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Not everyone have had the luxury of good friendships.. Some people have mixed up with the wrong crowd, infact I think everyone have had a bad friend at some point in their life.. Well, maybe not everyone.. But I certainly have..
For me, once I notice that a person has a influence on me, I cut the person off straight away, literally cut off and it will be like we were never ever friends. If it's a Love relationship, I might find it dificult to cut off the person at first, but when I eventually do, It's a closed chapter.. My method might not be good for other people, so I will share a noble way to cut off a bad friend..
Recognize a bad friend
Firstly, you need to really ask yourself if this friend is a good influence on you or not.. Do they respect you, your opinions and values? Do they try to force their values on you and make you feel guilty when you don't act their way? Then you've got a bad friend situation..
How do they make you feel
Some people have developed a tough skin towards friends.. They can hang out with bad friends and not be influenced.. But if you've realized that you have a bad friend and they have an effect on you.. They make you feel inapropriate and stress you out emotionally, then it is time to cut them off.. You only got one life, you don't need bad influences to complicate it..
Talk to someone
If you can't be like me and literally cut them off, then talk to someone you trust to walk you through the process.. A parent or an older person that you are closed to, someone matured that can give you good advice.
Talk to this friend
Talk to your friend about how you feel and set boundaries, that is if you still want to keep them.. They might be good people, but it could be that they are just bossy and you are their prey.. Set a boundary of what you can tolerate and how you should be treated.. But you can't force them to change.
Walk away
If you've talked and they still behave that way towards you, then it's time to cut them off and move on.. It can be hard if you see them everyday but you've got to do it if you want to be the best version of yourself. You will eventually get over it..
Define what you want
Take your time and define the types of friends you want to keep so that you won't repeat the same cycle.. Go out and meet new people. Friends are really important in our lives, so we need to pick our circle carefully..
I hope this is helpful.. Thanks for reading..
It's the one and only @nmalove
Sometimes we choose friendships without knowing if they will really be good for our lives or not, we can even become very fond of a person and then feel betrayed because it does not result what we thought, so we should focus on knowing well with whom we We relate to avoid those moments!
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I agree with you! Though you need to make mistakes, to understand what type of people you wanna be with, so in some ways you need those moments of betrayals, and disappointment to realize important lessons.In other words, you can't "avoid those moments", they are meant to happen...
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You are right! That's why I put define what you want at the end.. Because at that point you've learnt from the betrayals and disappointment, you will now have a clearer of who really want in your life..
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Thanks for backing up my thought, there's indeed no easy way out to learn about yourself, through trials and tribulations
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Omg you are so right, people tend to underestimate the effect that abuse from friends or an entourage can cause.
I have noticed something as well, there's a saying, "You become the people that you hang out with", so lot's of us try to befriend people that could be considered more successful than us, in the hope of becoming like them. and even if at first it could sound like a great idea, i've observed so many times , no real mentor/pupil relationship developping but more of an alpha/omega mentality as people feel threatened by talent and hard work, which can backfire and prevent growth.
So obviously there's some good people out there too, but it takes years to find them :)
Great post @nmalove, you on fire at the moment!
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Exactly! Hardly will you find a mentor that is not threatened by his pupil's growth.. Good people are hard to find, let's appreciate the ones we've met.. And cut off the negative ones.
Thank you for reading.. Xoxo.
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My pleasure, always!!!
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Well,toxic people are the worst kind of people.
Couldn't agree more my friend.We should only be surounded by people with possitive energy and good attitude if we want to move forward in life.Toxic people only drive us down with them.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.Have a great day :)
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Thanks for reading.. Life is too short to keep toxic people around..
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good tips, I have so much reliables friends as fingers on my hands 😪
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Yes... Truly the kind of friends we keep matters a lot... We should live up to the fact, that only friends we need in our lives are the ones with positive mindset,and friends to enhance your own positive creativity ... Not the type of friends that only influences you to be loyal to them alone with no form of reciprocation talk more of adding values..... Mind you, the type of cycle of friends surrounding your life would determine the pyramid of your life's growth.... Therefore let's roll with positive minded friends, the ones ready to watch your back and stand by you against all odds... Your mistakes are made and your experience is the only key to a better you in making the right choices of friendship to harbor...... Good post @nmalove...
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