Obviously, things can change... You reached a big personal goal: getting married, starting a new job, being healthy, travelling a lot, and investing in real estate. That's great! It also makes you feel dizzy. What should I expect?
But you learn that success isn't just about the goal; it's also about the journey, which was fun.
When you fall in love, get your dream job, get better, or go on the trip of a lifetime, you might have a certain thought. What will happen next? What will happen next? You're uncomfortable and worried about how to keep your gains safe and move on.
There is still a fear of loss, abandonment, and rejection, even though a new job, love, health, resolving a disagreement, and a place to live can be very exciting at the moment. It looks like you are holding on to something important, useful, and desirable.
But this attachment has made you mentally dependent and stopped you from growing as a person. You've slowed down your job growth by taking on smaller tasks. You put up with bad behaviour in a poisonous relationship.
You feel like you need to move forward, adapt, get past problems, care for others, or change. You want to grow, change, and see things in a new way.
If you change this careful balance you've built, it seems to lead to a full metamorphosis. The climb was tough and needed both mental and physical strength. Why should you doubt everything now?
You have three choices, like a skilled climber, after you've celebrated your successes and thought about your journey:
- Stay in charge and don't go down the hills.
- Have fun flying, but think about the risks. Get out of your comfort zone and have fun with new things.
- Take a slow fall in the opposite way. As you plan your next move, be sure to enjoy the view from a different angle.
Moving towards being open...
These last two options point to a middle ground. To make changes, you need to be sure of yourself, take risks, and have faith!
It doesn't matter how often your friends, family, and coworkers tell you to "move on!" You think it's impossible to step down, leave a partnership, part ways, end a marriage, grow, go through a transition, take on new responsibilities, or find new chances.
I can see why you think this will be bad. Because we feel more at ease in places we know. But how do we deal with fear? Not sure about her ability to give advice? Is it?
I'd love to talk with you about ways I can help you change your life. I will teach you how to handle change instead of controlling it in this class. There will be a new way of looking at letting go.
Being in control could stop you from growing, but being in power lets you take chances. Don't forget that every day brings joy, even when things are hard.