How to Handle Criticism Like a Pro

We criticise more than we think because we are unaware of what is going on inside ourselves. We rarely realise we criticise freely.

Why do people criticise? Because she often unknowingly repeats what she thinks to herself to him. Each judgement we think or say about others reflects what we dislike about ourselves. Our ego tells us we never act that way, so we rarely even realise we're criticising ourselves.

Example: Mary criticises her sister-in-law to anybody who will listen about her appearance, house mess, and temper. She criticises her carelessness and anger. Marie will say she is not like her sister-in-law when asked if she criticises herself. Honestly, she forces herself. Part of her thinks it's bad to be negligent in her looks or home.

She thinks being patient and smiling makes her a nice person and makes her more appreciated. She lives by her childhood lessons. But at what cost? Marie probably wants to be thoughtless or impatient and angry. She doesn't know,

Due to unfairness and rejection that require her to be perfect, Mary is oblivious of her influence over her life. To avoid pain, rejection drives us into denial. Her ego guides her behaviour, believing she will be adored if she meets her perfection standards.

Marie cannot control herself forever, and when she is careless and angry like her sister-in-law, she criticises herself. She swiftly forgets these events, preferring to hide, deny, or make excuses. Her ego makes her think she's different from her sister-in-law.

Mary will lose control more often since we all have boundaries. If this happens, she'll criticise herself more. She doesn't realise that efforts to prevent it only make it happen again.

If you find yourself in this scenario, you may wonder: What to do?

All criticism shows self-hatred and non-acceptance. Love yourself is allowing oneself to be human, with vulnerabilities, faults, wounds, fears, etc. This is the only way to get more. Mary will find it simpler to be what she wants if she lets herself be thoughtless and angry. Because her ego keeps her from perceiving her carelessness and anger, she will be astonished when she asks others.

If we could see the energy we lose when we criticise ourselves or others, we would think. We would do anything to accept each other, not criticise. Instead than wasting energy on criticism, which never works, we should focus on creating what we desire. More criticism reduces life change. As we accept, it transforms.

Remember that others reflect us. They always reflect us, just like the mirror does.

We will squander time criticising until we accept this big reality. We all desire to notice others' good and bad qualities without condemning them. Criticising someone for having a terrible character is different from noticing and accepting it. Noticing it is observing a condition of being in another or ourselves without wanting to change it. We're on Earth to learn to accept our positive and undesirable traits.

Thus, we must allow ourselves time to recognise our dangerous habits by observing their negative effects. This attitude decreases when we grow aware of it and tell ourselves we couldn't have done otherwise and would succeed one day. Thus, our ego's belief weakens.

Why modify the others? The consequences of their conduct fall on them. Just be grateful that someone helps you see a part of yourself you didn't want to see.

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