Perhaps starve or kill them. Perhaps with some degree of compassion.

As I’ve been going through this transition of my own, having difficulty letting go while knowing it’s pretty much impossible to move forward without doing so, I’ve sometimes questioned whether suicide may be appropriate - not in the full out usual sense of killing myself entirely, but part of myself whose time is up. Parts of myself - whether it’d really be accurate to call “myself,” or its more just aspects of a personality construct fuelled by conditioning - that have become parasitic to the ‘better part of me,’ my soul, and wellbeing.

(Ended up doing a quick search on ‘parasite spirit totem’ and found this that gave some interesting perspective)... perhaps there’s wisdom there that it’s not even so much of a direct attack on the parasites or sides of ourselves that’ve been leeching off our better aspects, as much as the “starving” approach - which again, isn’t even so much a direct strategy as much as a byproduct of putting our energy into the other parts of ourselves that generate wellbeing - acknowledging the parasites, but refusing to give them more time or focus than is necessary past what it takes to extract the wisdom through our experience with them. Kinda like that popular quote, “there’s a good and bad wolf inside ya, the one you feed wins the fight.”

And then again, in your case, perhaps there may be some degree of reframing and self-compassion in order: was it really that you were a “bitch,” or might it just appear that way through a certain judgemental lens, when it actually could’ve been completely appropriate to act “bitchy” at the time as a means of solidly defending healthy boundaries? (Rhetorical question.) certainly, there are many who are not always clear on the distinction. And then sometimes, there’s a fine line between those two.

Plus, depending on what the information was, it could have been appropriate to offer the person such honest emotional feedback for them to get a reality check on the impact of their actions. Sometimes being “nice” is more selfish than letting out our anger on someone when it is justified, as it’d be denying them a look in the mirror they need to grow up and face the consequences of their actions on others.

Anyways... maybe there’s some nuggets of wisdom in there. Or maybe I don’t know what I’m talking about. Certainly, every situation is unique and there are a lot of nuances to each that require consideration before arriving at any conclusive answers...