How to use self-esteem in sexual satisfaction??

Today there is a great problem specifically in the university population about the influence of self-esteem on sexual satisfaction, self-esteem is affected daily in students for the following reasons: maybe after a certain relationship that has marked us in particular, when faced with a problem of dysfunction or facing some physical change that affects our self-esteem in male insecurities we can find. During the stage of sexual initiation, fears abound in men, particularly the issue of size, control and ejaculation. In the girls we find the insecurities at the physical level due to stereotypes dictated by society which states that girls must have certain physical characteristics in terms of sizes and measures and if these are not in the requirements affects self-esteem. On the subject of sexual satisfaction we find ourselves with the insecurity of being able to make the person with whom we meet arrive at full satisfaction or not.

The greatest sexual insecurity is in sexual dysfunction. This topic undoubtedly represents one of the biggest causes of sexual insecurity worldwide and it is not something that you can handle alone, it is very important to understand that sexual dysfunctions, both in men and women women, are problems that although they can be solved with the help of certain elements at home, should be treated by specialists, because under them can hide many things, so lose fear and visit your doctor.

Any gender, man or woman, can be affected in their sexual satisfaction due to low self-esteem and self-concept. The incidence of this object of study has increased in the last 25 years. Having an adequate self-esteem, and an adequate concept of myself, greatly helps make sexuality healthy and healthy. If a person feels capable of pleasing and being pleased, of loving and being loved, of giving myself fully and satisfactorily to my partner.

When the relationships are satisfactory, it favors the climate of the relationship in general, but when sexuality is perceived as deficient, null or scarce, or there are difficulties in it, it ends up undermining the self-esteem of one or both partners. It is possible that whoever has difficulties will feel "guilty" for not being able to satisfy the other, and likewise, the partner may feel "guilty", because he or she can not get the other person to completely give in to sexuality. Sometimes the fact that one of the two blames the other, or both blame each other, for which sexual relations are lived with anger and frustration the situation. If we summarize, a good self-esteem helps and favors the sexual climate and a deficient sexuality can damage the self-esteem.

There are some factors at the level of sexuality that influence so that our self-esteem and the concept we have of ourselves are positive. In childhood we acquire concepts about our own body, and sex, as well as the "right" way to relate to it. When sex education has been too rigid, sexuality tends to be experienced as taboo, as uncomfortable and shameful.

During adolescence we experience bodily changes and feelings towards our own body, whether or not we feel comfortable with it, whether the image we perceive is coupled or not with what we want, or what social media and society expect from it. What directly influences the image we have of ourselves, our self concept and therefore our self-esteem.

ASPECTS OF SEXUAL SATISFACTION (J. Bancroft, Loftus and Long, 2003).

• Personal approach: refers to individual characteristics and habits including the perception of sexual stimuli, the ability to focus on sexual stimulation and feelings, and other physiological and psychological reactions.

• Interpersonal approach: the emotional exchange between sexual partners is taken into consideration.

• Focus on sexual activities: catalog the sexual experiences of a person focusing on the characteristics of sexual activities, their frequency, variety and intensity.

Focusing, according to the literature, on the possible determinants or components of sexual health and, as a consequence of sexual satisfaction, these approaches have been used to extract the main dimensions of sexual satisfaction: sexual sensations and sexual presence / knowledge corresponding to the first approach, sexual intercourse and emotional closeness to the second approach, and finally sexual activity in the third approach.

According to the above, we can say that the self-esteem of an individual has an excessive influence on their sexual satisfaction because if he does not have enough confidence in himself or in his partner could create a bad communication or not try things that he likes at the time of sexual act.

All human beings have defects and we must accept with them and in turn not let anyone criticize us, to love someone else first you must love yourself.

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