Learning to live without expectation

in life •  6 years ago 

One of the great disappointments

of my life was when I opened a parcel

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to find my dream, that it contained,

to have arrived already broken.

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If you feel any compulsion to comment on this post,

please take the time to contemplate the following music video first:

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ouzo and out,
@onceupontime

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That is some moving and contemplative music.

I think you are onto something here that I have often thought about. One of my philosophies of life. I even did a short video about it.

Yup, your video gives one method that seems to work for some people. But for myself I would rather learn to have no expectations at all rather than have low expectations :-)

Back when @twiceuponatime and I were still speaking to each other, he told me something that I still occasionally contemplate. He said to me:

"When you are living out on the bleeding edge, the balance you want to have is between the Beauty and the Terror of it all." Normally I would discount anything @twiceuponatime says, but just maybe he had something there:-)

@onceuponatime,
Oh shit! How careless they are! Who gonna pay for this? Is this DHL?

Cheers~

"Who gonna pay for this?"

Maybe I should take up a collection from concerned donors :-)

The thought of this broken double-headed udu still crosses my mind every so often... It was really crushing! ;)

Thanks a lot for sharing this incredible video, taken from the sequel to BARAKA called SAMSARA, with music played by one of my very favourite bands, as you know, Dead Can Dance!

Namaste :)

This could end up getting really maudlin and Kierkegaard-ish, especially if I let Dead Can Dance accompany my typing...

Expectations. Not really related, for 15 years I kept shop and much of what we sold was blown glass and handmade pottery we shipped all over the world. I had expectations that my packing would be good enough that everything would arrive in one piece because thousands of buyers had expectations that it would be so. I know what that unpacking feels like...

I believe I have fairly successfully settled into a state of not expecting anything... in spite of naysayers who insist that "If you expect nothing, that's precisely what you'll get: NOTHING." To which I counter than maybe I expect nothing, but that doesn't mean I don't hope for something. Expectations and hopes are related... and yet quite different.

Yes, the grand trilogy is: "Faith Hope and Love", NOT: "Faith *Expectation and Love".

I would agree on not having expectations from others.
How about yourself?
And as for the dream, you can fix it. It's yours after all...

Ordinary dreams perhaps. But mine tend to be dreams within a dream (and occasionally even more layers deep) :-)

Like the movie? I find myself doing that too

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I once expected so much from others and I always ended up being heartbroken (only once I got more than I even expected from someone, but I was too stupid, young and immature to handle it I guess).

Then I started to "hope" and have expectations from myself only. I am at the point that I fully realize that no matter how capable, tough, educated, strong-willed blah blah blah you may be, if luck and timing aren't there, you may end up building sand-castles every single day.

At this point, I am considering to follow my stars (and whatever they include). Like the great Arnold Schwarzenegger said, "Follow your stars, even if you never touch them, they will definitely take you somewhere."

Could it be true? I have no idea, but I am willing to try. Life's a bitch; I know that for sure!

PS. No matter how good you "fix" a shattered dream, it will still be a fixed shattered dream.

Pain makes man think. Thought makes man wise. Wisdom makes life endurable.

Or, at least, that's what they try to sell you, LOL

Lol, true talk. It's not a reliable thing to put so much confidence in people and have high expectation in them, though some people are trust worthy but we should position our minds in a way that can accommodate the fact that not everyone will meet up to our expectation.

May be there is a purpose behind it , to not break a bigger dream in future ? It would be best to think that way and accept it and relax.

Hey, that's a good way of looking at things!

Ouch! But this happens with people too: You travel a long distance (like your package), you hope and get excited to reach your destination and your "Sweet Penelope" waiting for you only to find yourself broken in the end (no matter how much bubble wrap you used). The good thing is most of the time someone else is there to help fix you ;)

Yeah, I never use enough bubble wrap :-)

This has been my feeling for the last 8 days after joining Steemit. I've been checking my posts every morning, hoping that one of them had received lots of upvotes and conversation, only to be disappointed that has not been the case. But I trek on...because maybe tomorrow will be different.

Or the day after tomorrow :-)

All it needs is some duct tape and it will be as good as new!

Although a little duct tape fixes most things, in this case it would muffle the resonances :-)

I was ready to comment a philosophical post about expectations in friendships, relationships, careers and how we are a bunch of delusional people and I found a very very simple reason to be disappointed.
How life is much simpler sometimes!

Let's drink to the simpler then!

Oh, I'm more of a stoner, but if you insist...

This is too much destruction!!!! sorry for your loss

Expect nothing and you're be free, that's my motto

Do you live by it?

Fascinating read.Agreed with most of them.However,I am not sure if it's human possible to always be calm and not expect anything from anyone.

I'm sure you can do it (if you really try LOL)

This is great. I'm always trying to live my life with less expectations. But it's a tough battle. Great post.

Battle on soldier :-)

This is what my situation is due to Crypto dump @onceuponatime.

Oh no! You mean you had expectations for crypto?

yes, i do :'(

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don't worry it will be sort out, just give some time to it.
upvoted and resteemed.

It happened several years ago and still hasn't been sorted out yet :-)

I have faced such problems in the past and from where I tried to deliver this result ie the means of my courier had betrayed me and when I informed the courier company about this, they took appropriate action on the matter and I bought the product through that means Who helped the shopkeeper properly.My problem started since then when I went to a shop to buy a product and the product's weight was too high, I told the shopkeeper to reach my home address.The shopkeeper then gave me a receipt and said to wait one day when my product came in the morning the next morning, I found that my product was broken in many places for which I told the courier company in the meantime and the courier company told me the product was broken from the shopkeeper. That is when the shopkeeper was packing the product, ie the product was in his condition Broke and he fell to the product at the same position for delivery to the courier sent.Because of this problem, I asked the shopkeeper what was the matter and when I went to the shopkeeper through the courier company, the shopkeeper gave me the full amount.

My parcel came from a long way away and I could not go to the "shopkeeper". And I was hoping to have the item for something important.

It is really very painful to face such problems due to courier management and inefficiency.As a means of bringing the product of its hobby to the fore, every person first finds a courier service because a courier service acts as a very important tool for delivering its product.As a means of bringing the product of its hobby to the fore, every person first finds a courier service because a courier service acts as a very important tool for delivering its product.

I think the inefficiency of the modern courier services of the present time is extremely conducive to us and remains as a heart-related content because each of us is very valuable and we bring every product to the hobby, when we get broken, it is very difficult for us And the content is very bad.

I can not find a language to express my sympathy. I just want to tell you that when you bring a product through courier in the future, you must look at the product carefully in front of the delivery boy, and soon you will be informed of it and expect the appropriate steps from the company.

Right.

My culture teaches me to do my duty without expecting anything in return. Doing something to others should be with unconditional love without expecting anything in return. Something like a love that a mother has on her kids. Mothers never expect anything in return. Nice article.

Not all mothers are alike. Mother Nature, for instance, can be quite demanding. And it has been said that "The Moon is a harsh mistress".

@onceuponatime you opened a gift pack. But its was shocking the dream was already broken in the pack. It was so sad news for @onceuponatime and when @zohaib336 heared about that, it was also shocking for me. I hope bext time you will find complete dream pack. Good luck for next time.
Your heart touching music can make aby person to cry....images.jpeg

Thank you.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it happen sometimes snd you've choose the right caption "Learning to live without expectations"

Now come to video. . . It's your style to relate a video to make article interesting but thistime Seriously this video??? "Dead can dance" watching this video I've Goosebumps and was like Oh my God, what a selection on this event that's great, learning to live without expectation.

Mood music :-)

And your mood swings alot in music selection trust me.

Ah, just had this happen to me the other day. Had the leg broken off a similar piece...bummer - hopefully it can be fixed or replaced.

Did you have great expectations?

Don't be disappoint man... Think you can do it...
No need to worry sure dreams can be success.

Do you write for the fortune cookie makers too?

Hey @onceuponatime, I'm of the king of dragon....Can you hear me????
If not I consider you very soon. Don't get upset man.... Dreams getting low....You would fix best one.

You should see my dragon!

where is your dragon dear:P

The problem that happened to you was not perfect and I found it very bad that the product you brought for your wife got broken.

I understand how much painful moments have passed between you and your wife.

I'm not married LOL

You are right the Dead can dance! :P

Where's Michael Jackson then? Surely he should be dancing somewhere :-)

yes, i am sure for this! :)

I have read the above mentioned things and I felt that it was your problem.I think that this thing has happened to you, it is absolutely not right, and you can take appropriate steps here and you will have to take some precautions from here so that you no longer face problems in the future.

I think that the government should take care of me!!! LOL

I'm sorry your broken parcel. I can just feel the disappointment.
Dreams are real and we should never stop moving toward our dreams even if they seem impossible.
As long as we are moving forward and doing everything the best way we can, we are getting closer and closer to our dream.

Kind of you to say so!

oooh :-/

Nice post , thank you .
Good job , carry on .

Thanks for sharing @onceuponatime

Upvote you ..

Great post and I'm sorry that your package came in already broken.

It reminds me of when I first joined Steemit all excited that my posts will be read and that I will make at least a buck or two with my efforts.

Only to be disappointed in the end with zero exposure and $0.00 payout. I was bummed out as well.

Your parcel is good. Well it looks very beautiful to see what it is.

@onceuponatime Wow really awesome you explain with more detail! Thanks for sharing great article

OMG! so sad news about your dreams. You attached a heart touching sound. Parcel was looking good but gift was already broken, too much sad.

I was expecting some motivation by reading your post. You always come with helpful info. Expectation is the enemy of happiness.
@onceuponatime you really deserve the best even if you don't expect

that's really sad waiting for something and then find it uncomplete or broken is such a heart breaking time what can be more bad than that!

Musical video was good. Like to be happy. Many things have to be faced to survive in the live

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At first i want to say its an amazing video that i really enjoyed and secondly i want to say about your parcel that really makes anyone disappointed. I had an idea about this,few years ago i bought a perfume that was £100 same to you ,got this broken. So i fill it how you filled that time. Thanks again your awesome video clips, upvoted.

Oh thats too bad...

awwwwwwwwww don't cry please, i can feel your pain :( I'm with on in the time of pain :'(

That is great idea to live life without exceptation,, to live life without exceptation is like to live life without being hurted...
Because sometimes we except too much and in return we get hurted..then we say we deserve it..
Thanks for sharing

Heart broken :/ sometimes it’s better not to expect much

Woah! That was hard and hurting, I can tell. Im sorry about it. In life there comes expectations (hard to resist like it comes unintended, it's sometimes make things interesting) but I can tell it somehow a not so good idea, human being as we are we really not perfect but as much as possible let's not expect things or have bigger expectation on it for it can hurt you emotionally. let your dreams flows without expecting something like how the song goes slowly flowing and taking you to a deep understanding while showcasing its beauty, its goodness. Try to fixed your parcel with your heart and you might love the outcome of it.

It is a healthy way to lead life. In this life everything is possible. It is good to work hard to achieve the things we want but it is possible that our expectations are not met and it is a possibility that we can not deny.

Sorry to see it that way ,While nothing to do now but if possible fix is the only option and the way you are feeling is indeed worth it !

Nice soothing and relaxing vid @onceuponatime

Sorry to see that they did not package your item correctly.

Keep STEEM N ON,
Frank

No expectation means you will be happy for a long time. But if we don't expect, we will not also be able to get !! Best wishes for you 😊😊

Fixing it without expectations will help. In life its best to expect the unexpected and you'll get yourself surprise by it or at least not hurt much, with the song I was looking for a line or a message as it goes but to my surprise got nothing to fine but find myself kinda meditating with song and I got my self mesmerized how it goes makes me realize to focus on dreams and in your life and not on expectations. That with the title of the song it says everything is possible stay focus with less or no expectations

wow!
what e dress up!👌👌
& the song & dance very heart touching.✌✌
but u don't disappoint☺

It's pretty interesting song.

fixing the dream will require extra measures, but it's your dream, you have got to dream it again to fix it.

That is the most amazing video I have ever seen that is so quality I can’t video that quality

Learning to live without expectation

You told lot of times....But I can't...Please tel me how will i live without aim?
But your visual showing me it. Try my best... No sure sir..

Expectations can create a lot of disappointment, someone is happy only if he doesn't expect anything but who doesn't have expectations!

nice view man! and we need more people to be brave like you and speak out.

Nice view man! and we
Need more people to be brave
Like you and speak out.

                 - cariglee


I'm a bot. I detect haiku.

I bet you were sad, when you opened the parcel. Hope you can get it replaced.

This video took 8:20 minutes of my life. But it totally worth it. Deserve it. Its too good to hear and watch such good and lethal combination of the Trump music and mesmerizing view of nature . The lady in the start working with the combination of hands ✋ wa totalllyyyyyyyy.... Out class. Thanks for sharing. And too bad that this antique piece broked. 😐

Do not expect...expectation reduces joy! Take everything as it comes along

i love to read it..

It could be the most interesting song and video clip. I think I'm hypnotised.

That's pretty much how I feel all the time when I need to queue for something.

My queue karma sucks. Something will screw up and I'd have to wait forever.

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@onceuponatime

always blame the haulage company =) very nice pieces

Learning to live without expectation

This is very touching, we shouldn't expect much from life other than its hardship and challenges it always posses but the desire the survive and run the race no matter what, just like the experience you shared on here with your parcel when you opened it should be our watchword. Stay focused and committed.

Life always has hope and dream, although not all we can realize.

hmm i tend to have expectation from anyone, myself included but i have managed through time, those expectation not to affect me if they below to what i imagined or hoped so. At the same time having expectation from others and getting surprised either negatively or positively it tells me a lot about the person.

@onceuponatime, I can't or I don't know how am I stay without expectation....
Can you???? But after seems uploaded video I can do it with desolates stay with together. I already did it my best.
Dream can be broke but if we have fixed one definitely can do it.

Sadness and disappointment comes in all forms.

..but it can feel just as disheartening regardless of the issue.

When we're sad - we're just sad - the feeling is the same.

I understand. :)

ohhh hooo damnnn that is heart breaking stuff

Yeah I think if people here at Steemit lived without the "expectation" that they are going to start off making tons of money here...they would be in a much better position.

Personally, I have been blogging for 5 months and 3 days straight everyday with original, engaging Content. And decided last night to buy another 947 shares of Steem and Power on up ( even wrote a recent Post about it).. And I still do NOT "expect" that all of the sudden I will be gifted with huge Rewards for my blog posts.

Rather I look at it as a long term decision to invest and over time it will start adding up.

Thanks for your post @onceuponatime and sorry about that delivery of
damaged merchandise.

P.S. Very interesting video with such a diverse array of individuals. I like it

i like your work. Great Job

the video brings two thoughts to mind -
One is the "Penetrating, Piercing gaze of shattered and broken Dreams" .
Second is "Removal of Expectations opens The Path to Nirvana" .

Truly expressed, @onceuponatime, "to find my dream that it contained, to have arrived broken" .
Ah! how many times, how many tears, how much pain.
Only because I had expectations ! :)

I like the brutal simplicity of truth in your posts, @onceuponatime .
100% always :)

Works best to live without expectations.. I guess that must give an intense feeling of freedom. I'm not quite there yet though ;)
That video contains real art too. Amazing to watch.. thanks for sharing :)

Oh my gosh!!!!!!
You need to watch the video to experience the power behind uniqueness.

I hope you could get some compensation for the broken art work! Perhaps there was some kind of insurance so that at least you could recoup the financial loss.

But the broken expectation and dream can’t be easily cured in seconds!

Thanks for the lovely music video! Lovely vibes to start my day! It amazes me how you always find ways to give and share your insights.

The photography and music were just superb and soothing for my brain. The final scene of endless sandy desert was very good for reminding myself of the infinite nature, universe and positive energy!

Hope you’ll continue to garner the good or positive energy of the universe everyday!!
Keep up your excellent effort!
It’s such an honor to have read your blog in Steemit!!

Cheers.

Nice one
Motivating post

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