How many of us treat passing moments of our existence (that by their very nature are passing us by in a fleeting exchange) as if they are in fact a permanent fixture? It’s true that sometimes our world can find a period of prolonged stability, where for the most part the basic flow of our lives seem relatively unchanged and predictable, to the point where we almost struggle to imagine them any other way. Sadly though, this is when complacency can creep in, where we quickly fall into our daily routines and to our detriment take everything and everyone for granted. For a simple example, we may say “It’s eight o’clock on a Thursday, so it’s time to watch my favourite TV program like I always do.” But then we automatically assume that next week on Thursday at eight o’clock we will be doing the exact same thing. Also, how many times do we think of meeting up with our friends or family, but then decide to cancel; presuming that we will easily see them some time next week? But despite this momentary stability, the fact is that life is as unpredictable and uncertain as ever. So it’s possible that this time next week your entire world could be unrecognisable!
It doesn’t take as much as you might think for your life to change drastically, because it’s not so much the world that changes, rather our perception of it. So if you compare your perception of the world to a structure, all you need to do is remove the supporting pillars and the entire bulk of the building comes crashing down under it’s own weight. In my experience, it only needs for those important people or important things that give your life it’s familiarity to fall away suddenly and without warning, and your existing perception of life comes crashing down. Because when someone who is very close to you, a person who is such a huge part of your daily life passes away it creates an emptiness within, a feeling that causes you to reflect heavily upon the past, replaying all the memories you hold of that person with whom you spent so much of your time. From this new vantage point you can now see how even the most mundane and incidental moments you had together were all uniquely singular moments of fleeting engagement and so were in fact irreplaceable!
Speaking for myself, I came to realise that every single moment is precious, and that nothing (no matter how repetitive it may seem) is ever certain; that tomorrow is never guaranteed. However, when you tell people who have never been witness to such a change of perception, they often accuse you of being dramatic or just plain morbid. But as far as I see it, if I’m being anything particular, it’s just me being honest. When my Father died, I watched first hand how something that once felt so very safe and secure (and that I all too often took for granted myself) collapse all but overnight, and so from out of that toppled perceptive structure, a new perception was erected in it’s place. Only this time, I have become exceedingly more aware of it’s weak points. But if you still believe I’m being dramatic or morbid, then that’s fine too, as I used to think exactly the same. I remember many people telling me to enjoy my youth and make the most of those I value while I could, as they wouldn’t be around forever. But in the end all I could ever really pass on is to at least have as many good experiences as you can, because while the moments themselves may not last, the memories they create often do....
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I lost my dad too. I used to think he was invincible when I was a kid. I do have the memories, yes, I still have the memories.
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So sorry to hear that David... I know what you mean, that strong and dependable figure in your life, like an immovable rock you can take strength from, then suddenly they are gone and your whole life changes. I suppose the memories are the one true blessing in that at least they remind us of how we were fortunate to have known them :-)
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It's hard for us to value things as they come, because so much is always happening. And, like you said we always believe that there will be more. It's only when things are taken away from us, things that really matter, that we get the impression of how much they really do keep us together. Like thinking about death...we never really want to do it. Good post :)
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Absolutely true, we will always have a tendency to take things for granted (I wonder if it's simply a human trait) and though it would be great to live everyday as if it were our last, to focus with that same zest for accomplishment, on a practical basis we would likely drive ourselves insane lol ;-) I think the best thing is to simply live as we desire, but always bearing in mind that the people we know and love are only with us for a limited time, so if the opportunity presents to enjoy a moment with them, then it could pay to consider seizing that moment :-)
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I have this feelings most of the time to rather not get attached to protect myself from hurt and loss. I would rather build me my own foundation and walls so when I crash down, it's only me being in the process, not hurting anyone because as you mentioned, tomorrow is never guaranteed. However, there's the realization that that is not possible because the ground you will build yourself up consists of people who guide you. They are the foundation to which you can stand and build yourself.
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