A Safe Existence (managing the risks)

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)

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© Westley Nash (2018)


The first time we fear the water is usually the first time we realise that we can drown in it. This is because on a survival aspect we are built to learn from our experiences, and so if a stressful or traumatic experience tells us that something is hazardous, then our natural instinct is to get as far away from it as possible (and to stay away from it) rather than risk exposing ourselves to further danger; henceforth we fear it. But then you have to wonder:

"How is it that we can still swim in the water,
even knowing we could drown?"

I myself hold a certification in Health & Safety and having seen all that I have concerning risk and consequence, I can tell you that nothing can be considered as 100% safe! Yes you can put all the safety measures and controls in place that you want, but for the majority of processes there will always be a “residual risk” left to contend with. So in the end, Health & Safety is often more about managing risk, as opposed to simply eliminating it. Now of course, I’m talking mostly from a workplace aspect, but I have also found that the same exact principle can apply to our daily lives as well.

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Consider all of us here on this planet: When you really think about it, as a species we are completely at the mercy of the elements. This is because the planet is a system in action and so goes through natural cycles, minute by minute, second by second, and while for the most part it remains fairly stable, on occasion these cycles can result in an extreme circumstance taking place, creating something devastating and catastrophic for all life here on Earth. Natural disasters such as Hurricanes, Tornados, Earthquakes, Forest Fires, Drought (to name but a mere few) are the many shocking displays of the planet's power that we are simply unable to match.

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The same goes for our own daily cycles too, such as when we travel to work, visit the shops or socialise. Like it or not, we are all at an increased risk of being involved in an accident, attack or altercation, maybe an emergency situation or some other unexpected event every single time we venture out into the world. Such events are mostly outside of our control but are still more than capable of severely injuring us, or resulting in our death. If you think that’s scary, what about the involuntary biological cycles occurring within our own bodies right this very second? For in this regard we are all at risk (some more than others) of suffering sudden and potentially fatal illness, disease, infection, tumours, haemorrhages, heart attacks and a whole host of other things that are once more out of our control, but that can go on to cause us suffering or even death!.. I know, morbid right? ;-) But the point I’m making here is that despite knowing all of this, you will still be out there in the world, working, shopping and socialising. You will still go about your daily lives without hesitation, even with these risks present. Why? Because in a realistic world we cannot hope to live well if we constantly fret and stress about all of the dangerous things that might happen to us, we can only live our lives as best we can; and whether we know we are doing it or not, the main way in which we are achieveing this is through Risk Management.

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To help protect ourselves from the hazards posed by the planet, we design and develop processes for monitoring the weather, constructing “early warning systems” that better help us predict the formation of natural disasters and to alert people of the danger. We also create emergency procedures able to evacuate the population of a city, with systems intended to provide support and protection to those at risk; these include the provision of food, resources and medicines, plus water to help extinguish fires or for drinking. In our daily cycles we have the Police patrolling the streets and the Armed Forces identifying possible threats to society. We invent new vehicles all designed to provide added safety to both the driver and pedestrians; not to mention the many safety systems used by both public and private organisations that we interact with on a regular basis. We also establish laws and regulations that encourage people to follow the rules which can (in some way) help reduce the likelihood of crimes being committed. The same goes for our biological cycles, where we aim to keep ourselves fit and healthy with exercise and a balanced diet. We visit the doctor for regular checkups or when we feel unwell, so that if something potentially hazardous is taking place within, then we can hopefully gain an early jump on it and take positive action.

That being said, even here one could argue that we still have no real safety, because what if a natural disaster occurs so fast and unexpected that the early warning system has no time to react; or even worse the system fails entirely? What if a serious threat evades our scrutiny and a terrorist attack takes place? What if we find that we have a disease that cannot be cured or that we found it too late and cannot do anything about it?.. (I know, back with the morbid thinking).. Well yes, as I’ve already said, nothing is ever 100% safe, but just because we cannot establish “absolute” safety, it doesn’t mean we have to give up living for fear of dying. Because the way I see it is that being able to see through the illusion of absolute safety is in fact our greatest power! For when we embrace the reality we can finally start to adapt and overcome the challenges we face in order to thrive and to prosper.

In Health & Safety it’s said that most people are ignorant of a hazard until that hazard is either pointed out to them, or if they suffer consequences because of interacting with the hazard (bumped by a car while crossing the road without looking for example). Particularly in the latter you will find that once you are aware of it, then you will remain aware of it for the rest of your life as the experience has been written into your memory to improve your ongoing survival. But either way, we then take steps to manage the risks to hopefully avoid an injury taking place. However, if this remains as a single action, if the hazard is not constantly monitored while moving forward, then we can in fact cause a highly ironic twist; in that we fall straight back into the very same illusion of safety we are trying to escape. This is because we grow complacent! We assume that because we have identified the risks, understood the hazard and put protective controls in place (the early warning systems and the health checkups etc.) that we are now perfectly safe. But once more I shall say it, that nothing is ever 100% safe due to the residual risks and so we have simply replaced one potential danger with another. Therefore I live by the rule that when it comes to operating machinery, the very second you feel completely comfortable and unafraid of it, that is the very same second that you are more at risk of injury from a machine than ever. Because you have stopped being consciously aware of the risks and you have stopped seeing the hazards as a danger; you are stuck in an illusion.

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One of the reasons that the illusion of safety is so problematic is that deep down we want to believe! We desire to feel safe and secure, because the reality of an unsafe and unpredictable world scares us and fills us with anxiety, so we naturally gravitate towards anything that helps to alleviate that fear; including an illusion. But my belief is that we shall stand a significantly higher chance of survival when we open our eyes to that harsh truth, because when we accept the world as being unsafe, we actively begin to identify it’s dangers and highlight the threats posed, all of which help us to put in place more effective systems and measures to better help protect against them. While an illusion may feel more inviting, it doesn’t eliminate the risks, it only blinds us to their presence and so puts us at greater risk of catastrophic consequences; as the age old adage states “you can’t solve a problem by burying your head in the sand.”

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So in finishing, I will finally answer the question that I asked at the very start: How is it that we can still swim in the water even knowing we could drown? Well I would say that we acknowledge the danger and so find a safer venue (such as a public swimming pool) and learn to swim properly and effectively. Even then we continue to respect the hazards posed by listening to advice and learning when and where not to swim. In short... We learn to manage the risks...

#thoughtsofsteel


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Its crazy, I hadn't realized other people fall into this illusion as well. I used to see it like, the world is my play ground and I refuse to let anything scare me out of going where I want to go or doing what I want to do. I also hold a lot of value in the phrase "benefit of the doubt" So the combination of these mindsets has only shown me darkness. I've learned the hard way that illusions are just that. So I stay inside haha because every single time I leave my house something crazy happens and all I can see is evil.
This part in particular was really inspiring (: I'm very glad I read this post.

"being able to see through the illusion of absolute safety is in fact our greatest power! For when we embrace the reality we can finally start to adapt and overcome the challenges we face in order to thrive and to prosper."

It's part of our nature. A general Human trait of threat assessment that becomes blinded by our other general trait of seeking safety; one that ironically sees us run towards the very thing we should avoid. It could be that we see something in these people and mistake it for something else. We see their bad sides but convince ourselves that we will always be unaffacted by them because this person cares about us.

For example, I had a friend years ago who was a very aggressive person, always fighting and getting uptight about things. He would attack other people if they angered him, and was so unstable that pissing him off could be as little as laughing in his general direction at an ill timed moment. As such people tended to leave him alone for his reputation for toxic behaviour. But we considered this great for ourselves (me and my other friends) because if he went with you to one of the rough pubs or bars in town, people avoided you the same way; kind of like he was your own private bodyguard or something and so you felt relatively safe. But then one day he got so drunk that he attacked one of my friends for saying something totally trivial but that he took the wrong way, really injuring him quite badly and suddenly you don't feel very safe around him anymore; because next time it could be you he attacks! The illusion of safety was broken..

I think to my ex-girlfriend, having been very self-analysing since that time, I can see how I saw in her what I believed was care and love. This was because she was very attentive, very (at the time) supportive and made me feel like the center of the universe. There were aspects of her persona that actually contradicted this belief but that I chose to ignore because I wanted to believe the illusion; because it felt so good. But I soon came to see that illusion break when she revealed that all she really wanted was some short lived, "no-strings-attached" excitement and fun. Clearly she thought she saw something in me that made her believe I could provide that, but I couldn't as at that time I as seeking something a little more substantial. So inmany ways it's as if we both fell victim to our safe illusion ;-)

I absolutely know the type, so short tempered and insecure they think everyone is laughing at them. You sound like youre describing my ex 😂😂😂 except he was a pussy when it came to fighting men. He always had to grab a brick or something.

The first thing that came to my mind upon reading your post was all the times I've left my house to go on an adventure. I get on a bus full of strangers, sit in the back and avoid talking to anyone. But when they speak to me, I have to respond. If I don't, I feel guilty and have also noticed, some people go berserk when they're ignored so I engage in conversation. I can sense the danger in it everytime. My problem is, I can't say no. I can do it once, MAYBE twice. But if you ask me a third time I will most likely agree.

My number one problem is getting into strangers vehicles. They'll see me walking and pull over, offer me a ride, I decline... 5 minutes later they come back and say something along the lines of "I don't bite. Let me give you a lift" and I think, give 'em the benefit of the doubt, maybe he's a sincerely kind person. And within seconds usually, my illusion's shattered by them touching me or being too pushy, and now I'm alone in a moving vehicle with a potential predator. It happens almost everytime. And regardless of how many times I've learned that it's fucking stupid, I still get in the vehicle because I don't want to see evil in everyone. I want to believe that people can be good. But so far all I've found is garbage and sex offenders.

We have to take risks in order to thrive or we will stay in the same place forever. So when I'm offered a job as an assistant photographer, I want to take it. But reason tells me that no serious photographer would ask for an inexperienced young women to be their assistant unless there was something in it for them... Some sort of alterior motive. Most likely sex. Ive learned that people don't do anything for anyone unless there's something in it for them. Men especially, I've realized only want sex. No matter what the situation is, most often the offer they put on the table is only put there in hopes of eventually getting laid. It's pathetic but true. There's no safety net for me anymore and I miss it. I loved my illusions. I wasn't ready for adulthood. Lol

The world is fucking terrifying.

I can't help but agree. I see too many guys acting like something out of "Mad Max" these days, it's disgraceful really... I've always held myself to a sense of personal honour, in that I am accountable to myself, by treating people respectfully, as equals and in general, exactly how I would like to be treated.

I too dislike that I see only the toxicity in people, rather see the goodness. But like you say, after you've been bitten so many times it's rather difficult to avoid seeing the teeth! I can be somewhat distrustful of people too (even those who come across as very kind and sincere) because many of the people I suffered from the most were exactly that to start with. It's almost as if once they think they have you, then the real person makes an appearance and it can become a bit of an ordeal.

I suppose in the end we perhaps need to become more aware of the risks we pose to ourselves, as in how we are prone to certain reactions and impulses and then learn to manage those risks accordingly; to make allowances for them. Otherwise we could become the greatest hazard to ourselves.

Right! Exactly. Much of the charmers are just psychopaths anyway. I can never tell anymore. I still tend to see the best in everyone, and its a major problem for me because I stay in denial until its 100% proven that they have bad intentions. I refuse to believe that all men are sex driven but it's hard when basically every man proves it to be true. But still, I trust too much and like you said, become the greatest hazard to myself.
I agree 100% knowing yourself well is essential to successful risk management.
So far I've learned I'm better off inside because I'm an adventurer and adventurers take too many risks when theyre on their own. Whether it be following a stranger expecting friendship or getting in a car expecting a ride and nothing more. It just never works out the way you want it to. I suppose that's all part of the adventure but it's terrifying and some day I won't make it back, and even if I do, mentally I'll be more fucked up than I already am haha
But youre right, knowing the evil is important even if it shatters your perfect illusions. Its necessary. Maybe now I'll stop resenting my boyfriend for pointing out the darkness in everything and destroying my delusions. Now I've just gotta figure out how to manage my risks based on everything I've learned because I can't spend my life never leaving the house 😂
You're a fantastic writer, you've started a huge train of thought I'll be riding on all week. I'm sorry for all my absurdly long comments. I hope you don't mind the conversation (:

Don't worry, we all find our way in our own time; and in our own style :) Sounds to me that you are on the right track for sure.. Thank you most kindly indeed :) Not at all, healthy conversation is always a good thing in my book.

I think about this often. Life is all about balanced risk management. Well done.

One has to take a step further back and consider the Earth as well. We are fairly certain Earth has been hit by an asteroid before. Every so often they report in the news on a city sized asteroid that will rip by closer than the moon. In terms of space that is a very close call!

Like they say no one gets out alive. The universe is programmed to kill us by any means necessary. Live your life and be thankful for every day.

The universe is certainly an unrpredictable place; well for us at least, one hopes the universe knows what it's doing ;-) Totally with you on that, we are alive now and so we live now; tomorrow is not assured.

I agree, we could be at risk at any given time. If we let that over come us, we would live in constant fear.

Heights and snakes are still on my 'I hate them' list but I have everything else under control. lol

We all have something that we struggle to overcome, fear wise ;-) Mine's clasutraphobia, always struggled with that one. But indeed, we cannot allow the fear of what might happen stop us from enjoying what is :)

I hold to a particular idea of karma. Meaning the energy we generate through thought and action attracts certain situations and people to us. Meditation and the ability to clear the mind will unveil more instinctive knowledge about people and allow one to become apt at reading the energetic 'charge' of a situation. Managing risk management creates a calming and confident energy and risk is indeed managed. A little bit different from how others go along ... but it does keep me out of harm's way:)

We each have our ways :)