Don’t Kill What You Hate – Save What You Love

" The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. "

I vote for love – I root for love, they call me the love cheerleader in the office for all you know! (jks… my home is my office. Wait, does that count?)
If there’s anything I kill, I kill it with kindness. Now, that’s my philosophy! There’s not enough room inside my heart to cultivate hate. Besides, how often do you have to water this bad boy? He must not be easy to handle… I sometimes wish I could hate (at least for a while) the ones who have did me wrong, but for some unknown reason still to this day, my heart just does not allow me to. Sometimes I know I shouldn’t think like this, but I can’t help myself, I just know that some people out there don’t know any better than what they do. And while it’s safe to step away when they try to throw their toxicity on you, my heart can’t help but wish I could change that for them.

I believe strongly in the thesis that to change this world, we need to start to the root of it all. To make it better, it starts with raising one child at a time with kindness, love and empathy. It’s not enough to provide one’s basic needs. In fact, many scientific studies have shown that when mammals don’t benefit from physical touch when they are born, they end up dying. The truth is that we, humans, are not only social creatures – we are creatures that are bound for love. We need it as much as we need food and water. Emotional starvation is what creates harm in this world. Yet in this immensely complex and fast world of ours, we’d rather stay stuck to a device than look in the eye of the person standing right in front of us. There’s no such thing as being too busy for love. Love is the cure, it’s the antidote, it’s power. It’s what this world needs more of.

Love and hate are very so often intertwined, yet the true enemy of love is not hate, it’s rather indifference. Nothing hurts more than being ignored. Than feeling like we are not worthy enough of someone’s attention. With a big enough dose of it, indifference can end up setting a love on fire. Some may use it as a coping mechanism to protect themselves, but what’s more is that the hurt you propel onto someone else, you end up propelling it onto yourself as well. The way you treat others mirrors the way you treat yourself.
The first thing we ought to develop and put our focus on is our heart. That’s the most precious part of ourselves. When our heart is filled with love, it can only send love into the world. On the flip side, when it’s filled with hatred, it not only darkens our own soul, but we may unconsciously use it as a weapon against those around us.