Yes, it is important to take it easy on yourself because nobody else can do it. At the end of the day being kind and taking the hand of your inner self will create peace of mind and growth. LIke you said, as we get older the more junk put on ourselves. This is probably the main reason, I would rather listen to a child for advice than a grown up. The child will give you heir honest opinion whereas the adult will try to find the right thing to say which is burden by experience. Breath and move on.