Improve Emotional Intelligence

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Discuss the matter of emotion is very closely related to the emotional intelligence itself which is a person's ability to motivate yourself, survive the frustration, control the impulse, set the mood and be able to control stress.

Emotional intelligence also includes self-awareness and impulse control, perseverance, spirit and self-motivation and impulse control, persistence, enthusiasm and self-motivation. Skills related to emotional intelligence, such as the ability to understand others, leadership, the ability to build relationships with others, the ability to communicate, motivate and inspire and so forth.

So that emotional intelligence is well preserved, there are some skills to watch out for:

• Recognize self-emotion
  These skills include the ability to identify what is really felt. Whenever a certain emotion arises in the mind, we must be able to grasp what message to convey. some examples of messages from emotion, namely: fear, hurt, anger, frustration, disappointment, guilt, loneliness

• Releasing negative emotions
  This skill is concerned with the ability to understand the effects of negative emotions on oneself. For example the desire to improve the situation or meet the target work that makes us irritable or frustrated often just damage the relationship with subordinates and superiors and can cause stress. So, as long as we are controlled by negative emotions we can not achieve the best potential of ourselves. The solution, release the negative emotions through the techniques of subconscious mind utilization so that neither we nor the people around us receive negative impact from the negative emotions that arise.

• Managing oneself
  Never assume negative or positive emotions are good or bad. emotion is just a signal for us to take action to address the cause of the emergence of that feeling. So emotion is the beginning not the end result of events or events. Our ability to control and manage our emotions can help us achieve success

• Self-motivated
  Organizing emotions as a means to an end is crucial in terms of attention, to self-motivation and self-control, and to be creative. Emotional self-control refrains from satisfaction and controlling impulses is the cornerstone of success in many areas

• Recognize the emotions of others
  Recognizing the emotions of others means we have empathy for what others feel. Mastery of these skills makes us more effective in communicating with others. This is what is referred to as empathic communication. Try to understand first before understood. This skill is the foundation in dealing with human beings effectively.

• Managing the emotions of others
  If the skill of recognizing the emotions of others is the basis of interpersonal relationships, then the skills of managing the emotions of others are the pillars in fostering relationships with others. Humans are emotional creatures, all relationships are largely built on the basis of emotions arising from interaction between humans.

• Motivate others
  The skill of motivating others is the continuation of the skills of recognizing and managing the emotions of others. This skill is another form of leadership ability, that is, the ability to inspire, influence and motivate others to achieve common goals. This is very closely related to the ability to build a strong and reliable teamwork.

So, the skills above are successive steps. We can not motivate ourselves if you can not recognize and manage our own emotions.