For a long period, I've been studying happiness research, attending and offering trainings, and honing my counselling skills within this framework. In addition, numerous teachings have helped me heal my current sickness over the years. Finally, I'd like to share with you some personal implications for healing, well-being, and happiness.
People commonly believe that “happiness” is defined as an eternal state of joy in which one's aspirations are met. Finding purpose even in the midst of adversity, receiving help and support, and being able to create multiple viewpoints are among the most significant investments in happiness. It's worth even more than having everything you want. Because obtaining everything we want leads to hedonic adaptation, boredom, and the pursuit of a new request, whereas finding meaning and receiving social support helps us and our relationships get through difficult times.
According to positive psychology, the two most significant aspects that offer a person hope and speed up his recovery are social interactions and meaning, both of which are components of happiness. Positive feelings, living in the now, and success follow. However, we have a tendency to give those who arrive later priority.
Healing, like happiness, does not have an end point. A once-in-a-lifetime tour through which you will uncover new levels at each location. Each micro-healing or purification, like the layers of an onion, yields a new insight. Knowing there's something new behind that layer also makes you realise that mending is a process that takes a lifetime to complete.
By constantly experiencing the positive and negative and forming inferences, we are on the way to healing and happiness if we are lucky and working on it. We experience joy and grief at a higher frequency as we progress up the spiral of states of becoming. To put it another way, our container is growing. The more we learn and experience, the more likely our container will grow.
We can calmly internalise the experiences if we can hang on to a solid notion of meaning while experiencing all of this. When there is no significance, it might easily come apart, “Why me?” We may become disoriented as a result of their concerns.
Looking optimistic and joyful is more than just experiencing pleasant things or hoping for good things to happen; it is also about seeing the good, the teaching, and the positive in even the most difficult of circumstances. The more we inquire about what terrible experiences teach us, how they develop us, and how they contribute to our outlook on life, the more we begin to doubt the role of purpose in our lives.
Not only our present and future, but also our past, can change as meaning becomes more obvious in our lives. Consider what a traumatic experience could have taught you and how it could have empowered you. What can you be thankful for in this situation?
One of the most important findings I've made about life and happiness is that in the lack of meaning, happiness devolves into an addictive and pleasure-oriented cycle known as Hedonic Happiness. Unfortunately, hedonic bliss does not lead to long-term happiness. Of course, I can't say, "Let's take away all pleasures, joys, and positive feelings from our existence."
Without them, life would be so boring. A life that consists solely of these and is devoid of significance, on the other hand, cannot progress beyond a shallow fraction that is not deep enough. Instead of focusing on the habits of the consuming culture imposed on us, I'd want to focus on the richness of our inner resources, which we will uncover as we deepen... So that every single frame of our films is worth seeing in its entirety.