Before you make some irrational judgement, please read to the end!
They are known and called by many names; some pretty sick nicknames, looked down upon in some places as low-lives. But who am i to castigate a fellow human like myself irrespective of their choice of actions, nobody!
I have spend three decades and counting on this planet Earth, making some tough and irresponsible decisions which had make me wiser, many of which got me in big troubles but i scaled through each bad calls and lived to make more stupid decisions, some i still wish i had executed while younger.
One of those decisions is to date a sex worker. But it never materialized as in my late teen into early twenties. Desperately i had tried several times for a close up with these mystery ladies- not for sex but a chit-chat and maybe friendship, which i never had any luck until recently. So here is my best avenue to think out loud once again!
As much as i do not like to look down on them as most people do, my brief experience hard reconfigured my thinking towards this group of people. Now i can categorically attest to the fact that: a whore is a whore!
Her name was Gift(Fictional Name), we met at the mall in the Capital of the City i reside in. Pretty and chubby; with not particular reason i have developed interest in plus size ladies over the past few months, i imagine them as Extra-pound of beauties! We exchanged contacts, chatted the first night and i was shattered when i asked her what she does for a living and her response was:
"i am that girl that stands at the T junction of your street at night"
Bingo!...i thought to myself, i finally found one. That was how i got to know she was a Sex worker, a hooker- no need for any sophisticated Decoding device to know what she meant by that.
Deep down inside me, i was wondering how she could be super bold to tell me this, and at the same time i was seriously pondering why she chose that path; maybe she had some sensitive stories behind this i concluded as i made up my mind to communicate often and be as friendly as possible without showing a slight interest in what we Nigerians call "Money for hand, back for Ground!" Meaning Money before sex.
My interest in her rooted deeper when i found out that she is using the proceedings from her gigs to fund a tiny retailing business in Foot wears and Bedspreads. Wow, she got ambitions was my verdict as i tried to erase every thought of her as a hooker from my memory; of course that is the only way i got to really like her without faults.
ADDITIONAL WRONG CALL
As it turned out, this was just another wrong decision added to my catalog, after few days of talking with her day and night. She had declined to see me or even go out on a date with me three times by the time she dropped the bombshell. Word has it that they have no empathy and all their conscience and emotions had been flushed down the toilet just like a notorious assassin.
My dear lady friend shocked me one night a little over the fourth week we met with a sentence, just a line of been notoriously inhuman with:
"You can't continue to check up on me like we are married, if you want some; come have some and pay for it"
I went blind for splits of seconds reading that from a lady i was planning to send some of my Steemit Earnings to boost her tiny business, it is indeed a crazy World.
Is sex candy? or like ice cream? Those are the thoughts flooding my mind, i was perplexed and sad because for a lady to do such a callous marketing of herself in that manner, you dare not take her to an hotel and not pay- you are roasted!
To all sex workers out there reading this, i only have a piece of advice for you: your trade does not make you inhuman but you attitude to people around you does. Even though many judge you, they sure do more bizarre things in their respective hide-outs. Never because of a few bucks ruin a great plan someone somewhere might have in stock for you.
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Hahahahahaha...
Lol
Na u find trouble na...
I do pity them though
I don't judge them
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hahaha, that's no trouble...just needed to see life from their perspective but i was wrong.
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Na trouble you find oo brother as @tojukaka as said. To me I see most of those ladies as lazy, they can make a better living than selling their body for money. Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience.
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Lol....well my curiousity has gotten me into more dire troubles in the past and i survived them all.
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Lols.. you should have helped her now irrespective. But those girls get bad mouth sha
I judge no one though, they have their story to tell
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She told me to piss off, apparently she clearly doesn't need my help the least. Till now i never blocked her and she cared less if she messed up or not.
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Eiyaa, you would have been patient na, maybe she was frustrated at that moment. Who knows if God can use you to change her attitude
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Fustrated you say?...Can you exercise that kind of Patient?
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Haha, yes of course, I will let her be for that day and I will make sure that I let her know that she was wrong. Apart from that sef, my approach, everything I will let her know my intentions though I know it wouldnt be easy but all these sex workers have emotions, they have something that is disturbing them but dont know who to talk to. At least nobody grew up to say that they want to be a prostitute. They need help but dont know where to run to. I feel that the lady you are talking about was frustrated that very day, she cant just say those words, O lord help we Humans. I pray that the Lord will help everyone of us
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hmmmmm, You seriously got me thinking- i have no idea how to get her contact back cos i deleted her but never blocked her.
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Well, life goes on but try and give people a second chance
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Hmm.... A lot of them have been pushed into this unholy trade as a result of circumstances beyond their control and any time I come across one, I always try to imagine what must have gone wrong. Could it be as a result of the demise of the breadwinner, broken home etc. But whatever may be the reason, I always empathize with them and do not judge them. Because perhaps in their shoes, I would do the same.
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That's what i thought, if i was a girl maybe i would have been like her...
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Some of them act tough and nasty to be able to engage in their 'activities'. It's like a buffer to insulate them from further hurt and pain. You can still render to her your widow's mite. Sow it as a seed into her life and you never can know........... the end of the story.
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You are right, but not all of them. Some of them foolishly choose to live such live. Some of them even have well to do families.
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I love the way you started your write up @oluwoleolaide. The fact that you wanted to see life from their angle was a great idea and a nice try. But don't you think it was too early to give up on your aim? Gift might have been ill mannared, but there should be better mannered once who you can get all the facts you need from.
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did you read this part?
What would you have done if it was you?
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By saying "there should be better mannered ones", i actually meant talking to someone else other than Gift. Gift's chapter is closed, but you should not end your aim of trying to see life from their angle cos the aim was not about Gift.
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Lol
Now i get you, nah....will stick to talking to a normal lady rather than a dead emotional ones
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Lol... Ok then
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Great Words to live by!!!!
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Gracias
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Awwwww... Maybe something was troubling her that very day, the last thing i will do is judge them. Only circumstance made them that way.
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You might be right, but she never apologist afterwards- so if something was actually troubling her, asking me to stop communicating and come pay for sex is the most clueless approach for her.
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I want to laugh first. I will then read this
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Ok. In my little experience here, I had believed that we lived in a world that judges people. She definitely would not have resulted to such if not for some unthought circumstances. I had met quite a few and they are actually true to what they do. 2days ago I was reading this article and then I knew that the oldest trade in the world(Prostitution) is actually not a "Big deal"
See link
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/sep/28/adjunct-professors-homeless-sex-work-academia-poverty
And of course no one can judge anyone for doing such. This is because we might be worst in action if we are faced with what those people who had chosen such path faced. Some ladies were arguing with me that they can never sleep with a man to get admission to the university/polytechnic. I just laughed and advice them to be thankful that they didnt follow such path that those people followed.
Human being is capable of doing anything.
This world is not ours. We only sojourn. We can only rely on God's help to sail through, for those that believe in God anyway. Please send her some SBD. You will gain her respect forever.
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Very deep bro, even though you made fun of me at first☹.
But she really not the type that wants friendship, at least not from me- clearly she needs more clients for her gigs. And how can i bring someone like that on Steemit for you all? who knows what she will be advertising for you guys...
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Hahah, well, she actually needs more money not clients. If you can give some earning as you have mentioned in the post to her, without strings attached she wont reject it. Well, if you bring her here, she will also do well. You should check the nsfw section, alot of people are doing what they do there. You will be surprised how well paid those posts are. I also think one of your tags should be nsfw
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Hi friend I have read your post every comments.I now a question arises in my mind, why prostitute had to be created. For the the demands of men, so why should we judge only women? It's a mysterious world, everybody may have different situations which compelled them to choose the way. Yes completely agree with you that one should have second chance in life. Thanks for the very sensitive post, have a great day friend happy steeming.
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Thanks Dear Maya, though prostitution had been the oldest trade. Just in the recent times that men had also joined in the trade-maybe that's the reason for the judgement.
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Bro, just go back to the T junction. Meet someone else, should be mercy this time. Gift has shown she doesn't want your gifts. I'm sure mercy would. :)
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😁😂🤣😉😄
Epic advice be this bro
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