Hello Steemit Friends,
A sense of high self-confidence
makes us stand tall in all our daily endeavors, but a lack of it holds us back
from achieving what we earnestly seek in our lives. Without confidence, we are
left weak and frail, unable to face our fears. This
further restrains us from reaching our targets and attaining happiness in life.
So, how can you overcome these fears and failures?
Only by building the confidence you need to pull it through. :)
There's a saying "Once we
believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or
any experience that reveals the human spirit.” Therefore, you can only attain the true meaning of life by
working on your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Before going into the basics of how you are going to effectively maintain your self-confidence, it’s
important to look into how the lack of it creeps in, so as not to lose it in
the first place.
Causes of low self-esteem
Your self-esteem is simply
how you view or value yourself. When this evaluation is negative, we lose
interest in pursuing meaningful activities and instead enter a cycle of devaluating
ourselves and failing in what we had dreamt of achieving. The causes of this
pattern are varied and can sometimes be difficult
to identify.
"Confront
the dark parts of yourself,” to
know what brings down your self-esteem. You can’t expect to identify one cause
for everyone. Rather, causes depend on one’s situational factors and
may vary from one person to another.
However, there are common situations that can help you identify at
least a few causes in your life. The most frequent examples include negative
thought patterns, bad choices, unrealistic goals, trauma, negative peers,
negligent parents, and body image.
In
some cases, the source can be as simple as feeling swallowed up in a world beyond control, especially for teens. The
most important thing is to realize that
you are the one doing this self-evaluation. Whether it lasts for a minute or a
decade, you are the one setting the conditions.
So, how can you set
the right conditions, boost your self-confidence, and walk with your head high?
How to take control of your self-confidence !!!
Once you begin having confidence in yourself, it
becomes easy to attain and keep up high levels of confidence. Below, we’ve
outlined five things that will elevate you to the level of confidence you
deserve:
Believe in yourself
“Believe you can
and you're halfway there,” said Theodore Roosevelt. The very first step in the road to self-confidence involves
believing in yourself by pushing your discomfort, putting yourself out there,
sticking to good habits, and learning to trust yourself If you can’t believe in yourself, who will?
Groom and dress nicely
Not like a clown
but smartly and neatly. Grooming and dressing nicely doesn’t necessarily mean sporting
a $500 outfit. Rather, it’s all about taking a shower, shaving, and dressing appropriately.
When you are nicely dressed, you feel presentable and ready to confront the
world.
Think and act positive
Thinking positively
goes hand in hand with killing negative thoughts. It may seem tough at first,
but when you start embracing positivity even when you are not feeling like it,
you’ll be surprised at how much it works. Inject some enthusiasm into your
relationship, friendships, and all interactions with others.
Plan, execute, and achieve
Learn to prepare
what you intend to do, then do it and appreciate your achievements. While you
plan, set realistic targets and live up to them. Achieving your aspiration, no matter how small they seem, will help
you feel good about yourself and attain the self-confidence that will propel
you to making bigger goals.
Serve and be good to others
Be kind and
generous, and treat others in the same way you would like to be treated. Does
it sound so corny? If it does, take the risk.
How to help those around you to attain self-confidence ?
Because self-confidence is infectious, self-confident people
inspire confidence in those around them. Therefore, next time you want to
inspire your downhearted buddy who has little or no sense of self-worth, try to
ask for their help, complement them, listen more and talk less, pay attention
to their words, recognize them, ask them for opinion, be interested in them,
and invite them to be part of a team which they normally wouldn’t be part of.
Above all, always remember Lao Tzu’s words “Because one
believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content
with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself,
the whole world accepts him or her.”
Before ending my post I want to share some of the memories from a Music Festival I attended last week. I love going to these events a couple of times a year to let lose and enjoy my youths.
Thank you so much for your supports
Much love ❤️
Alastair Campbell once said:
My public caricature - that of a self-confident alpha male - is only partly accurate.
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Nice to see this post and thank very much for share.
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Thanks for sharing this post @suerisue
What I think about a person having low self esteem also depends on how he/she grown. The circumstances a person face in our life from childhood and how often a person face the negative situations makes low esteem.
Personally what I do is I face the situation where I was weak, and try to give best from my past. Doesn't matter either I fail or success. It gives me courage to face the fear and anxiety.
Another one is I always keep busy myself, because simply idle on a place gives a negative thoughts. So engage with activities makes me stronger than before.
Do these things if it makes sense. Thanks guyz once again :)
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Thank you for your comment!. I grew up in a fairly positive environment, yet, from time to time a struggle with self confident. At some point everyone face it but yes more or less evolves on whether how they grew up but it doesn't define or labels them that way. It's great you have an up-lifting attitude about it, that is all we need to grow :).
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Awesome
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Very interesting and helpful post! :) I think it's most important to believe in yourself, cause once you stop doing that it's not easy to make decisions anymore and stand up for yourself!
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Yes, As long as you believe you can conquer anything :) !!!
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@suerisue is back 😁
Thank you for the motivational words today!
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Awesome post bro
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Great ... upvoted .. n followed .. you're easy on the eyes too if that's you 😜
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Agree!
upvoted @dante01
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I find I'm more confident in clothes in comfortable in. Usually I feel more awkward with nicer clothes and fancier grooming.
For me a suit is a lie. That's not who I am and is not something that boosts my confidence.
One thing I disagree on but besides that great article.
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We are all comfortable with clothing we feel best in. Doesn't have to be a suit that makes you feel like a million dollar, i am just giving a general example. !! I totally get what you mean ! :)
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the motivation of how to create a good self esteem I think is very good. very precisely as you say. thank you for sharing a positive solution to make life better. @suerisue
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So young and so not self-confident?
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Oh every single day I try to think exactly like this. But it demmm hard....every day is so different.
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Smile ! :)
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Step 1: Be attractive;
Step 2: Don't be unattractive
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I agree with having others influence others. You are the 5 people u mix with. If u mix with negative people from time to time, eventually u'll be one of them. That's why as an entrepreneur, it is very crucial to mix with like-minded people.
From what I learn as an experience to deal with low self-esteem, or low self confident person. If it is in a group scene where there are tasks involve. You can actually give the person a task, and when he/she does it well, praise her in front of everyone about how well she has done it. This is one way to boost someone's self-esteem and confidence. Works for someone with anxiety as well.
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It also starts from within !!. Others can be whatever they want, if you are strong enough to influence yourself it's good enough. If you can influence other that's awesome.
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yeps yeaps. :)
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I'm always had issues with self-confidence. Thanks for your post.
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Awesome post
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Thanks for the wonderful post @ suerisue!
Self confidence can be improved a lot by closing the gaps in oneself , and this can be achieved by doing the continuous practice. Otherwise, simple technique is that we need to build fake confidence (let say, iam far superior than other people) for time being during the unavoidable circumstances.
Any way, one has to take deep dive to improve confidence, otherwise nothing will change.
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very nice post!
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I always remember that I am the only me and no one else can possibly understand the workings of how I came to decide what to do. If they don't understand or like what I have chosen, that is their problem, not mine. I have done my best and that is success. I am in this world to do just that!
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Motivational and true words. I struggled with confidence and being positive with a lot of things in life for a while, but over the last few years it has been getting a lot better and I am living a positive life, believing more in myself and getting to where I need to be.
Thank you for sharing this advice!
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I am really happy that you are approaching life with such positive thoughts !!!. As we grow older, we get wiser.
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Definitely, especially if we learn from our lessons taught in life and from mistakes.
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I agree, standing on a building - above all other people gives you this kind of weird confident feeling and it's not even that you are suddenly feeling king of the world, but your primal beliefs are getting boosted :)
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