both comes as a part of being human. We are very well able to handle our Joy but when it comes to suffering we don’t know what to do and how to manage them we react in ways that are harmful. That can be harmful for us as well as others. When we aim it at us we abuse our own selves and we direct it on others that can transform into feeling of hatred, jealousy, anger resulting into hurting each other. Accept the suffering with an understanding that it’s a part of living and also inevitable.
Please add on your tips to this list and spread the goodness around.
With Love and Angels Blessings 💖💖👼🏻👼🏻🧚♀
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I couldn't agree with you more. Good and bad things happen to everyone, the difference is how we react to it. It's more or less a constant struggle between positive and negative reactions but the final decision lies with us.
I choose to be optimistic. Cheers
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That's great to read, more and more people should think like you. Imagine what difference can be brought to the world :-) Thank you @drepo15 for your thoughts :-)
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Yes, mindset is everything. We may not be able to control the way people behavior towards us, but we can choose how we react.
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That's true @bangbang88, and if we are able to control our own behavior we will also be able to influence others :-)
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Lovely
We are social .. Do good for people and you will be happy
Thanks for your words .. well done.
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comparto tu idea @slimanepro pues la satisfacción de ayudar no se compara con nada en el mundo.
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Thank you @slimanepro
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I like the advice about Thinking beyond you
it's really very important, but so few people can really do it
In Russia we say - he doesn't see further his own nose.
people live like in their own cages, but life is so huge..
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That's very sad that people do not take a look beyond them, it becomes so much of a confinement. Is it about ego? why would they behave like that?
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maybe ego, or maybe it's just their inability to see and to feel more than their zone of comfort requires...
I know a lot of people whom I tried to advise something really better than they were used to ahve but they rejected, they didn't want to have something new even if it's much better. They like their way of life, and they just aren't able to understand their life is like a narrow hall in endless lands of Real Life..
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Great post @nainaztengra. One should think out of the box to bring change in society.
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Thank you @munawar1235
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Very fine and inspirational words, the important thing to remember of course is
#thealliance
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Thank you @c0ff33a for your thoughts :-)
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Yes, there are always two sides. Negative and positive. What you choose that is going to define who you are.
Thank you @nainaztengra for sharing this!
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Thank you @rezoanulvibes for sharing your thoughts :-)
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Good Morning @nainaztengra Do not forget to cultivate today. I am a newcomer in steemit from Indonesia. This Is my first a comment from your post. Your days are a great fun. Do not waste any opportunity, always be happy at ever opportunity. Continue your life and continue post your photo in steemit.
Please see my post @cutlem and give upvote if you like, i am very thankful for that. Best regards.
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your words are healing thanks, Nainaz.
that's really good post, I hope one day I will be complete with my self as you are :)
and sorry for having no time lol
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Thank you Noam, we are all learning in different ways so no one is perfect. You are best the way as you are :-). Look forward to hearing more from you at ease :-)
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yeah so true about us and life....i think patience is the key to master all skills of life and to recover our mistakes we all need patience.
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Thank you @bingobazenga
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welcome
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How nice that post leaves us an encouraging and motivating message. Thanks for sharing. I also take the opportunity to invite you to watch a beautiful sunset in @karlita
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Thank you @karlita
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If you can’t help someone, at least don’t hurt them 😁 I really liked your post, it is important to share these positive thoughts and outlook on life. I always strive to be a better person and choose the good, although as you said, there Are different sides to everyone but it is how we chose to act that defines us ☺️
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Thank you @miss.bozena, I am glad to read that you make conscious effort to make yourself a better person. self-realization is the most important thing. Wishing you good luck and happiness always :-)
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omg.....what a wonderful post
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Thank you @awolesigideon :-)
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hidup indah bila mencari berkah
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Actually confronting that shadow side is most important. Better than avoiding it.
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True, anything that you try to avoid comes back haunting you, so its best to come face to face with it.
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Great write up and spot on tips
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Thank you @tattoodjay :-)
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Most welcome
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very good and useful post!
Have a great day, my friend!
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Thank you @prostosun. Wish you too a wonderful day :-)
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you create a great post.....and i think its useful to us....i like it...i hope everybody like your post....thanks for shear it...
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Thank you @fazlehassan :-)
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I agree with your writing in life, we can not avoid negative situations that happen all the time. Negative situations occur in our mind and body that also become negative. In order not to get caught in a prolonged negative situation, action must always be positive in all situations. Positive actions can affect a healthy and active body. The secret of a strong soul and body is always positive. Learning art to be positive can help everyday life better.
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Negative and positive will always be there as a part of our life, if you get hit just get up and start moving ahead, dont sit back there and dampen yourself :-)
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great reminder! i can sense that you're really a good person.
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Thank you @elidy.balmes
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Great advices, I liked the part when you wrote that we should accept other's shadow sides as you do with yourself.
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Thank you @cute.funny.girls
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Do I accept my shadow side with kindness? If I do accept my shadow side, I'm not sure kindness has anything to do with it.
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Why do you want to be harsh towards anything that is not good within you, rather accept it and see how can you bring in a difference. If you will not be able to show kindness to your own self and to your own flaws how will you be able to show kindness to others. Thank you for sharing your thoughts @jpgaltmiller
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To not be kind does not necessarily mean to be harsh. I just mean that if I accept my shadow side, what else am I going to do? It's me. Rather than kindness, it's probably more like a resolution of cognitive dissonance. :)
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"The Daredevil attitude when it comes to heart matters"
Thanks for that! ;)
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Thank you @superstar2018
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kick toxic people out of your life.
unwanted comments towards underage women, slandering and accusing community members of being somebody theyre not, and provoking fights within the community.
y'all are my family, i protect u and thats the minimum i owe u for the love uve given.
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Very well said @shahaan. Thank you for stopping by :-)
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It's a wonderful post.
We are duality. We can't be goo, if we don't know the evil. We can't be happy, if we don't knwo the sadness. This is what makes us human beings.
That's why I find your message that we have to accept every trait in us so incredibly important.
Thanks for that.
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Thank you @maritagrabowski for your thoughts, all of us have some good and some flaw within us, when we are able to accept both of that within us can we understand the full circle of life :-)
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I agree.
We need to avoid negativity, because that make us unhappy and the people around us as well. In this world there is so much negativity and we have to make a change.
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Thank you @dianabeatz
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Hey, how timely I saw your post about the two sides of everything... Of course there are two sides, of course we can choose which one we feed. Although, sometimes, we just tend to forget that and sometimes just spend too much time "eating" ourselves due to some things we don't like in us. So thank you for the timely remindement. :)
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Thank you @aleksandraz for sharing your thoughts, glad to meet people with similar wavelengths here :-)
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That's an excellent post.
I think there is more to this then just emotion,for example,all beautiful things ,all good,and all high gives you pleasure,peace,happiness.
On the other hand all the ugly things,all bads,and all the lows gives you a chance to look at the life for the moment.,and so you can make an extra effort to make your back on the track you want,and achieve the desired success you want.
So it's just the way you see it,an optimistic one see everything as a chance and get succeed.where as pessimistic can't manage to do so and fails.
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Well said @iamanwaar, if you bring an optimistic view to every single instance of your life, everything around you will become magical.
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No matter what you don't do, I am sure we can all make sure we don't hurt anyone.
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Thank you @mydivathings
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@nainaztengra my friend as you said, Here I comment
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LOL, :joy: :joy:
Jokes Apart, It is an excellent post. A truly motivating post. Thanks for sharing.
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That Joy; Joy: speaks volume Jatin, I hope you truly are in a joyful state.
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Hola @nainaztengra, realmente tiene mucha razón, todos tenemos cosas buenas y malas, quizás unos dedican más energía a las cosas malas o viceversa. El equilibrio emocional es necesario e importante. En general me parece muy acertada tu vision del mundo y de la escensia del hombre. Saludos.
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Thank you @jasst. Though I dont understand your language many thanx for stopping by and sharing your thoughts
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Awesome advices.
See the positivity in everything, also in failures and problems.
It will will give you much more back as if you just complain about your situation.
Good inspiration! ;)
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One of the things I would add to this list is understanding our pains. I believe that a part of wholehearted living is also facing those disempowering emotions and accept them as something that is part of us. Learning from our pains instead of ignoring them gives us power and mental strength. Btw, love this post. :)
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Accepting bad and good enables you to be true to yourself and enjoy life more. It makes you realize that we are all part of the same mould.
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OMG! I'm so in love with your content... It's really inspiring... What a great way to start my day thanks so much @nainaztengra
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